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I need some serous help :-(
gizma99k
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Hey,
Its me Gizma99k!!!! 
I'm having trouble will bullys.... they arent hurting me well.... because i am the bully and i need help 
I' m always making fun of my friends and i need to stop can someone seriously help me 
thanks
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Here's my advice for what it's worth.
A lot of people fall into the trap of thinking that if they put other people down, they'll feel better about themselves. It's a bad habit to pick up, and a common one, and it never works.
You need to think about why you don't feel good about yourself in the first place, then get angry about it, then get upset about it, then forgive yourself and put it in the past.
Any problem will always have a beginning and a middle, but only an end if you solve it.
I'm sorry I can't give any real good advice; I was neither a victim or a bully.
However I remember one story when I was a junior in high school. I was in my trigonometry class on the first day of school and in comes this raggedy red haired freshman kid. You could tell he was the ladies man in Junion High school and got whatever he wanted at home. I paid him no mind until the day he pissed me off...
He sat next to me and started making fun of me. Which blew my mind away as noone had really made fun of me before. At first it was comical then it got to be darn right annoying.
By the second week, I took his backpack (in the middle of class) then proceeded to take his books and other supplies from his backpack. We were situated in the back corner of the room so the teacher really didnt know hat I was up to...plus I was pretty stealthy.
I took his books and stared at him. Saying "if you stop me Ill throw you out that back window. Ive been in Juvey for killing my next door neighbor when I was 11 and Ill do it again." (of course I was lying..but he believed me)
I proceeded to rip every page from his book...every single page. And I did it slow enough where it hardly made any noise. By the end of the class I had ripped 6 textbooks, destroyed his folders, ripped up any form of important homework assignements, broke every pencil, and smeared ink all over his nice Jansport backpack.
At the end of the class, I stuffed all his "books" back into his backpack and gave it back to him. From what I understood, he didnt bother anyone else for 4 years.
People who have to create conspiracy and hate threads to further a cause lacks in intellectual comprehension of diversity.
Enigma you pyscho lol
That kid mustve done something pritty bad to you im guessing cause what you did to him is just straight up nasty lol.
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That my friend, was a WONDERFUL story!!
I am not sure how I can really help, but I will try my best.
First off, when you mess around with your friends, how do they interpret it? Do they get pissed, or laugh it off with you?
Has anyone before in your past been mean to you, and you in turn have a guard up now where you have to be the 'tough' guy?
You really need to re-evaluate what friendship means to you if you are indeed hurting your friends, whether it be physically or mentally. You have to learn to talk to your friends, and express to them and yourself why you do the things you do. If it is something they do that irritates you, let them know. That way, you are not harsh with them if they do something that may annoy you. I am sure you have met enough people to know that there are those of which you can joke/play around with and those who don't take things of that caliber as lightly as others. You have to learn to compromise with your friends if they take things you do to heart when you deep down do not mean it. You need to learn your limits of joking around if it hurts them, before you do major damage to your friendship(s) and may cause them to disintegrate.
Really, you need to learn to think before you speak. I hope you figure out what it is that makes you do things that you are not happy with. Try sitting down and talking to someone and find out what is deepdown inside you that makes you do the things you do. Learn from your mistakes, do not repeat them. If you do something and you than realize it wasn't wise, don't do it again, learn from it and move on.
Stupid fucks like that deserve to have their books torn apart, either that or their asses beat.
My strategy for stopping your bullying ways: Resist the urge to do something hurtful. If you sense that your next action will be hurtful in any way, just try not to do it. Once you stop doing those things for a while, it will grow on you and you won't have any urge to do it anymore...hopefully.
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LoL...I wish I would have been sitting next to you watching that one happen.
As for my past I was a victim but from a different angle. You see I learned early to not care what others think about me or say to me. Unless they do something seriously offensive or offend my beliefs, ideals, or those of whome I care most about I didn't care what they did. This seemed to provoke people to try and piss me off I guess.
In the end I was seen as the jerk and a-hole cuz I was a realistic cynacle kid that could care less about what others thought of me. lol.
I'm not sure that is the best example but here is my advice to you: lay back and take things in stride. If you tend to put people down try and figure out why. It may be something about the person that sets you off in which case it is a matter of just ignoring that. If you enjoy it or there is some deeper reason then you'll have to do some soul-searching and figure out what the problem is before you can find a solution.
"Feel free to hate me, but hate me for the right reasons."
