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The positive responses are overwhelming!
I had hoped to reach out and contact other dads like myself and have!
Thank you all for your suggestions and support.
Actually I never even considered playing a computer / video games until after I had my first kid and suddenly found myself with no social life and a lot of downtime at home lol. Now, here I am 3 kids later......
I was 33 when I first "discovered" PC gaming.
There are more adult / parent gamers out there then people realize.
OP , try playing with your wife ( online that is ), works for us.
www.mmoparents.com?
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Man you really don't know the current gaming demographics do you? A HUGE portion of gamers, particularly MMO gamers, are over 30. Do you think that once you grow up, get a job, have kids, etc you are suddenly going to NOT want to play games? Although I did think the same thing back when I was young but I can almost guarentee that once you get hooked on gaming it is very very difficult to throw it away.
I'm just happy that my kids are old enough know that we can play together, really makes the games more fun too. You should bookmark this post so you can come back after you have kids are when you are over 30 and STILL playing games and on message boards so you can eat your words
I totally agree Jarlo! It just shows immaturity on the younger generations part to think that just cause you hit 30 you just shrivel up and fall off the face of gaming!
To the OP your site sounds like a really good idea and I hope that it takes off!
Hey Aseenus, I'm 35, have a 3 year old son and have been married for 7 years. I also have been playing video games since before the first Nintendo came out! Do you remember the Oddesy video game platform or the Vectrex? My younger brother and I had those before we got a Nintendo!
I worry for his offspring. There is a big difference between being a Father and being a Dad. Any male with a viable sperm count can become a father. (Well that is if they can find a woman foolish enough!) But it takes a lot of maturity and dedication to be a dad.
I remember that system! Believe I got it in 1983. My brother and I would sit in the kitchen for hours on end drinking beer razzing each other and trying to get the high score on Mine Storm while our wives were in the living room with my newborn niece. I also remember farther back when the only game to play was - - - PONG!
Having kids did not stop us from playing games. It did though change the way we played. As the kids grew we reverted to board games with them and snuck in video games after hours. It is awful to confess to wanting the wife to have a headache and go to bed early!
Back to the OP.
Good Luck on your endeavor and I will keep an eye on this site of yours. At the age of 49 i'm not sure if I can use much advice, but maybe I can offer some words on my past and have others . Then again with the 2nd wife I am now enjoying watching my girls , ages 2 + 3 and boys 6 + 13 grow. So yes with a busy life I still play and have fun. Then when it is all done I play games.
P.S. Yes OMG I am almost 50 and still play games ! ! I currently play with a group of old farts who are as old as 73 ! ! It is kinda fun to at times be in a party of 4 generations doing an instance together.
I made this website to get dads together. To get families together, to learn, laugh and be part of a mature community. I cannot believe that some people can actually say anything bad about someone trying to do good for people. /boggle
Rymdkejsaren,I take my website and what it stands for very seriously. For you to make a blanketed statement like, “I forgot the other half of parents” is ignorant.
Many wives/girlfriends do not play games with there SO’s. My site, in essence, is for them just as much as it is for Dads. If you cannot see past the sexism you posses, you will never see what my site truly stands for.
Everyone is welcome at MMO Dads! Men, women, gay, straight, short, tall, thin and fat! As long as you can be supportive of our lifestyle, that is all we ask. We want to be surrounded with positive energy. Not blanketed racist/sexist statements.
You do not have to be an alcoholic to help alcoholics. You do not have to be addicted to drugs to help people who are addicted to drugs. You don’t have to have cancer to help people with cancer. You understand?
Keltik,
When did I ever say my wife doesn’t play games with me? When did I say I have a problem?
No, I don't understand. If everyone is welcome, then why is it called mmodads.com? If it you want to surround yourself with positive energy, how come the analogies you use are about addiction and disease?
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I'm not a Dad (heaven forbid!) but am in the dad/granddad age group. I was married once. Didn't like it. However...
Some of my favorite experiences in 10 years of MMOing have been with families in the guilds/orgs I've been in and run. Have played with father/son teams, father/daughter teams, mom/daughter teams and even a mom/son/daughter team. I know one dad with a houseful of kids who keeps 4-5 accounts around so they can all play at once! It's great to see the interaction and quite humorous at times from an outsider's point of view when the kids go a little crazy and Dad has to try and get them back on track.
I've also had long talks with one Dad who's found that his son's MMO experiences have taught him a lot and calmed him down irl, where he was treading that line of going "bad".
