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If you cheat on your Wife is it better to tell her or to break up with her? lol...
Publish6246
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My friend has this problem.... lol jks...
I just got back from a night out and cheated on my wife by mistake, sex seemed sooo great at the time but now seeing her and it's like, i feel guilty. I'm thinking about breaking up with her anyways but do you reckon it's a good idea to tell her aswel or just leave it in my brain for the rest of my life?
I don't brelieve in God so no moral issues lol.
edit: btw srry bout the english, been drinking... guinness ftw.
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I have no experience in this field, but to avoid conflict its best not to tell her...
And try weed as an alternative to alcohol so you wont have this problem in the future.
I hope some day we can all put aside our racisms and prejudices and just laugh at people
It was no mistake you know wat you was doing haha... well you can tell her and she will be upset and maybe want to stay with you ro somthing like dat or you can keep it quite and never tell her and you could just break up with her if you dont want to be with her so your choice choose wisely .
-In memory of Laura "Taera" Genender. Passed away on Aug/13/08-
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If you choose to break up with her, tell her why. She deserves to know your real reasons. I would suggest telling her no matter what, but it may or may not be "easier" just to stay silent. In the end, all that matters is whether or not you can look in the mirror and live with the day's choices.
And if you are considering silence, consider this, if she finds out on her own about this incident, and/or it happens again, her feelings and trust in you are going to be impacted far more negatively than if you owned up to your mistake.
No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.
Hemingway
So, man up! Tell her what happened. Talk about it. Then you two can figure out what to do about it.
Hell, maybe she is into women or swinging and you can both go out looking for people to hook up with. Ya never know.
Your argument is like a two legged dog with an eating disorder...weak and unbalanced.
I have never seen that before , I mean I have seen people forced bt never tricked because some one was nice. But anyway it all depends on how long you have ben married. If its under a year then go to the court house and have it undone, if it is more then keep it to your self because if you tell her and then want a divorce you will be paying out your ass.
Oh and being only 22 doesnt mean a thing , other then being over 18 there is no set age that says you should or shouldnt be married.
Because it is worth it.
The second thing you need to do is wipe out the smug crap you're pulling. You cheated on your wife, this isn't a damn game. That you even consider not telling her is spineless enough. You feel a little guilt, that's the appropriate response. Anything else you feel is irrelevant. Maybe you should consider the relationships you're in, you seem a little insensitive about casting off the woman you've married. If you do get a divorce I'd recomend not getting married so damn quickly next time.
The third thing is, it wasn't a mistake. You can pull that crap ass excuse that you were drunk, but we both know you could have stopped at any time. You wanted to do it, you did it, it doesn't matter if you were drunk or weren't. The sin is yours, the burden is yours. Tell your wife at once, deal with the consequences.
Be a man.
You obviously arent mentally mature enough to be married. You clearly dont love her enough to be married, drunk or not, if you loved her you wouldnt have cheated on her. Im guessing she is a similar age to you, cut her the biggest break of her life and tell her so she can divorce you and get over the rejection and pain. If you have any respect for her and yourself, give her the chance to get on with her life and find someone who can truly commit to her.
If you find any of this in anyway amusing then you truly are a moron.
Jesus Christ, why don't you come save my life.
Open my eyes and blind me with your light
and your lies.
well.. um.. wow... thanks, I wasnt aware my posts stood out from some of the more vocal and frequent posters.
Ta muchly
Guilt is sooooooooo 1990s, its simple tell your friend the more he cheats the less guilt he will feel, and then all will be fine. I do not see anything wrong with getting your cake and eating it too.
You forgot to point out that those who get AND eat their cake on too regular a basis run a very huge risk of choking on it.
You forgot to point out that those who get AND eat their cake on too regular a basis run a very huge risk of choking on it.
Yep, the more cake you eat the more you choke... Logic... You missed that it depends on how FAST you eat the cakes. If you eat too many cakes too fast you are certainly gonna choke, but if you keep it to one cake per day you won't choke.
To op: I'd say talk to her and see how it turns out.
"Her dad tricked him into it" lol... good one.
Good story OP
Tell her.
You already wrong her. It is her right to choose to break this relationship or to keep it going. Breaking up with her would be crual as she would not understand and you would be hiding from your responsabilities by keeping her in the dark. She has a right to know, and to decide what will happen next. It is her right now to forgive or to be vindicative.
- "If I understand you well, you are telling me until next time. " - Ren
-In memory of Laura "Taera" Genender. Passed away on Aug/13/08-
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If the poster was truly married I highly doubt he would come here to say he cheated and practically brag about it.
If you really ARE married, which I highly doubt.
Wipe that smug off your face like one of the previous posters said. There is nothing to be proud of for cheating.
This is obviously a bait thread and I wouldn't be surprised if the OP has never been married or even had a serious relationship with anyone.
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If the poster was truly married I highly doubt he would come here to say he cheated and practically brag about it.
If you really ARE married, which I highly doubt.
Wipe that smug off your face like one of the previous posters said. There is nothing to be proud of for cheating.
This is obviously a bait thread and I wouldn't be surprised if the OP has never been married or even had a serious relationship with anyone.
Ask yourself this, in the end, does it really matter if he had been telling the truth?
He asked for advice on a very serious situation. Whether or not the OP was serious about it, it deserves a serious answer.
No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.
Hemingway