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Poll: Did you meet your significant other online?
Teala
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OK...this is the second part of a two part question...ok.
Did you meet your significant other online? Was it in game, a chat room, a message board?
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Doing some research for something?
yea...sorta...this really has me bugged. We had this convo on the off-topc forum and someone there seems to think it is lame to start a relationship with someone online...like on a gming website messge board or in an onlinegame. So I wish to know how others feel about this.
This had me bugged enough I couldn't sleep....and I am very sleepy.
I did, but not on a gameing site or anything like that. We found eachother on an online dateing site, over 3 years ago, and we've been happily married since July '08
Cheers!
I did in an online chat community about 10 years ago and we moved in together shortly after. We still live together.
I didn't meet my wife online, but honestly we have been married almost 15 years now so there were not many online meeting places back then. I don't think there is anything wrong with meeting someone online. To each their own.
Daragoth
"War is an ugly thing, but not the ugliest of things. The decayed and degraded state of moral and patriotic feeling which thinks that nothing is worth war is much worse. The person who has nothing for which he is willing to fight, nothing which is more important than his own personal safety, is a miserable creature and has no chance of being free unless made and kept so by the exertions of better men than himself." - John Stuart Mill
I did actually, sort of.
We met on a social/dating site first. After chatting a little we realized we hung out in similar circles and knew a few of the same people. She even came to my hangout spot now and then.
So we met in person, it didn't feel odd. We had stuff in common and knew mutual acquaintances.
Things didn't work out well after the first few months, but 4 years later we gave it another shot. One without us both dating other people. >.> Got us both into hot water when we were younger. lol
This month we have been together 3 years and we're getting married May 9th. We bought a house together last year as well and life has/is wonderful. She got me back into crafting, I got her into Warcraft.
I'm not saying internet dating works, because it failed several times in the past for me and friends I know. But I think we all get the chance to meet that special someone; in the real world or online.
Needs a third option. No GF Looser IRL...and on the net
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Samuel Adams
God no....
I would never even trust some one who appears to be a kind person online. Besides you can't really get to know some ones ethics, and real personality until you see them in real life. For that Reason I find it smarter to just date and talk face to face.
it was the year 2002, I was still playing EQ1 and met another druid in our guild, She hardly spoke to me, always waved etc when I saw her and she never responded, I thought rude B!tch. Then one day she said hello as I passed her character, and we got talking. Told me she was a real girl gamer and I didnt believe her so I asked for her Phone Number to call her to prove it, since she live in the same country as I. I rang her that night and low and behold a real girl gamer, We chatted on and off for about a year via ingame emails, and phone calls and I decided to go visit her.
Well that was 7 years ago now, and we been married for 5 years.
Cheers
Tan
No.
At work and we are both computer programmers. So still geeky, but not on line.
But I have dated girls I met using an online dating service, I actually think it's a fun way to meet people.
Still waiting for the one person to post one of these:
"I met my significant other in a chat room, and when we met I got arrested. Now that I'm out I just watch her go to jr. high every morning in my windowless van. One of these days we will go on a trip to mexico...now where did I put that duct tape."
How romantic.... who says true love doesnt happen over the internet. A friend of mine, very sweet girl, met a guy over UO. Went to visit him in Canada. He got her so drunk (she wasnt even 21) that she was borderline unconcious, sexed her up, and shipped her back pregnant. End of story. Net relationships dont always have a happy story.
Me and my girlfriend met while playing EQII. It was serendipitous in the sense, during our 3-4yr run with the game, we had both quit several times out of boredom and come back. The most recent time, I had quit, gone to try this "WoW" thing and ended up coming back after a month. My old guild had absorbed a smaller guild for raiding purposes, and wouldn't you know first night back on I was invited into a cyclops grinfing group out in PoF and they told me to jump on vent.
Well that was a few years ago, and after 4months of emails, IMing, talking on the phone and of course playing online we decided to meet in person. I flew from WA to MD to meet her. 9 months later I said goodbye to friends and family to move to MD.
Now we own a house together, have 2 adorable puppies and could not be happier and this June will mark our 3rd year anniversary (although we started "seeing" each other 4 years ago via EQII).
I wouldn't say every story ends this way, ours just happened to be on of the fortunate ones, it wasn't always easy, being long distance and dealing with the scrutiny of telling our friends, "yeah I met her playing an MMORPG" but I wouldn't trade the experience for the world.
I have lots of girlfriends online and make new ones all the time. The great thing about online girlfriends is no dating or foreplay is required and there is no cuddling and discussion afterwards.
I'm always suspicious of online relationships. I wouldn't class it a 'relationship' until the two people have actually met in real life and begun dating. I'm sure others would argue with that, though.
I take the whole 'internet dating' scene with a pinch of salt. Yes it is an excellent place to get to know people, but from experience, people can be very different personalities online and in the flesh.
Personally, it is not something I would ever get involved in.
I have met 2 people I met online. Dated briefly one of them. People, unfortunately tend to be much different in person than online. But I wouldn't rule out meeting online entirely. My cousin met her perfect match online (not sure if it was in a chat room or not) and they have been married for many years now and have 2 kids.
I think you have to be very cautious when dealing with anyone online since people tend to think the anonymity of the internet gives them license to lie / cheat / steal / etc. without any consequences. It's harder to do the same types of things in person.
Interesting poll results, higher than I expected to see honestly. My last relationship started online (In a game) and ironically we didn't live too far away from each other, and when we met it was a little odd because even though we knew each other something felt different but we did begin dating but in the end it didn't work out. The problem as stated in many posts above, is that people create an anonymous identity online and as they find some one they like very much they try to whipe their slate clean but thus revealing many lies about themselves to their partner when they meet up, causes lots of tension sometimes. Yyou can't trust people online no matter what they say or act like, but in some cases it's a risk you have to be willing to take if you want to try and create a relationship.
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found the girlfriend in Everquest back in the day, she moved in 2 years ago, when the personal finances get a little better extra steps will be made in the relationship.
yea...sorta...this really has me bugged. We had this convo on the off-topc forum and someone there seems to think it is lame to start a relationship with someone online...like on a gming website messge board or in an onlinegame. So I wish to know how others feel about this.
The more options one has for finding love in this world, the more power to you, I say!
Yes, we met ingame 5 years ago moved in together 3 years ago,got our son 2 years ago and still going great.
so you're talking just the bread and butter of a hot online sex?
I'd say it's definatly possible.
Got into a 4-5year relationship from someone from another country. Which made seeing eachother difficult and rather expensive. And that was the reason I got dumped, not that we didn't match. So ofcourse, if you find someone; it can work out.
And we met eachother online, whilst gaming.
so you're talking just the bread and butter of a hot online sex?
Actually, I think he's talking about playing with himself more than anything else...
This may sound odd but if it is a situation that you are experiencing, only you can find the answer. No one here can tell you what is right or wrong.
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Anyone thinking of dating someone they met online has to be careful and practice common sense. My bf and I chatted online for quite some time, then we talked on the phone for a while, then met for a date in an place of my choosing. It was at least a year before we moved in together.
Dating people you meet in the more traditional non online ways carries risk as well.