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How hard is it to make friends?
natuxatu
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I wish I had a good group of friends that I could party with but it seems hard to find. I'm just curious as to other people's experiences as far as making friends in an MMO. Which games have the best community and which have the worst? Any thoughts?
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IMO do NOT touch WOW very immature community.SOme games like EVE seemed to be mature and so was vanguard but both are EXTREMELY quiet.It seems alot of peeps just solo in most every game now.I am currently hanging out in shaiya and it seems to be pretty much a mature game.I quite often get peeps asking me to party more so maybe than any game i have played.The problem is that they will logoff and you'll prolly never hear from them again.If your looking to get a full pary to hang with on an everyday basis then you deff need to look to a newer game since older games won't have the noob populace.
Both EQ2 and FFXI were designed around party play that is prolly why they were the best.If you are hopping around game to game SHAIYA is still gaining alot of new players everyday,so give it a try and see maybe you'll luck out.Problem is that shaiya is again like most asian games not designed to really be a party game but more so a solo game so it hampers it a bit.I think last chaoa by the same company is also quite new maybe give that one a shot also.
BTW i'n not really huge on shaiya but at least there parent company ITSEP or something like that spent 4 million on this game so they do show some effort in there games.Oh and they are F2P so you got nothing to lose by trying shaiya or lastchaos out.
Never forget 3 mile Island and never trust a government official or company spokesman.
Never, NEVER speak of friends, if you play a MMOG.
They NEVER can help you in RL like your friends in the neighbourhood can do.
You do mostly play with people from somewhere else in the world.
Hey, I've made friends in MMORPGs before.
I wouldn't meet up with them and visit them, but in the game world and even OOC I talk to them often.
Especially a fellow my age on WoW, we were very alike and we ended up playing several games together, not just WoW.
I'd say all MMORPGs have good people in them. The trick is simply to find them. And to do so nothing beats - in my opinion, anyway - getting yourself into a good guild.
Try this. Take a day off from playing and 1.) Find a site(s), forums etc. that list as many guilds as possible for your game 2.) Visit every single guild website and take a look at their policies, then go to each guilds forums (a good indicator of current activity and maturity level) 3.) Join up with your top pick, and then participate in guild events. It's that simple.
I always look for words like "everyone is welcome" and "our major goal is to have fun". But I suspect a lot of others might seek to "crush, dominate, and destroy". Whatever. Spend a few hours making a careful choice and you should do well. GL.
FRIENDS are these guys, who help you carry your furniture to your new appartement.
All you know is some VIRTUAL mates in a parallel community.
That may be true. However in this new age of global technology the lines have become more fuzzy. Although it may be true that players you meet are not tangible for everyday circumstances, I recall when one player had a significant loss of property because of theft, the guild all chipped in and raised enough money for replacing some items that were lost (including a TV). Hell, a lot of my RL friends wouldnt have done that.
To me, a definition of a friend is someone who enjoys your company and cares enough about you that they want you to be happy. Perhaps thats helping move your furniture, perhaps thats spending 4 hours of thier time helping you farm a mat or level an alt. perhaps its giving you 100 gold. Whatever the case , it isnt the action that makes it friendship...its the sentiment.
Now, as for how to meet good folks online. Well, in general its basically like RL. You have to go out and interact. IN MMORPG terms that means grouping. When you find someone who seems friendly, just throw them on your in game friends list and keep in contact with them. If you group with them enough you will come in contact with friends they know and become aquainted with them.
Not to sound too much like the school councilor, but just Be yourself...unless your a complete jerk. In that case a little deception can go a long way.
And when all else fails....Level a female toon.
Torrential
Torrential: DAOC (Pendragon)
Awned: World of Warcraft (Lothar)
Torren: Warhammer Online (Praag)
No, those people are called STAFF
Mate, excuse my bad english and my "drunkness".
The problem is a bit deeper. The thing, why here in GER and over there in US people choose to stay alone or childless, to better dive into a virtual reality.
I am not trying to collect my arguments against the MMO-thing. But it is a part of the reasons of the birth-rate of 1,2-1,3 in EU or US.
heh if someone chose not to have a family for the sake of having more MMO time, well I thank my lucky stars those types ARENT breeding.
when we are breeding. we are all the same (but a few exceptions).
it's pretty easy to find like minded people to form a guild or join an existing guild with in eve online. in wow, not so much. I'm sure having 150,000 other people to pick from instead of 6000 makes it easier, but I think it's also the game mechanics, ninja looting and BoP loot and raiding compared to mining or buying it. Also the corporation in EVE is an entity you can build instead of just a chat channel.
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if I were to kill a titan tomorrow and no CCP employees showed up to say grats I would petition it.
Waiting for: the next MMO that lets me make this macro
if hp < 30 then CastSpell("heal") SpellTargetUnit("player") else CastSpell("smite") end
What are you some chimo?
For me its not too hard to find agroup that you can level up in-games and have a nice chat. Ive done it, though only twice, in diff server in WoW and once in KO. Both of which i found very good friends and still keep in contact with some of them after ive left.
And still rem in a WoW general forum that someone or his love one is ill and the whole guild help out with money for the hospital bill, and he thank them on the forum.
