Howdy, Stranger!
It looks like you're new here. If you want to get involved, click one of these buttons!
Quick Links
How To Cope With Ruminating During Work And Play | MMORPG.com
System
Member UncommonPosts: 12,599
How To Cope With Ruminating During Work And Play | MMORPG.com
2020 was a rough year for everyone, and just because the year's over doesn't mean that everything negative goes away. Emily dives into some of the things she's been doing this new year to cope with the sudden changes.
Comments
Sure Monday morning is brutal and wish i was "Working From Home" until i get on the road, no traffic! got my coffee, podcast going and once at work so glad i'm not stuck at home. I have an extra room i rarely use atm and could have made that an office but still, you're really at home.
The reason i quoted working from home is the abuse i come along burns my f'ing ass tbh. Yet i'm not forced in to the situation either so i dunno right, would i too? i dunno? I work totally on my own in my own sub building, sure a couple other peeps here too but, we're all in our own lab/facility/office, can't explain it tbh, bottom line i can go in and not see anyone all day, but only if i don't want to.
Yeah i eat horrible the first half of this i didn't want to eat anything anyone touched recently and yeah, frozen food isn't that great for the waistline lol. Had a moment too where thinking 2021 will be...
Forced to work from home i can't fathom that. I know some people thought yee f'ing haw are now shoot me please, and others abusing the f outta the situation, and yea some are dedicated. I have to talk to some of these people and i'll get hang on gotta flip the burgers, gotta switch loads, i mean hang on while you take care of your f'ing chores. I have to wait till i get home to do all that, but still no way i'm working from home, i love getting home to my apt, it's quiet af and just love that moment you go AHHHHH... day is DONE! Game Time!!!, and weekends i treasure every second as well becasue i'm not at work, going to work is what makes you appreciate your free time, being there 100% of the time, i dunno? I mean i do know some as i did it many many years back for about 6 months and yeah, it was f'ing horrible tbh, didn't abuse it either, was complete opposite i'd be writing code around the f'ing clock, happens when you love what you do i guess, but yeah my ex was no fan
How I imagine the pandemic fairy:
https://getyarn.io/yarn-clip/41fe53a4-a00c-4994-b176-036458155370
EQ1, EQ2, SWG, SWTOR, GW, GW2 CoH, CoV, FFXI, WoW, CO, War,TSW and a slew of free trials and beta tests
I was kind of floored when I discovered it! I thought I was just losing my mind. I would have liked to have included some scientific papers and research but just didn't quite have the time. Maybe in a future article!
Having your gaming setup being banished to the bedroom must have been a blow, but I tend to think there are deeper reasons this causes people problems. For example "only children" don't feel the need to have people around them all day as much as those who grew up with brothers and sisters do. Also feeling down can happen at any time, but being home and having plenty of time to sit there and think does not help and we have had an awful lot of time like that over the course of the last year.
I hope you beat this and maybe getting back to the workplace will be the best long term solution to doing that.
Yep it's the long term effects, i have friends who say they love working from home and been doing for a couple decades. I knew them before and they can't see it but they ain't the same, they only think they are. I mean one it's like ummm, well they are stuck at home now, i mean they don't know how to be anything other than a mushroom, i can't see him resuming a normal life ever again.
Being forced to work from home is like being handed a f'ing prison sentence.
Work is work and home is home, i could never stress that enough, having the two mixed is like not having your own life anymore, it's your works domain. I mean i set up two monitors at home years ago and took it down within a day only becasue it "reminded" me of work, and i f'ing love my job, recently i did put back the monitor, now in the other room i have the better machine but i'm rarely in that room becasue it only has one 27 so yeah, i'll get around to buying another, i can't game without that second monitor. lmao
Parenting is a choice! and a very rewarding career.
As for Rumination? While I can get fixated on things, it's never to the point of costing me health. If it is, I immediately refocus(so to speak). So, all of these stories just seem like fantasy to me.
But, then again, I am a (earthshaken) creature of comforts, so...gotta feel good!
