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When its time to quit and fiigure out what to do with ur life
last_exile
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Ok im 18 I have played mmos for the good part of 4 years i cant drive I have not had a social relationship for god knows how long and the top point of my day is when i finally beat the 5 hour instance and get the item/armor I have been wanting... please stop while you can before its to late...
I know im pathetic dont rant on about it just here to stop ppl from repeating my mistakes..
I know im pathetic dont rant on about it just here to stop ppl from repeating my mistakes..
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do yourself a favor and force yourself to have a social life. Im not sure if you're still in high school, but it sounds like you spent the best years of your adolescent life in a virtual world
you're going to look back at this phase of your life 10 years from now and regret it. what you're going to regret, is not appreciating real life friends while you could. Actually, it sounds like you already regret it (which is good)
you would be amazed at how quickly people forget who you are online, or even truely care what you're doing with your life. you need friends and family. its the most important aspect of life, without it can lead to serious depression and in turn health problems.
oh..and if you really want someones opinion and really want to get out of your rut.. how bout discussing this with someone who has a voice and not the text on the screen. Even in your search for help, you turn to a cyber world where nobody knows you.
"If you want a picture of the future, imagine a robot foot stomping on a human face -- forever."
I am going to show my friend this thread. I doubt it will do much.
He doesn't even come on windows live messenger anymore to 'socialise' with friends or people from his school.
He thinks the guild he is in (WoW) cares about him. They just use him as a priest, they raid everyday and the worst part is the guild sucks and they barely get anything done. His grades have dropped, his acne has gone out of control, he doesn't care for his personal appearance, when I invite him over to hang or whatever, there has to be a reason for him to come or he will say 'that sounds boring' then play WoW all day. He hasn't been in my house for at least a year. I know this because I moved not very far away about 1 year ago and he hasn't even seen my house yet.
It makes me sick, I feel like punching him in the face everyday for treating me like shit when I try to help him. His parents are too spineless to do anything, he is way too spoilt. Always gets what he wants. He is 17 years old, has no intention of driving. Has no interest in the opposite sex, only interested in WoW.
Don't end up like him. Hopefully your post will help my friend too.
I hope this thread helps you in anyway possible. And yes I am serious about this friend of mine, he is not made up.
Some say I should just leave him, let him learn the hard way, I say that is not the right thing to do, since he obviously can't help himself when his family lets him do whatever he pleases.
Not sure what I should do either.
Currently Playing: Everything but MMORPGs
Cancelled: L2, FFXI, VSoH, LotRO, WAR, WoW
Looking Forward To: SW:TOR
Like the above poster said, its good you realize it now than too late, your are still young and can still do lots of stuff. I'll tell you something, did you enjoy your 4 years of playing? If you could go back, would you change what you did? of course you would, everybody would change something but would you change the BIG picture.
Take for exemple ...hmmm me!
Quick resume, Iam 26, I been in a steady relationship for 6 years now and I been playing mmo for ..6 years haha
But thats not the point, lets talk about level 15 to 20 errr I mean 15 to 20 years old.
hmmm lets recape that portion ..phew god I did sooo many thing.. I cant write all this stuff here but damn it was the best time of my life!
Lots of friends, party, clubs (mostly stripclub) and yes I was going there at 16, sports, lots of sports and ...drugs
I tried most of it, like lots of it, spent a good 3 years in afterhours and after after hours and met a lots of peoples.Sure I have some memory problem here and then now and its the worst I got from abusing the good stuff.Was I lucky, maybe , lets say you would go and do the same as me, you could be dead, you could be in bad shape you could be normal, who knows.
What i am trying to say is this, we all make our own path and in the end, its all about balance.Enjoy what you like and dont abuse it. But you sure as hell need to go out more and enjoy what life as for you, it wont knock on your door, you need to get it.
Anyway I dont remember why im writing this but good luck
I believe you can do both i work and still maintain to play mmorpgs or video games in general you need it after a rough day.
and i would never take back playing between 15-18yrs old better than doing drugs or getting wasted at parties if you ask me i think that is retarded
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Currently playing:wow/war
Retired:,runescape,swg,
everquest2,lotro
Sadly when WAR comes out it will be like WoW all over again lol, minus the 6 hours of raiding nearly everyday. Like the 2nd(?) poster said if you're still in High School, quit hard-core gaming. It's cool if you do your work hit up some matches for about an hour or two only on what ever game and you'll be fine. Just balance your self, don't play every waking hour of the day, that is really bad for you.