Most important is i think, what you wana find in a guild, most of them will inform you whether they are a raiding guild, a pvp, or just a casual family leveling up type. Join the correct type and you will find the friends that you want. Though not always 100% success.....
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join a guild. Even in an mmorpg you need to get to know someone over time, and randomly grouping with people doesn't give an adequate amount of time to get to know someone.
Some just go with flow and have many friends in no time and some are picky about who they choose.
Some games peeps instantly help always greets you give buffs for free or just ask if you need help, some games everybody on there own, tight nit groups and never help you out side that group, only if they gain something with it.
Its all about social skills of you and others.
Maybe when you talk trash and act idiot you get friends who like that, maybe when you just nice to anybody you see and help no matter what you get for it.
If you want friends be open to it, its realy easy, some just join a clan/guild and ask for emails to get friends hehe.
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Funny thing that the best friend i found in any MMO was in most unlikely game -> GW
But certanly most friendly would be now almost dead Ryzom
Otherwise LOTRO
I had people there that i picked in PUG , and since then they always answered my call for help.
Basically this is what I do.
When you form PUG , and you notice a certain player fits your play style. Ask him/her if you can add him to friend list. After that be sure to say "hi" ever so often , offer help and also ask for help.
LOL
It is true
If you want to know if person is REAL friend, ask them to help you move the furniture
There's a lot of established guilds now, and many of them use things like teamspeak or ventrillo, so you don't even have people using the chat box anymore. It makes it harder to meet people.
The only thing I see in chatboxes anymore are gold spammers, and the occaisional person looking for quest help.
Way back when, mmo's were new, people clung together because they were hard, and also because it was fun for people to talk while grinding out their mobs.
Today's mmo is much more fast paced. Like others have said, if you can find a good guild, that is your best bet.
BTW one of the most fun BBQ's I ever went to was a DAOC gathering. I answered a post on VN boards and got to meet up with some guys from an opposing realm. Come to find out we had been killing each other for months. It was pretty cool at the time. I'd do it again.
D.
Best friends I've made was in WoW in a nice guild. Best guys I've ever met, after one week it felt like I had been part of their guild for 10 years. Otherwise I usually have problem finding someone to group with or farm with. No idea how other people do, but I usually have 5 people who haven't logged in for the last 3 years on my friends list.
What is so wrong about having friends in a game? In World of Warcraft I play ingame with some of my friends from where I live, who I love...About 8 of us, including my brother. I won't say "real friends" because that means that anyone you can't see or touch infront of you can't be a friend.
I have alot of close friends whom I know only from the internet and have played games with for many years, I have met some really cool people in most games but currently in WoW I have maybe 5 or 6 people who I talk to whenever I am on. We talk about personal things, party, have a joke, talk on vent...Whatever the situation they are friends in every sense of the word. Friend means someone who you have a friendship with, some stuff in common, you get on..Whatever.
So if they are in a game, they aren't friends? Who ever shares that sentiment, stop using the internet and GTFO please as you are too narrowminded to use it.
Thanks.
Just to be clear, I know there is a difference between rl friends and online friends (though not always) but I was speaking about the later. As someone posted above it was strange but the best online friends I made as well was also in Guild Wars... Finding a good guild in any game is important I suppose but as said, it can take awhile and some research to find one... I guess we are all pretty much see it the same way.
Still it is harder on account of people wanting help with their quests and their quests only and so on. I normally see several people looking for different quests... if they would just team up they could get them all done, but yeah that almost makes too much sense
im not too keen on making lots of friends in the game though i try to be polite and friendly towards anyone who cares to change word or two with me. like someone said before, that theres people who are in a hurry to level up and all that.. i happen to be one of those guys, i havent found myself in a situation that i only go online to chat or just chill out somewhere. im too greedily trying to make my char better... and i also happen to like soloing much but i can do grouping as well if it happens to give something to me.. yes.. always to me..
"all for one, and more to me"
That may be true. However in this new age of global technology the lines have become more fuzzy. Although it may be true that players you meet are not tangible for everyday circumstances, I recall when one player had a significant loss of property because of theft, the guild all chipped in and raised enough money for replacing some items that were lost (including a TV). Hell, a lot of my RL friends wouldnt have done that.
To me, a definition of a friend is someone who enjoys your company and cares enough about you that they want you to be happy. Perhaps thats helping move your furniture, perhaps thats spending 4 hours of thier time helping you farm a mat or level an alt. perhaps its giving you 100 gold. Whatever the case , it isnt the action that makes it friendship...its the sentiment.
Now, as for how to meet good folks online. Well, in general its basically like RL. You have to go out and interact. IN MMORPG terms that means grouping. When you find someone who seems friendly, just throw them on your in game friends list and keep in contact with them. If you group with them enough you will come in contact with friends they know and become aquainted with them.
Not to sound too much like the school councilor, but just Be yourself...unless your a complete jerk. In that case a little deception can go a long way.
And when all else fails....Level a female toon.
Torrential
This pretty much sums it up I'd say
Making friends is not nearly as hard as keeping friends.
I have never really been interested in making friends in a MMO. Usually when I join a game I join it with RL friends. Most guilds are nothing more than a bunch of people that get together out of necessity that would never bother with each other in the real world. Im ok with that. We all use each other for whatever piece of loot we are looking for. I never pretend for a second that these people are my friends. The mutual using system works for me.