Edit: And nothing's gonna come to you without some effort. Fuck Trump and his empire of lies and deceit. If you want something, perceive what's the best / most desired opportunity, analyze a bit to find the best approach and ... get marching GI! Everything can be yours...all you need to do is...want it then realize it!
My explanation of it is kind of barebones for the sake of the article, but if you're really interested in learning more about it just for knowledge sake, definitely look up some articles about it! There's lots of great articles out there that do a much better job of going in depth and explaining what it is and how it functions. I know it's not the same for everyone, which is why I mentioned to maybe look into going to your doctor if you experience it pretty frequently! Rumination can definitely be a sign of anxiety/depression, and you may need to seek medical help if it gets too serious. I personally have anxiety and take medication for it, and while I might have been ruminating before I had to change up my work/life atmosphere, it just never got to this extreme level. Even if you don't struggle with ruminating, a nature walk is fantastic for everyone! Unless you're like allergic to grass. Pls don't do that if you are.
Logic, my dear, merely enables one to be wrong with great authority.
No, nothing of that sort. I'm not wimp enough, I'll take IED though(Expl.Disorder). Sometimes my reactions really fit the bill of that one. Oh and it's fine, Rage is a part of me, it gives me the zest for life, I honestly don't know what I'd do without it, probably wander around aimlessly. Because it's easy to say "change for the better", but would it really be better? Add, subtract, I don't think it would. I'll stick with Khorne Flakes.
This ties into what Xpsync was talking about, needing to keep work and home separate. This effects us in various ways, for example from the first job I ever did I have always changed my clothes coming home from work, this is now 'a different me'. Many don't bother to do that unless they are wearing a suit or uniform.
As you undoubtedly realise (otherwise I would be splaining in some way) the kind of thinking you are talking about is fine, I do that a lot myself. But when your thoughts keep turning to rehashing old issues, going in circles around negative ideas, it becomes more of day nightmare.
Thing is he is the one disturbing my work. I could no longer dance and sing while vacuuming and worse I cannot do housework when I want because he works from his room/den with the door open and my working would interrupt his work. So him bringing his work home is the best thing since sliced bread for him and me not so much.
Not to mention his conversations seem to be at shouting level on the phone. So I get a earful of everything. Think all of his conversations are with people hard of hearing. Conference calls are the absolute worst.
Plus I no longer have the peace at home when he was at work. The freedom to do what I want in an empty house. He's always coming into my room and commenting on the game or stuff I'm doing. But that is another topic altogether.
The type of work I did when I was working never gave me the luxury of leaving the work at the office and going home. I won't mention what line of work it was since most will think I am lying to sound important. I gave it up gladly for my first born because it was quite an awful job. Many people encouraged me to work part time but I realised very early that it was impossible for me because of the type of person I was. I tend to obsess and think and think and with a small child that became a nightmare.
The responsibilities followed me home yeah literally in the shape of people coming to my house, to files I worked on till the wee hours. So I never had the opportunity not to ruminate because in my profession it went hand in hand. Often the best ideas came to me in the middle of the night.
When I stopped working every one who saw me would comment on how much younger I looked. In spite of having a baby and looking after him alone I seemed to have become less stressed out.
Hopefully by the start of the summer we will at least have some sort of return to normality and such pressures will go away.
Possibly as I stay fairly active by default .. 9 year old son .. new dog .. wife, hobbies, work (altho work is a hobby for me and im retired )
Maybe get out more .. go fishing / hiking .. anything .. Just et outside for an hour once a day
"home is almost being invaded." Perfect!
The truth is, it has been invaded, one is now fully imprisoned by your work, they own part of your home, it's there all the time uggg, it's a f'ing prison, i cannot fathom that kind of f'ing BS.
For the record... it's still the the first thing i do the second i get home, change, and yeah i could wear a tracksuit to work, i don't, i go casual, as in no suit or crap like that, but the second i get home i shed work, turn my phone off and enjoy my sanctuary, my freedom!
It's basically called having your own life, a balanced life, nothing controlled by your work.