Love is the result of chemicals produced in the brain that are associated with physical attraction, testosterone and oestrogen aid in the desire to mate, meaning lust. Then chemicals like dopamine and serotonin give you that love feeling and make you "addicted," to the other person, so love is pretty much like a drug, very much like cocaine. Longer term relationships are formed due to oxytocin which is released during orgasm. Of course the ultimate goal of love is to mate and reproduce, just like other animals. Perhaps some people build tolerances to some of these chemicals, especially oxytocin, and feel the need to find another source to give them the feeling they had before, that might help explain why people fall out of love, and or cheat on each other. But that is just one possible reason, it may also be a psychological reason in stead of biological, or both.
Nyah, maybe the lust goes away eventually, but the love doesn't.
Possibily, I have no frame of reference so I was speaking hypothetically.
Love is as much a psychological dependence as much as chemical, perhaps the decrease in the lust sensation added with the human desire for better things (including mates) and unresolved common disagreements due to lack of social skills, is what drives people apart and to search for others dispite the love for their mate. hmm...
It would be neat if anyone found some research on this, humans are such odd animals.
If that's the case, then how come people give their lives for other people?
I was willing to give my life for people I love and whom I've never even met just so they could hopefully live in peace.
I don't know really I am kind of guessing, the human mind is really complicated, there is all kinds of crazy things going on in there.
The desire to protect other humans is needed for personal survival, and with a high degree of empathy involved that could tranlate into self sacrifice.
It probably isn't that simple though, we are more rational than other animals, so we can come up with ideas and principles that other animals don't. It is the combination of our animal instinct and our rational minds that makes us unique.
A good example, you are empathetic to others and are willing to help them and sacrifice yourself, I am not, I don't care for other people and wouldn't lift a finger to help them unless doing so benifited me. But this is probably the result in difference in principle and ideas.
Our rational brain might augment and give reason to certain instincts, like yours of protection, or mine of greed.
The same thing could go for love, or lack there of.
Don't you worry little buddy. You're dealing with a man of honor. However, honor requires a higher percentage of profit
I don't know really I am kind of guessing, the human mind is really complicated, there is all kinds of crazy things going on in there. The desire to protect other humans is need for personal survival, and with a high degree of empathy involved that could tranlate into self sacrifice. It probably isn't that simple though, we are more rational than other animals, so we can come up with ideas and principles that other animals don't. It is the combination of our animal instinct and our rational minds that makes us unique. A good example, you are empathetic to others and are willing to help them and sacrifice yourself, I am not, I don't care for other people and wouldn't lift a finger to help them unless doing so benifited me. But this is probably the result in difference in principle and ideas. Our rational brain might augment and give reason to certain instincts, like yours of protection, or mine of greed. The same thing could go for love, or lack there of.
If someone attacked your mom, you would help her. I bet you would do so without regard to your own safety.
The way you describe yourself is the description psychiatrists give to a sociopath.
Well I do exhibit many of the characteristics of the schizoid personality,but my mental stability aside,
I do think that people's ideaology can change how they act on instinct, humans are supose to reproduce and rear children, lust helps with the reproduction part, and love helps with the rearing part, it is just peoples ideas that change their approach to the action.
I would guess that by the OP's language that she highly values the ideas of romantic love, and is dissapointed by a world that falls below her standards, yet is still more nieve than cynical, unlike Tunabun. The way someone looks at something rationaly, will effect the way they feel, think and talk about something, if at all.
Don't you worry little buddy. You're dealing with a man of honor. However, honor requires a higher percentage of profit
Hate is a word that not many can really define. It is the unexpected feeling of wanting hurt and undesirables to happen to a person. So they say...are you really sure that is what hate is?? Loathing of a person is the ability to never be able to stand inside of the same room with one person. But really in most of our hearts we really want to stand in the room with them. Maybe just to tell them how we feel, but regardless, we still want one more moment with them. This is not hate nor loathing.
Love is...wow...as a good friend of mine told me...love is the ability to deal with one another's faults. No one is PERFECT. However, love is finding that one that you can deal with thier faults.
Does love hurt...absolutely! Sorry to say that, but in order to find what you really want...you understand the pain and intolerance. Take time and understand you before you seek others to fill a void.
Love is the result of chemicals produced in the brain that are associated with physical attraction, testosterone and oestrogen aid in the desire to mate, meaning lust. Then chemicals like dopamine and serotonin give you that love feeling and make you "addicted," to the other person, so love is pretty much like a drug, very much like cocaine. Longer term relationships are formed due to oxytocin which is released during orgasm. Of course the ultimate goal of love is to mate and reproduce, just like other animals. Perhaps some people build tolerances to some of these chemicals, especially oxytocin, and feel the need to find another source to give them the feeling they had before, that might help explain why people fall out of love, and or cheat on each other. But that is just one possible reason, it may also be a psychological reason in stead of biological, or both.
Nyah, maybe the lust goes away eventually, but the love doesn't.
but it builds up after loving someone for so long and it can't be contained after a point.
it never goes away it just diminishes.
