Howdy, Stranger!
It looks like you're new here. If you want to get involved, click one of these buttons!
Quick Links
How do i tell him/her? (help rikimaru)
grimweeper
Member Posts: 2,047
Well i have this friend and he has a girlfriend, hes really lucky to be with her and shes 2 years older than him. But the thing is whenever i see her and hes not with her shes really pissed or sad or mad at him becouse he cursed her off or was just being an ass, he doesnt do anything physically to her but damn when im with some other people and we see her shes either crying or on the verge of crying becouse hes an ass to her, he "says" he loves her but i honestly dont think so, i mean we (me and a couple other friend) tell her taht hes an ass and he shouldnt do that and she should stand up for herself but we also know that its hard for her. They hang out and fuck alot and when there together everything seems fine but when theyre apart its a whole different story.
So anyway we were all hanging out and then we met up with these two girls, one was hot and the other well not important, and he was all over her trying to get with her cockblocking us (Thats the part that really got everyone else pissed off) who dont have girlfriends and we got pissed off but didnt say anything, later in the night his girlfriend calls him and they talk then all of a sudden they start arguing and once again hes cursing her off and stuff, once he hangs up hes back to trying to get with the hot girl. So the two girls left. We later find out that hes going to hang out with another group of hot girls tonight, one which he likes alot and wants to get with. Hes obviously not cheating on his girlfriend but its soo close i could call it cheating easily. He then leaves and the rest of us were just talking about how fucked up what hes doing is and we all want to tell him but no one wants to be the person to tell him because hes a cool guy to hang around with and hes cool and all but if you offend him hell start to pms and just be an ass to you for who knows how long so no one wants to man up and tell him but then again no one else can stand to see what hes doing to his girlfriend and see her so sad all the time.
My question to you is how do we tell him taht thats fucked up or tell her so she can finally notice what hes doing to her? (if we tell her then we dont really want to be like listen hes hanging out with some girls tonight and one of them he wants to get with, we sortof want to lead her to finding out not tell her directly, becouse obviously shes going to tell him that we told her and then were going to be the assholes and hes just gonna be an ass to whoever told her or just completely forget about you and none of us want taht becouse hes a really cool kid and we have alot of good times with him)
So anyway we were all hanging out and then we met up with these two girls, one was hot and the other well not important, and he was all over her trying to get with her cockblocking us (Thats the part that really got everyone else pissed off) who dont have girlfriends and we got pissed off but didnt say anything, later in the night his girlfriend calls him and they talk then all of a sudden they start arguing and once again hes cursing her off and stuff, once he hangs up hes back to trying to get with the hot girl. So the two girls left. We later find out that hes going to hang out with another group of hot girls tonight, one which he likes alot and wants to get with. Hes obviously not cheating on his girlfriend but its soo close i could call it cheating easily. He then leaves and the rest of us were just talking about how fucked up what hes doing is and we all want to tell him but no one wants to be the person to tell him because hes a cool guy to hang around with and hes cool and all but if you offend him hell start to pms and just be an ass to you for who knows how long so no one wants to man up and tell him but then again no one else can stand to see what hes doing to his girlfriend and see her so sad all the time.
My question to you is how do we tell him taht thats fucked up or tell her so she can finally notice what hes doing to her? (if we tell her then we dont really want to be like listen hes hanging out with some girls tonight and one of them he wants to get with, we sortof want to lead her to finding out not tell her directly, becouse obviously shes going to tell him that we told her and then were going to be the assholes and hes just gonna be an ass to whoever told her or just completely forget about you and none of us want taht becouse hes a really cool kid and we have alot of good times with him)
Comments
Send me her number I will tell her myself. Problem solved.
In America I have bad teeth. If I lived in England my teeth would be perfect.
"hi"
"who are you?"
"some 32 year old guy, I'm calling to tell you that you're boyfriend is an ass"
"STALKER!!!!!1!1!1!!1!"
What the hell does retarted mean? Do you mean retarded? Why do so many americans spell this word incorrectly, you use it so often but nobody seems to be able to get it right
Off-topic is, well, off-topic. Anything goes, even on a gaming forum. It's the one place we don't talk about games. Is this difficult for you to grasp? What's wrong, are you retarted or something? :P
-In memory of Laura "Taera" Genender. Passed away on Aug/13/08-
|
RISING DRAGOON ~AION US ONLINE LEGION for Elyos
Do you seriously have nothing better to do than to post "This is a gaming forum, why are we talking about this" in every other damn thread on the OT?