"Your still ignorant if you believe the first thing you see when the blindfold is removed."
"Be smart enough to know I'm smarter than you."
He called me a retard lol
another thing to take note: I would have beaten the ^@$# out of hit in Gym class that day...but I have a tendancy to think too much. My high school always called the police when a fight breaks out and people always got arrested. I knew if that happened to me I would have a slightly harder chance getting into college.
So I did a more psychotic version of an ass beating. Trust me it works. If you're still in high school and thats happening to you, do it. lol it's pretty fun.
I only did it once though. Poor little guy,....he looked a little like Harry Potter's Ron Weasley but with more of a attitude lol
People who have to create conspiracy and hate threads to further a cause lacks in intellectual comprehension of diversity.
With retard getting you that riled up. I'd hate to see what you'd do to somone in a public highschool now with all the colorful language they use.
"The greatest trick the devil played on humanity in the 20th century was convincing them that he didn't exist." (Paraphrasing) C.S. Lewis
"The greatest trick the devil played on humanity in the 20th century was convincing them that he didn't exist." (Paraphrasing) C.S. Lewis
"If a mother can kill her own child, what is left before I kill you and you kill me?" -Mother Teresa when talking about abortion after accepting the Nobel Peace Prize in 1979
in junior high i learned to just to be chill. they tend to leave you alone.
Ahh but if he did to you every single day and added the Mary Had a little lamb tune behind the comment for minutes on end...you'd snap too lol
People who have to create conspiracy and hate threads to further a cause lacks in intellectual comprehension of diversity.
Ohhh. So there was humming.
Well in that case, ya, he deserved to of gotten his ass whooped.
"The greatest trick the devil played on humanity in the 20th century was convincing them that he didn't exist." (Paraphrasing) C.S. Lewis
"The greatest trick the devil played on humanity in the 20th century was convincing them that he didn't exist." (Paraphrasing) C.S. Lewis
"If a mother can kill her own child, what is left before I kill you and you kill me?" -Mother Teresa when talking about abortion after accepting the Nobel Peace Prize in 1979
What's strange is that I never became a bully myself. In 6th grade I was already 6.1" tall, and the biggest in the entire school, but I never ganged up on any kinds or anything. Strangly, to me, other kids where afraid of me and thought I'd kick there ass for unknown reasons, but really I was a 'silent giant'.
I maily kept to myself and only kicked ass if I was provoked into a fight or someting....."Remembers being hit the jaw by a kid, then picking him up and choke slaming him into the lunch room table.......teachers jumping over the table to hold me back...." Ahh, where was I?
Oh yeah, as for your bully problem gizma99k, just try to imagine yourself in your friends situation, and think how it would feel if someone called you names that really got to you so much, that you felt as a worthless person in society.
Hoped that helped a little.
You're saying you were 6,1 at the age of 11-12.
So exactly how tall are you now?
"The greatest trick the devil played on humanity in the 20th century was convincing them that he didn't exist." (Paraphrasing) C.S. Lewis
"The greatest trick the devil played on humanity in the 20th century was convincing them that he didn't exist." (Paraphrasing) C.S. Lewis
"If a mother can kill her own child, what is left before I kill you and you kill me?" -Mother Teresa when talking about abortion after accepting the Nobel Peace Prize in 1979
Right now at 18 I'm 6.6". It was all the milk I drank when I was 7 or 8. My brother and I could go through a gallion a day, maybe more.
I never had trouble with bullies since I was pretty built and I played football and boxed. But I hung out with alot of so called geeks [although I was a geek at heart too] and I know they got bullied. Best advice is to ignore them, keep doing what you like, and probably lift weights so eventually you can kick ass. Scratch that last part, maybe. Violence is not usually the answer. If all else fails, if you can't beat them, join them. You just don't have to be friends with them. All those thing counselers have said don't mean shiat. Counselers don't know anything about the teenage psyche so don't go to them for help.
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People who have to create conspiracy and hate threads to further a cause lacks in intellectual comprehension of diversity.
I've never seen a bully..lol
but if you mean yelling at people, putting them down
that's a social thing..nothing to worry about
I do it all the time, and they do it right back
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Thats because god killed all the bullies with the hurricanes.
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--Comedy and propriety... going together like Peanut Butter and Turpentine--
"Whoever controls the media controls the mind..-'Jim Morrison"
"When decorum is repression, the only dignity free men have is to speak out." ~Abbie Hoffman
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