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Anyone here who really enjoys mmorpgs and play at least a few hours a day but doesnt have any friend
ricsi046
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I'm just trying to find the reason why i cant enjoy the mmorpgs despite wanting to play it.I don't have any friend in any mmo(same applies for real life too sadly).So the first obvious reason could be the lack of friends in game,since i guess the game is simpy boring if you have to play with random guys who dont even greet you.
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Well what kind of games do you play OP
The first step to enjoying most of the games that I play is to get yourself involved with the community through a clan or w/e. (because I prefer PVP games)
You will have to find what kind of clans you prefer (ex: small and familylike or huge and zergy)
Waiting for:
The Repopulation
Albion Online
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I quit having "friends" in games when I quit Everquest. Now, I just bring my friends to the game I play.
Having someone to play with in-game is definitely appealing, and even more so when it is someone I actually know IRL.
Raquelis in various games
Played: Everything
Playing: Nioh 2, Civ6
Wants: The World
Anticipating: Everquest Next Crowfall, Pantheon, Elden Ring
Competition
Waiting for:
The Repopulation
Albion Online
im the same way anymore.
I had friends in games back in the day. My first game Lineage in 1998 i think had some of the best friends in game i've ever had.
in DAoC I had friends, we would have to talk while sitting in the mines waiting for a bard or whatever. If I needed some armor they would make it, if they needed it spellcrafted id do it.
in SWG i had friends id share resource loc's with, spend hours decorating our little town with, even when WoW first came out I had some good friends.
But since then I can't make any real friends in game. If you miss a day while leveling, seeya, nice knowing ya. If you don't want to hop on voice chat daily and listen to some jacktard giving verbal play by play of his quest grind that everyone else did as well, your out of the loop and ignored. You can't do anyone favors, or give that rogue you group with a drop because it will never be reciprocated anymore.
People rushing too much now, have to get one over on you, have to be better. get there fast so you can complain or brag or quit etc.
Obligatory "I Blame WOW for ruining the genre" comment.
Raquelis in various games
Played: Everything
Playing: Nioh 2, Civ6
Wants: The World
Anticipating: Everquest Next Crowfall, Pantheon, Elden Ring
Escape.
I play a lot of MMO's and don't have any friends in game. But if I wanted to I would join a social guild and take it from there as I have met some very nice and funny groups of people in guilds.
I played ESO yesterday and Skyrim later that night. The thing I realized is that I like the general activity in MMO's. I won't see a bunch of NPC's break out in dance (did once in GW and it was great) or have a chance to save an NPC who is about to be killed by taking on too many mobs yelling for help. But I will experience this with real players in an MMO and a lot of other funny little moments that RPG's just can't constantly generate.
I've never played regularly with the people I know in real life except maybe once or twice. So my gaming world is pretty separate from my RL world.
I have seen players date and even get married in real life as well as read about other players in forums who have had tragedies in their lives and have seen how the community has come together to support them.
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Yep, MMO's are my favorite genre by far, and i barely have friends in game.
There have been times when i tagged along with groups and had fun with other people but it never lasts long, i just burn out on it and go back to doing my solo thing.
It's mostly related to my lack of self confidence and history of being bullied and such, I'm not exactly a social mastermind in real life either.
Occasionally i try to be social because It's healthy, but i always get awkward and distant and let friendships degrade.
I hear and agree.
I keep hoping to reclaim even a modicum of the experience I had in DAOC , SWG, or CoH/V but every community since has been found wanting. Being a roleplayer it is even tougher. If I join a guild of nice, helpful people, the guild chatter is usually just noise. If I join a roleplay guild, you find a bunch of people who just sit around in the pubs.
If it is a new game and you miss a day, as NJ said, forget it, you are dragging behind. We used to hunt in character and take the "young 'ins" out to places where they could gain experience more rapidly, or we would create new characters to level with them, especially in DAOC. That practice is long gone. People will forge through a character until they hit max, then start again, and never consider that the people they recruit into their guilds might desire some company other than a continuous stream of chatter in guild chat.
That said, the modern paradigm of MMOs is to play solo, blab in guild chat (or even worse, on Teamspeak or something), level, and say goodnight before logging off. I'd sooner play Skyrim or Wasteland 2.
"True friends stab you in the front." | Oscar Wilde
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Just trying to live long enough to play a new, released MMORPG, playing New Worlds atm
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It probably depends on the game you play. If you play the action oriented Korean MMO, you probably won't make any real friends, since you can solo in them. There's no incentive to make friends.
It would have been inconceivable that you didn't have friends in Everquest for example.
I group with my wife and daughters.
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Can't tell if serious or April 1st...
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Same problem I had with the OP... it's what happens when we don't use emoticons... forced emoticons?
“Microtransactions? In a single player role-playing game? Are you nuts?”
― CD PROJEKT RED
O.P., et. al., this is precisely the reason I haven't played MMORPGs in years. Vanguard was my last real MMORPG, and the game was so advanced in terms of playing convenience and questing that players didn't really need to interact; and they rarely did so. I didn't make a single friend in Vanguard. Made many many friends in EQ; and keep in touch with a number of them still today, 16 years later.
I've no idea why todays players play MMORPGs. Wheres the draw?
Luckily, i don't need you to like me to enjoy video games. -nariusseldon.
In F2P I think it's more a case of the game's trying to play the player's. -laserit
Mega servers don't exactly make it easy to find friends in game. Usually, I see someone once and then never again. As much as a appreciate quicker warzone pops thanks to cross server queues, it hurts community building. I miss games like WAR where I actually knew the pvpers I killed and played with.
There are still a couple of games that are fairly social: TSW, GW2 tournament scene (if you play well enough) and some of the older games with lower population.
If you are trying to make friends, I'd suggest finding a social guild with no more than 20-30 members. You could try posting in the new/returning player forum section of whatever game you play and look for someone to group with.
I have no idea how old you are, but taking classes in something that interests you, finding a group sport you like, or volunteering are good ways to meet new people.
The creative director of WoW seems to agree with the assessment though.
http://www.wolfsheadonline.com/the-decline-of-social-interaction-in-mmorpgs/
my two real life friends that play mmos are too picky and complain too much so i play on my own 99% of the time. I always join guilds to try and stay social but after some time i still dont feel at home an i move on. The only guild i really felt good being part of it was in WoW and after months playing with them the guild dissolved out of nowhere. I have no idea what happened to the leader but the website and just anything related to it went down.
But playing on my own is good because that way i dont have to stay attached to a single game. Life is too short for that.