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Newbie Player Keeps Trying to Tell Me What to Do!
Majestico
Member UncommonPosts: 481
Just thought I would tell you folks about a situation which has arisen in my favourite MMO. The person concerned is a really nice person, so I shall not disclose the game or names so that nobodies feelings get hurt.
This situation, which I suppose is quite funny, is actually beginning to get on my nerves, and I find myself not logging into my favourite game, on the basis that he might also be online.
Here's what the situation is.
I've been into MMO's for a few years now, and whilst I am far from being a great player, after all this time, I do understand the core mechanics which most of these games share, and also the terminology that goes along with them.
A few months ago, I started a new game, and it quickly became my number one MMO. I joined a kin, and things were great. As it was a new game, I was learning the ropes, as we all have to do, but once you know your way in a few MMO's, it is quite easy to pick up and learn the nuances of a different game.
Now, I became friends with an older player. Older in years that is, as he is in his fifties. That is by the by, and does not bother me in the slightest. His character is also 7 levels above mine. Not a great difference, but the problem is that because his character is higher in level, he thinks he understands the game more than me. In actual fact, this is his first MMO, and he has yet to understand how these games work. Core principles such as Tanking (as his character is, yet he does not think wearing armour offers him benefit!), and keeping aggro from the rest of the party (he pulls linked mobs, and then does not understand about keeping the aggro on him!), are just a couple of concepts he has yet to learn.
I do not mind that he is a newbie, as we all have been there. However, he thinks that he knows how to play properly (being that he played Oblivion!!) and he continues to try and tell me what to do at every juncture! I have tried everything to try and let him know that he does not really know what he is talking about (he thinks my cloth wearing class can tank for example, which it can't).
Don't get me wrong, he is very friendly, and everytime I log on he wants to form a group. The trouble is, I find myself constantly trying to think of excuses not too! And even when I subtly try and hint that I am busy, or that I do not want to group, he will still persist in inviting me! So invariably I get roped into grouping, and then he'll make some basic error which means that we get wiped. And then he will think that it is my fault!! Always along the lines of something like 'not too worry, next time try and do this,' or something to that extent!
I really do not want to hurt the guys feelings, he is really enjoying his MMO experience, and I don't want to be a jerk about it. However, I have tried to explain to him. However, when I do try to tell him something, he will reply with something like; 'er..not quite'. Here's just an example. The other night he wanted to go into this instance which I had not been to before. Suspecting that it was too tough for just the two of us, (and bear in mind he is 7 levels above me, which he does not understand the difference), I told him that there were probably elites in there, and we would need more people. 'er...not quite' as usual the answer. Of course as soon as we enter, the first battle is with two elites, and wiped. So I ended up logging out.
I don't know what to do, as I still would like to be his friend, but just not to group with. I am thinking off waiting until his level is so much higher than mine that I can say there is no point grouping together, but even when mobs are greyed out (another thing he does not understand), he still wants to come along so he can help me. As I said, he is a kind and generous person, but it's an annoying situation!
Comments
Listen to your elders, you young whipper snapper.
It's kind of you to humor him, but if he is ruining your game experience, at some point you just have to cut the cord.
Don't be afraid to be blunt with him, just do it in a nice way, like this: "Look, I think you're really cool and all, but frankly, most of the time, you're full of baloney. If you don't believe me, ask X (who is a level 50 of his class with all the best gear in the game)"
Or, if you want to be more subtle about it, get some of your kinmates (hmm, what game could it be) to come along, especially if they are higher level, and get them to tell him a thing or two about how to play. If he thinks level = experience, maybe he'll listen to them.
Other than that, all I can say is, /ignore him.
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im to lazy too use grammar or punctuation good
Well, I know the game. It is a good game, and I participate as well. I have had a similar situation, and I let it happen without a word. Eventually the person figured it out on his own. He is quite a good player at his class, and even more fun to fellow with now.
Being more experienced doesn't always mean to show and teach others, but to sometimes have more patience with others. Not everything learned can be taught, and not everything taught can be learned. He sounds like an experience player. If it becomes too unbearable, get him to play an alt of your class. As he levels, he will start to see things differently.
Like the poser before me said: Let him wear your shoes for a little while
He should pick up pretty fast that clothy's do not take damage.