98% of the teenage population does or has tried smoking pot. If you''re one of the 2% who hasn''t, copy & paste this in your signature.
Well I do exhibit many of the characteristics of the schizoid personality,but my mental stability aside, I do think that people's ideaology can change how they act on instinct, humans are supose to reproduce and rear children, lust helps with the reproduction part, and love helps with the rearing part, it is just peoples ideas that change their approach to the action. I would guess that by the OP's language that she highly values the ideas of romantic love, and is dissapointed by a world that falls below her standards, yet is still more nieve than cynical, unlike Tunabun. The way someone looks at something rationaly, will effect the way they feel, think and talk about something, if at all.
There's more behind love than just reproducing and rearing children. For instance, I have a best friend that I love. People have family members that they love. I love my dog and would put myself at risk to protect him even.
There is a bond that love provides that gives us a feeling of comfort in trusting someone. For instance, if love is just for reproducing, then how come gay people fall in love? Or better yet, I don't want children, yet I can still fall in love with someone.
See I thought we were talking about your typical run of the mill romantic love, there are other types sure and even variations of romantic love such as homo and bisexual romantic love, but I don't know that much about how it works to be honest, just the basics. I am just throwing out some educated guesses as for a scientific reason for love and why it fails.
Like I said without a frame of reference I can't speak from any other stand point other than the scientific one, I can't offer any first hand expeirence or interpretation, but I can offer what biology I know on the subject, though admittedly that isn't much.
Don't you worry little buddy. You're dealing with a man of honor. However, honor requires a higher percentage of profit
Each persons love is the measure of their Soul, and Sensability's. Often times people find the person they love is a creep inside ,or they are wonderfull, inside, and we are the creep, or a combination there of. Also I have found that the vast majority of people, actually confuse love with, saftey, sex, propriety, recognition, and a whole host of things, that may go a long way towards paying the rent, or filling a deep physological hole, but do little to allow one to grow emotionally. The end result, often times results in animosity. Somebody gets to a point when they havent been "Fixed" by the other person, so then they blame that person for all the crappy reasons, they were in the relationship to start with. Some times, both are not "Fixed", and the feeling is mutual.
people fall in love because two people are more likely to keep an infant alive than one.
putting aside that harsh reality, what can love be? what should love be? To me love is belief that you would give of yourself for another and require nothing in return. i have been with my partner for 16 years, we got together when we were 19, in three more years we will have spent more of our lives together than apart. The relationship is always work with its ups and downs, we have faced loss together(miscarriage), overcome anger, confronted expectations that were driving us apart, at different times one of has worked and supported the other, we have moved countries not once but twice. We have also shared great joy, seen great beauty and our daily lives are enriched by each others company.
We work at our relationship by looking at what we can do to help the other and then accepting that help with the recognition of what a loving gift it is. we are each others best friends and there is no-one i would rather talk to.
the bitterness and anger arises often when one takes the gifts from love without the thanks that the gift deserves.
people love someone but in the last page of their story, love turns to hate. .
why ? ?
OOOhhh... love... So this isn't like a big olive people are falling into afterall..
"Put your foot where your mouth is." - Wisdom from my grandfather "Paper or plastic? ... because I'm afraid I'll have to suffocate you unless you put this bag on your head..." - Ethnitrek AC1: Wierding from Harvestgain
Personally when I see the deep black chasm of love I side-step it. I haven't had the best of times with relationships in the past, and I really don't need one.
"Put your foot where your mouth is." - Wisdom from my grandfather "Paper or plastic? ... because I'm afraid I'll have to suffocate you unless you put this bag on your head..." - Ethnitrek AC1: Wierding from Harvestgain
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Nyah, maybe the lust goes away eventually, but the love doesn't.
Possibily, I have no frame of reference so I was speaking hypothetically.
Love is as much a psychological dependence as much as chemical, perhaps the decrease in the lust sensation added with the human desire for better things (including mates) and unresolved common disagreements due to lack of social skills, is what drives people apart and to search for others dispite the love for their mate. hmm...
It would be neat if anyone found some research on this, humans are such odd animals.
If that's the case, then how come people give their lives for other people?I was willing to give my life for people I love and whom I've never even met just so they could hopefully live in peace.
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I don't know really I am kind of guessing, the human mind is really complicated, there is all kinds of crazy things going on in there.
The desire to protect other humans is needed for personal survival, and with a high degree of empathy involved that could tranlate into self sacrifice.
It probably isn't that simple though, we are more rational than other animals, so we can come up with ideas and principles that other animals don't. It is the combination of our animal instinct and our rational minds that makes us unique.
A good example, you are empathetic to others and are willing to help them and sacrifice yourself, I am not, I don't care for other people and wouldn't lift a finger to help them unless doing so benifited me. But this is probably the result in difference in principle and ideas.
Our rational brain might augment and give reason to certain instincts, like yours of protection, or mine of greed.
The same thing could go for love, or lack there of.
