REALLY need some help here!

Hi, im looking for a game with the following.....

1. Good graphics

2. very fast and large explosion (aoe) type combat (ex. cabal, 2moons) i love to know when your doing an attack everyone can see and say "wow"

3. PVP, that has a lot of skill involved to it.

4. rare items, armors, weapons, that are upgradable. I hate haveing the same crap as everyone else.

5. a good hacker-prevention system (anti bots and so on)

6. Party and raiding friendly game (more exp in party and so on)

GAMES PLAYED:

-maplestory (liked it but wayy too repetitive and nothing to do but grind)

-rakion (loved the gameplay...but wasnt mmorpg)

-AOC (great graphics...no cool attacks...nothing sparkled to me...got boreing very quick)

-2moons (movement sucked balls, crashed my comp a lot...dont ask me why, otherwise it was pretty awesome

-cabal (sweet fighting, nothing to do but grind, too many bots)

-lotro (boreing)

-KOL (this has the award of holding my attention the longest...was one of thier most devoted players...loved the game but.....passed new crap that you can buy your way to max lvl...EXTREMELY GAY! (ex. heres 50$ make me lvl 80...max lvl) otherwise i reate this game #1