Go easy and casual and you really never have to "quit" gaming. It's like anything else, Table Top games and card games, don't overindulge and spend alot of money on it and you can play for as long as you like!
I know many of you may not think this but i think that addiction to gaming (online or otherwise) Is a very serious topic! Unfortunate but true, many people have become addicted to video games in one way or another. I don't know what part of it is addictive, and it may differ for some people, but the point is that it is addicting. Has anyone heard ( i think a while ago) in the news about the married couple that was so addicted to World of Warcraft that they neglected their baby son, and he died because he didn't get enough food. It may have been prevented, i don't know how, but i know it could have been prevented somehow. I see it now with alot of my classmates, who play alot of video games, and have very little, or no social life. And it get's worse as time goes on. In my famiily, there aren't any people with addictions. However they forget about my uncle. From a very little age he has played video games, and as he grew up and began to get paid more money he started to play more. Now he is in a troubled marriage, on the verge of splitting up, renting in a bungalo in scarborough. He probably would have been in a better situation if it hadn't been for the fact that he has 6 Xboxs, 2 Xbox 360's, A Psp, a Nintendo DS, a really expensive computer, and many more game sytems to come. He spends thousands of dollars a year on games. And I don't think it will change. In my case, I am 13, and i found World of Warcraft, which was perfect because i could use it as an outlet to my frustration and to escape from reality. But i know what happened to my Uncle, and i don't know what will happen of me. Right now I am lucky to be able to balance a school life and an online life. I am on the Volleyball team, the Football team, i have lot's of friends and i go to the mall lot's of times. It might change in highschool though because i know that i wont have as much time on my hands. I know i can quit, and i have done it before. It is the people that can't quit that it becomes a problem. And the only one that can solve it is you. YOU and only you, can choose to not play the game or not. It doesn't reward you with anything you can use in real life. Does it make you money? No. Do you get better at things by playing games on the computer? No. Can you spend time with family or friends while playing on the computer? No. And in the end, it just comes out as a big gap in your life, with so many hours that could have been put to better use. In the end, you will regret it if you spend too much time on it. And if this post can make even 1 more person make something out of their life, I will be satisfied. And remember, recognizing you have a problem is the first step to fixing it. The choice is yours, so make it before it's too late.
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Currently playing:wow/war
Retired:,runescape,swg,
everquest2,lotro
First and foremost, you are NOT pathetic. When you begin to say things like this, you create a self-fulfilling prophesy. The mind likes to satisfy itself. Therefore, when you repeatedly tell yourself that you are "pathetic," you can expect yourself to be acting and speaking in ways that comport with one who is "pathetic" in your mind.
You need to change the way you think. However, you must act yourself into new thinking. You should begin with realizing you are not, and never were, pathetic.
Second, your MMORPG is not your life; it is apart of it. And your online friends are not friends. I understand the controversy this will generate and the trauma it might even cause. Your real-life friends and family are more important than "online friends."
Lastly, the fact that you acknowledge and are aware that you need to focus on your real-life more is encouraging. Limit yourself. All things in moderation.
As for myself, when I was your age, I can honestly say that Everquest kept my out of trouble. I do not state that facetiously. Many of my friends were experimenting with alcohol or drugs and I did not. I am altogether better for this. I attended a very competitive (private) college for both undergraduate and graduate schools, and I never really was involved with playing games. I was able to at most commit perhaps a few hours a week to gaming. In grad school, while I worked full-time and attended school full-time, I gamed slightly more as a stress reliever. The point is quite simple if you do not see it: Prioritize. Your last priority should be gaming.
I hope the above is helpful, and message me if you would like to talk. I wrote the above fairly hastily; I am about to go out with "real-life friends" to rent and watch some movies.