I think it's great that there are families modern enough and young enough in their thinking to be able to game together. MMOs, at their best, are maybe the perfect place to do this. Unlike a physical sport like baseball or football, where even geeky Dad can overpower his recently-hormone-enabled children, in an MMO, folks all have an equal chance and, in fact, the reflexes and familiarity of the computers and interfaces may even give the kids an edge. For a time. And learning social skills, working together with other folks...it can be a very constructive social environment for kids. More families should spend time with their kids, of course, and if one of the ways to get the kids away from the bad spots on the net (or the even more mind-numbing, non-interactive staring at the Tube) is to play with them in MMOs, why not? You don't need to find a park, or even leave the house. You know where your kids are. AND you get to have some fun.
Bringing gaming parents together is a great idea that should be applauded. But, yeah, don't forget the mmomoms out there too. There's more of them gaming than you might think.
-- Xix
"I know what you're thinking: 'Why, oh WHY, didn't I take the BLUE pill?'"
I have stated multiple times why my site was created and why it is called MMO Dads. Let me explain it to you another way so that it will hopefully wrap around your head.
I am an MMO Dad. I am not an MMO Mom.
I made a site on a subject I am familiar with. I cannot give you suggestions on how to breast feed a baby. I cannot give you advice about having your period and being grumpy once a month in an MMO. I cannot tell you my nipples are sensitive with my teething baby. I cannot explain the bonding of motherhood while the baby is still in the womb. See, I cannot explain all these things because I have not experienced it firsthand.
What I can teach and share with you is how to be a good MMO Dad and find ways to better myself and others not only as a Dad, but as a person…no, a man as well. This I can and am doing.
Am I getting through yet?
And yes, I want to surround myself and my community with positive things. I used addiction and disease (as you put it) for more of an impact. Since you are so hell bent on being negative about my cause, let me give you better analogies to fit your mind set.
Analogies just for Rymdkejsaren:
You don’t have to be a football player to enjoy and support football.
You don’t have to be an actor to enjoy and support movies.
You don’t have to own a cat to love and support cats.
You don’t have to have children to love and support children.
You get me yet?
A member at MMO Dads has mentioned that there are many, many websites, magazines, shows and games that are non-dad centric. Most websites and magazines about parenting are mommy-centric. I agree with him.
Have you seen parents.com? It should be called mommy.com or wheresthefather.com.
Do you go to parents.com and be negative to them for all but forgetting that dads even exist?
The Dads have been forgotten since the begining of time.
It's the Dads turn to play!
Nice idea.
People have some real issues, and have nothing better to do than put down anything other people do. As in RL, those are the people that have to be negative about everything that doesn't include them, or they don't understand... same type of personality flaw as Rosie O'Donnell. Throw tantrums and putting others down to make themselves feel better, due to insecurities in life. Most often than not, these are the folks that give Police job security..(babysitting).
Heh, I dare you to guess my profession. I am not a police officer, thank goodness.
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Thanks for the heads up friend! Your site is very cool looking!
However I do not need it because I have more bandwidth than you can shake a stick at, more storage space then I know what to do with and I am paid up until 2009! Also, I did not make this site for profit.
The best thing about my host is, I can do whatever I want.
This is a site for Dads, plain and simple, no strings attached!
If you want to help us by supporting us, I made some banners for you to put in your sig!
Here are some "sliver" sigs that I just threw together. I think these will be perfect to put under your own sig. They do not take up that much space. ;D
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The top two are for LOTRO, the middle is for SWG and the last three are for WoW.
ToonTown Online by Disney is a great family MMO. Myself, my wife, and my daughter all have accounts and on the weekends spend a couple hours playing as a family. Good fun and because chat is limited to preset phrases your worry as a parent is greatly reduced.
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Wow... to the OP, this is a very bad idea.
Children have many needs and video games is not one of them.
You should be enrolling your child into as many physically or mentally stimulation activities as you can to enhance their development, not encourage them to play video games...
Your child will find video games on their own, you don't need to coax them into it... ESPECIALLY NOT MMO's!
children & especially teenagers, face alot of esteem problems & games like mmo's give them the perfect escape from real life.
I would seriously advise you take your idea to a child psychologist who can at least make you aware of some of the problems associated with the idea you have in terms of affecting your child's well being.
If you can't/won't see a profrssional, then ask yourself, how important is your child to you, really?