This is the Off-Topic forum. For those who missed the English class explaining these words, the phrase Off-Topic generally means "Differing from the main focus of a conversation". If you want strict adherance to MMORPGs, guess what! There are a couple hundred forums on this site specifically for that purpose, namely The Pub. Go hang out there, and feel free to jump on someone when they're off-topic. Leave those of us from this forum in peace.
We barely remember who or what came before this precious moment;
We are choosing to be here right now -Tool, Parabola
What the hell does retarted mean? Do you mean retarded? Why do so many americans spell this word incorrectly, you use it so often but nobody seems to be able to get it right
Off-topic is, well, off-topic. Anything goes, even on a gaming forum. It's the one place we don't talk about games. Is this difficult for you to grasp? What's wrong, are you retarted or something? :P
Hey genius, maybe you should check out his info: He's from the Netherlands. As if the name Sven weren't enough information...
This is a sequence of characters intended to produce some profound mental effect, but it has failed.
What the hell does retarted mean? Do you mean retarded? Why do so many americans spell this word incorrectly, you use it so often but nobody seems to be able to get it right
Off-topic is, well, off-topic. Anything goes, even on a gaming forum. It's the one place we don't talk about games. Is this difficult for you to grasp? What's wrong, are you retarted or something? :P
I can't believe you don't know what "retarted" means! It's obviously when an ex-old slapper becomes one again.Your friend is an asshole, I don't see how you can be a friend with someone like that.
But here is what I would do, I'd tell it straight to their face, if they start being an ass then be an ass back to them... and by then its probably punch on.
Fortunately I don't hang around dipshits like that.
O_o o_O
-In memory of Laura "Taera" Genender. Passed away on Aug/13/08-
|
RISING DRAGOON ~AION US ONLINE LEGION for Elyos
agreed
"The new age is upon us, yet the past refuses to rest in its shallow grave."
In America I have bad teeth. If I lived in England my teeth would be perfect.
What the hell does retarted mean? Do you mean retarded? Why do so many americans spell this word incorrectly, you use it so often but nobody seems to be able to get it right
Off-topic is, well, off-topic. Anything goes, even on a gaming forum. It's the one place we don't talk about games. Is this difficult for you to grasp? What's wrong, are you retarted or something? :P
Hey genius, maybe you should check out his info: He's from the Netherlands. As if the name Sven weren't enough information...
thats not an excuse, I'm from the Netherlands as well and I know its spelled Redartet! so hah!It sounds like this guy is some big shit, real cool and all that, so you don't want to piss him off or whatever. Sounds like his girl is only with him cause he's cool and nobody wants to piss him off. The real issue here is why do people hang around a guy who is a total ass, just because he's cool? Plus the word 'Cool' is just a phrase for the ego.
What you and your friends should do is either just plain out tell him he's and asshole and that he treats his girl like shit. OR, they can just break away altogether, but thats up to you guys.
The Girlfriend needs to stand up for herself and either tell him she doesn't appreciate the verbal abuse and that he's lucky he's got a girl in the first place. She can also fling some flak back at him (NOT RECOMMEDED!!!!) Last she can straight up leave him, he's got no answer to that, she can us the shield of her friends to buffer contact and remove herself.
This guys clearly thinks he's SO cool he can get away with anything and that nobody will do anything just because he'll go into PMS mode and spew shit on everyone. I can't say any of these will work in this particular situation, if I had some more in depth information I could gather my gang of nerdy people and hopefully solve the problem.
Hope this helps in some way.
Rather than tell him he's being an asshole, why don't you just ask him why he treats her like shit. This puts the monkey on his back, he'll either deny it, or ask you why you think he's treating her like shit. If he denies it, that means he knows what he is doing and doesn't care to modify his behaviour. If he asks why you think he is treating her like shit, that indicates that maybe he doesn't realize there is anything wrong. In the first instance, there is nothing you can do, as he refuses to recognize the problem, and will just continue until she says hasta la vista baby. In the second case, you have the opportunity to go into a discussion of his conduct.
Should take the monkey off your back.