First and foremost, you are NOT pathetic. When you begin to say things like this, you create a self-fulfilling prophesy. The mind likes to satisfy itself. Therefore, when you repeatedly tell yourself that you are "pathetic," you can expect yourself to be acting and speaking in ways that comport with one who is "pathetic" in your mind.
You need to change the way you think. However, you must act yourself into new thinking. You should begin with realizing you are not, and never were, pathetic.
Second, your MMORPG is not your life; it is apart of it. And your online friends are not friends. I understand the controversy this will generate and the trauma it might even cause. Your real-life friends and family are more important than "online friends."
Lastly, the fact that you acknowledge and are aware that you need to focus on your real-life more is encouraging. Limit yourself. All things in moderation.
As for myself, when I was your age, I can honestly say that Everquest kept my out of trouble. I do not state that facetiously. Many of my friends were experimenting with alcohol or drugs and I did not. I am altogether better for this. I attended a very competitive (private) college for both undergraduate and graduate schools, and I never really was involved with playing games. I was able to at most commit perhaps a few hours a week to gaming. In grad school, while I worked full-time and attended school full-time, I gamed slightly more as a stress reliever. The point is quite simple if you do not see it: Prioritize. Your last priority should be gaming.
I hope the above is helpful, and message me if you would like to talk. I wrote the above fairly hastily; I am about to go out with "real-life friends" to rent and watch some movies.
LIke the post but you know what makes gaming more fun when you play with your real life friends
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Currently playing:wow/war
Retired:,runescape,swg,
everquest2,lotro
First and foremost, you are NOT pathetic. When you begin to say things like this, you create a self-fulfilling prophesy. The mind likes to satisfy itself. Therefore, when you repeatedly tell yourself that you are "pathetic," you can expect yourself to be acting and speaking in ways that comport with one who is "pathetic" in your mind.
You need to change the way you think. However, you must act yourself into new thinking. You should begin with realizing you are not, and never were, pathetic.
Second, your MMORPG is not your life; it is apart of it. And your online friends are not friends. I understand the controversy this will generate and the trauma it might even cause. Your real-life friends and family are more important than "online friends."
Lastly, the fact that you acknowledge and are aware that you need to focus on your real-life more is encouraging. Limit yourself. All things in moderation.
As for myself, when I was your age, I can honestly say that Everquest kept my out of trouble. I do not state that facetiously. Many of my friends were experimenting with alcohol or drugs and I did not. I am altogether better for this. I attended a very competitive (private) college for both undergraduate and graduate schools, and I never really was involved with playing games. I was able to at most commit perhaps a few hours a week to gaming. In grad school, while I worked full-time and attended school full-time, I gamed slightly more as a stress reliever. The point is quite simple if you do not see it: Prioritize. Your last priority should be gaming.
I hope the above is helpful, and message me if you would like to talk. I wrote the above fairly hastily; I am about to go out with "real-life friends" to rent and watch some movies.
LIke the post but you know what makes gaming more fun when you play with your real life friends
Do you have anything else to do other than try to respond to eveything everyone says and try to tear it down? Maybe you should take some of their advice!
First and foremost, you are NOT pathetic. When you begin to say things like this, you create a self-fulfilling prophesy. The mind likes to satisfy itself. Therefore, when you repeatedly tell yourself that you are "pathetic," you can expect yourself to be acting and speaking in ways that comport with one who is "pathetic" in your mind.
You need to change the way you think. However, you must act yourself into new thinking. You should begin with realizing you are not, and never were, pathetic.
Second, your MMORPG is not your life; it is apart of it. And your online friends are not friends. I understand the controversy this will generate and the trauma it might even cause. Your real-life friends and family are more important than "online friends."
Lastly, the fact that you acknowledge and are aware that you need to focus on your real-life more is encouraging. Limit yourself. All things in moderation.
As for myself, when I was your age, I can honestly say that Everquest kept my out of trouble. I do not state that facetiously. Many of my friends were experimenting with alcohol or drugs and I did not. I am altogether better for this. I attended a very competitive (private) college for both undergraduate and graduate schools, and I never really was involved with playing games. I was able to at most commit perhaps a few hours a week to gaming. In grad school, while I worked full-time and attended school full-time, I gamed slightly more as a stress reliever. The point is quite simple if you do not see it: Prioritize. Your last priority should be gaming.