Don't you worry little buddy. You're dealing with a man of honor. However, honor requires a higher percentage of profit
The way you describe yourself is the description psychiatrists give to a sociopath.
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Well I do exhibit many of the characteristics of the schizoid personality, but my mental stability aside,
I do think that people's ideaology can change how they act on instinct, humans are supose to reproduce and rear children, lust helps with the reproduction part, and love helps with the rearing part, it is just peoples ideas that change their approach to the action.
I would guess that by the OP's language that she highly values the ideas of romantic love, and is dissapointed by a world that falls below her standards, yet is still more nieve than cynical, unlike Tunabun. The way someone looks at something rationaly, will effect the way they feel, think and talk about something, if at all.
Don't you worry little buddy. You're dealing with a man of honor. However, honor requires a higher percentage of profit
Hate is a word that not many can really define. It is the unexpected feeling of wanting hurt and undesirables to happen to a person. So they say...are you really sure that is what hate is?? Loathing of a person is the ability to never be able to stand inside of the same room with one person. But really in most of our hearts we really want to stand in the room with them. Maybe just to tell them how we feel, but regardless, we still want one more moment with them. This is not hate nor loathing.
Love is...wow...as a good friend of mine told me...love is the ability to deal with one another's faults. No one is PERFECT. However, love is finding that one that you can deal with thier faults.
Does love hurt...absolutely! Sorry to say that, but in order to find what you really want...you understand the pain and intolerance. Take time and understand you before you seek others to fill a void.
Nyah, maybe the lust goes away eventually, but the love doesn't.
but it builds up after loving someone for so long and it can't be contained after a point.it never goes away it just diminishes.
98% of the teenage population does or has tried smoking pot. If you''re one of the 2% who hasn''t, copy & paste this in your signature.
people has different definition of love . .
for me - -LOVE is lethal
There is a bond that love provides that gives us a feeling of comfort in trusting someone. For instance, if love is just for reproducing, then how come gay people fall in love? Or better yet, I don't want children, yet I can still fall in love with someone.
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See I thought we were talking about your typical run of the mill romantic love, there are other types sure and even variations of romantic love such as homo and bisexual romantic love, but I don't know that much about how it works to be honest, just the basics. I am just throwing out some educated guesses as for a scientific reason for love and why it fails.
Like I said without a frame of reference I can't speak from any other stand point other than the scientific one, I can't offer any first hand expeirence or interpretation, but I can offer what biology I know on the subject, though admittedly that isn't much.
Don't you worry little buddy. You're dealing with a man of honor. However, honor requires a higher percentage of profit
Each persons love is the measure of their Soul, and Sensability's. Often times people find the person they love is a creep inside ,or they are wonderfull, inside, and we are the creep, or a combination there of. Also I have found that the vast majority of people, actually confuse love with, saftey, sex, propriety, recognition, and a whole host of things, that may go a long way towards paying the rent, or filling a deep physological hole, but do little to allow one to grow emotionally. The end result, often times results in animosity. Somebody gets to a point when they havent been "Fixed" by the other person, so then they blame that person for all the crappy reasons, they were in the relationship to start with. Some times, both are not "Fixed", and the feeling is mutual.
....but most people use love to hurt or play with other's feeling. . .
Love just like a fragile flower, you have to water it, take care of it, or it will die, fall, and shrivel.
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My parents knew a lot about love.
...oh wait, no. That was hitting.
You no want love..you want hotpocket!
But seriously love is an illusion of the mind imho.
id say more but I feel I lack the authority to do so, and I myself kind of want a hotpocket and bacon.
people fall in love because two people are more likely to keep an infant alive than one.
putting aside that harsh reality, what can love be? what should love be? To me love is belief that you would give of yourself for another and require nothing in return. i have been with my partner for 16 years, we got together when we were 19, in three more years we will have spent more of our lives together than apart. The relationship is always work with its ups and downs, we have faced loss together(miscarriage), overcome anger, confronted expectations that were driving us apart, at different times one of has worked and supported the other, we have moved countries not once but twice. We have also shared great joy, seen great beauty and our daily lives are enriched by each others company.
We work at our relationship by looking at what we can do to help the other and then accepting that help with the recognition of what a loving gift it is. we are each others best friends and there is no-one i would rather talk to.
the bitterness and anger arises often when one takes the gifts from love without the thanks that the gift deserves.
People fall in love simply because they like each other. There's a physical attractiveness.
OOOhhh... love... So this isn't like a big olive people are falling into afterall..
"Put your foot where your mouth is." - Wisdom from my grandfather
"Paper or plastic? ... because I'm afraid I'll have to suffocate you unless you put this bag on your head..." - Ethnitrek
AC1: Wierding from Harvestgain
Personally when I see the deep black chasm of love I side-step it. I haven't had the best of times with relationships in the past, and I really don't need one.
"Put your foot where your mouth is." - Wisdom from my grandfather
"Paper or plastic? ... because I'm afraid I'll have to suffocate you unless you put this bag on your head..." - Ethnitrek
AC1: Wierding from Harvestgain