(undecided) Looking for Cabal(not multigame)

Ok, I've been looking forward to The Secret World for years now, since it was official announced as in progress.  I've played MMO's since 1999 and am pretty fed up with elves, pixies, dwarves, etc.   My game playing money was going to either this or World of Darkness Online and TSW was nice enough to come along with pre-orders at about the same time I felt the urge to play MMOs again after my SWTOR induced short term retirement.

I'm undecided on which faction I want to join, I see a major appeal to all 3, so my choice in faction will all depend on the cabal I end up joining.  I am not looking for a cross faction cabal with  a face in each faction, not my style personally.  

I am normally a DPS player (melee over ranged) but have been known to bust out a healer and get the job done and done well in that regard aswell.  I don't like main tanking (off tank as a high survivability dps works great for me, used to offtank as my Berserker in raids in EQ back in Citadel of Anguish).   My playtimes will be semi-sporatic.  I am a father of 3 and work shift work thru the week with rotating weekend schedules.

I'm looking for a Cabal with a laid back, casual attitude.  I'm not looking for guild chat that's all sunshine and roses, but I'm not looking for a guild full of nothing but swearing and such (I do have kids who will walk by and watch me play now and then).  Not to say I'll guildremove over the occasional outburst of profanity but it chat is all wannabe cool 16 yr olds putting in filler swears for no reason I'm gone.  I'm not one for guild chat full of "I'm so high, omfg I drank soooooooo much booze last night doesn't that make me so awesome,  learn to play you #$% @#$@% @#$% @#%@" types, I'd like to think I've out grown that crap.   I've been a raid leader, officer and occasionally guild leader in several progression guilds in EQ, WoW, L2, EQ2, Vanguard and several other games and I'm not affraid to step up when needed but nowadays I prefer a more laid back, log in to play and have fun approach to gaming.  I don't consider gaming a 2nd job anymore that's for sure, I won't do 6 day a week 8 hr a night raiding again (it was fun but I really don't have the time anymore).