I hope the above is helpful, and message me if you would like to talk. I wrote the above fairly hastily; I am about to go out with "real-life friends" to rent and watch some movies.
LIke the post but you know what makes gaming more fun when you play with your real life friends
Do you have anything else to do other than try to respond to eveything everyone says and try to tear it down? Maybe you should take some of their advice!
Are you talking to me here i didnt tear down anything there my friend i was just stating some facts
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Currently playing:wow/war
Retired:,runescape,swg,
everquest2,lotro
And by the way, drug and sex adictions have Absolutely NOTHING to do with what we are talking about!!!! We're talking about Game addictions! Having a game addiction doesn't mean you are not going to be addicted to anything else, you might have MULTIPLE addictions! So now let's try to focus on GAME addictions, not all the other stuff we can get into at another time.
Edit: not starting an argumnent; just stating a point.
And by the way, drug and sex adictions have Absolutely NOTHING to do with what we are talking about!!!! We're talking about Game addictions! Having a game addiction doesn't mean you are not going to be addicted to anything else, you might have MULTIPLE addictions! So now let's try to focus on GAME addictions, not all the other stuff we can get into at another time.i think it is very relevant to what we are talking about yes it may be game addictions but doesnt that bring addictions in general to the picture i was just stating the obvious ok sry i went against what you said i guess you thought nobody would stand up and say something but dont take this personal ok. I meant nothing about saying that but that there is other addictions out there and gaming isnt the worst of them
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Currently playing:wow/war
Retired:,runescape,swg,
everquest2,lotro
Have no regrets! Just make some personal life changes.
The guy who said you will regret this phase of your life couldn't be more wrong. Live you life with your head up high and move on, it sounds like you are already formulating plan.
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Currently playing:wow/war
Retired:,runescape,swg,
everquest2,lotro
I remember after taking a 6 month break from games late last year, I found myself being a lot more socially interactive, popular, etc.
Of course that didn't last too long, games are too big a part of my life to just leave out.
Don't want to stirr anything up or make anybody flip out but i was just wondering when you said that someone said you will regret it, i was wondering if you were refrencing to me cus i think what i said was that you would regret it if you spend too much time on it. Of course I am totally fine with the fact that if you play it sometimes or mix it in with other activities or "casually" play there is nothing wrong with it. I mean, you can still play video games, of course
But I am saying when it get's to the point where it is interfereing with you life and actually preventing or hindering your ability to have your own life outside of the game then yes, i would say that is an addiction, in the case above where someone pointed out the story of their friend and world of warcraft. SO as someone had said, all things in moderation, and I say, don't take gaming too seriously.
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Currently playing:wow/war
Retired:,runescape,swg,
everquest2,lotro
No OntarioMan, I wasn't referring to your post.
The guy played games for 4 years. It sounds like he has learned something from it and wants to change it. What is to regret, absolutely nothing.
That portrait of your friend is eerrily similiar to who I am, I'm ashamed to admit it.
Been playing MMOs since I was about 13-14, starting with EQ. Played it for 8 months and shoved aside pretty much everything else in my life for it. High school was a bore for me, I struggled to socialize and just hated it, felt inferior to everyone else and above all hated who I was. Just getting out and talking to people was extremely difficult and made me bored. Each day before I went to school I'd have this stress in my stomach because I hated it so much. EQ was escapism because I didn't know how to cope with anything and hated reality. I think that was when I developed an eating disorder as well, I still emotionally eat, feel like throwing up and feel like dying alot of the times. I managed to quit MMOs for many years, clear my head a bit, but things weren't any better. It was the same old boring high school, I was withdrawn, lunchtimes were so boring and didn't know how to engage with people despite having a group of friends etc. I think I had some sort of identity crisis because I didn't how I should act and was just ashamed of myself, it made me so stressed. I swore I wouldn't play MMOs again, because they were too addictive to me and I had no sense of control.Then caved in when I was about 18 and decided to try out WoW, played for a few months got bored and quit and looked for something else, went to EQ, played for a few months and quit. Neglected my studies, always rejected party invitations or any invites to go out, boring. Scraped through year 12 with an embarassing result, I just didn't give a f*ck, I was so emotionally and physically drained and neglected myself and had no self-respect. Then it was back to WoW. It was pretty much the only thing I enjoyed, everything else was boring as hell, especially anything social. I did try to get help and things are getting better, it's still a struggle but I am playing less and less now and making it only a hobby. I have learnt MMOs can be a fun side hobby or it can take over your life if you have underlying problems you don't get fixed.
That portrait of your friend is eerrily similiar to who I am, I'm ashamed to admit it.
Been playing MMOs since I was about 13-14, starting with EQ. Played it for 8 months and shoved aside pretty much everything else in my life for it. High school was a bore for me, I struggled to socialize and just hated it, felt inferior to everyone else and above all hated who I was. Just getting out and talking to people was extremely difficult and made me bored. Each day before I went to school I'd have this stress in my stomach because I hated it so much. EQ was escapism because I didn't know how to cope with anything and hated reality. I think that was when I developed an eating disorder as well, I still emotionally eat, feel like throwing up and feel like dying alot of the times. I managed to quit MMOs for many years, clear my head a bit, but things weren't any better. It was the same old boring high school, I was withdrawn, lunchtimes were so boring and didn't know how to engage with people despite having a group of friends etc. I think I had some sort of identity crisis because I didn't how I should act and was just ashamed of myself, it made me so stressed. I swore I wouldn't play MMOs again, because they were too addictive to me and I had no sense of control.Then caved in when I was about 18 and decided to try out WoW, played for a few months got bored and quit and looked for something else, went to EQ, played for a few months and quit. Neglected my studies, always rejected party invitations or any invites to go out, boring. Scraped through year 12 with an embarassing result, I just didn't give a f*ck, I was so emotionally and physically drained and neglected myself and had no self-respect. Then it was back to WoW. It was pretty much the only thing I enjoyed, everything else was boring as hell, especially anything social. I did try to get help and things are getting better, it's still a struggle but I am playing less and less now and making it only a hobby. I have learnt MMOs can be a fun side hobby or it can take over your life if you have underlying problems you don't get fixed.
Dam sry man that must have been a hard time hope your over it now
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Currently playing:wow/war
Retired:,runescape,swg,
everquest2,lotro
That portrait of your friend is eerrily similiar to who I am, I'm ashamed to admit it.
Been playing MMOs since I was about 13-14, starting with EQ. Played it for 8 months and shoved aside pretty much everything else in my life for it. High school was a bore for me, I struggled to socialize and just hated it, felt inferior to everyone else and above all hated who I was. Just getting out and talking to people was extremely difficult and made me bored. Each day before I went to school I'd have this stress in my stomach because I hated it so much. EQ was escapism because I didn't know how to cope with anything and hated reality. I think that was when I developed an eating disorder as well, I still emotionally eat, feel like throwing up and feel like dying alot of the times. I managed to quit MMOs for many years, clear my head a bit, but things weren't any better. It was the same old boring high school, I was withdrawn, lunchtimes were so boring and didn't know how to engage with people despite having a group of friends etc. I think I had some sort of identity crisis because I didn't how I should act and was just ashamed of myself, it made me so stressed. I swore I wouldn't play MMOs again, because they were too addictive to me and I had no sense of control.Then caved in when I was about 18 and decided to try out WoW, played for a few months got bored and quit and looked for something else, went to EQ, played for a few months and quit. Neglected my studies, always rejected party invitations or any invites to go out, boring. Scraped through year 12 with an embarassing result, I just didn't give a f*ck, I was so emotionally and physically drained and neglected myself and had no self-respect. Then it was back to WoW. It was pretty much the only thing I enjoyed, everything else was boring as hell, especially anything social. I did try to get help and things are getting better, it's still a struggle but I am playing less and less now and making it only a hobby. I have learnt MMOs can be a fun side hobby or it can take over your life if you have underlying problems you don't get fixed.
Dam sry man that must have been a hard time hope your over it now
Thanks it is, but I still have a long way to go. It feels weird talking about something so personal, but I hope anyone with similar problems can relate and not feel so bad and hopefully end up seeking help for themselves.