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Have you ever cheated on a lover or husband/wife?
Teala
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I have never, ever, ever, personally cheated on my ex's or anyone I was currently envolved with, though I had plenty of opportunities to cheat I never have. I am not going to say women cheat less than men, because I think it is probably 50/50 in that department. There was a time when I was married that this one guy...OMG he was gorgeous, I was working at HP at the time and delt with a lot of clients and this one guy had his own company out of San Fran - guy was a millionaire - and we hit it off. Our first meeting was anything but perfect. I actually ran smack into him as I was coming around a corner with my arms full of folders and stuff. I fell to the floor (on my butt) and papers went everywhere! LOL! I almost cussed. Then I looked up from where I was sitting and there was this guy.
OMG he was so fraking gorgeous I lost my tongue and my brain! He quickly moved to help me up and said he was sorry and I was like..."thank you...umm...no it was my fault...I I..." Seriosuly I was tongued tied. He was a real gentleman about it and even helped me pick up all the papers. Then! Then...we(co-workers and I that were working on a business proposal for his company and ours) were invited to dinner to discuss the propasal. Wouldn't you know it...he picks us up in a limo and just as I am walking down the steps toward the limo my heel breaks. Frak...I had to run all the way back up to my office and grab my spare pair of shoes I always kept in a draw. lol
Then...at the dinner I knocked my glass of water over and it spilt all over the table. This only made me feel like a total clumsy idiot and I remember getting up from the table and going to the restroom and balling my eyes out! LOL! I ended up havingto take off my make-up and putting it all back on...in a hurry. Oh god it was sad. Later I was sitting at the bar in the restuarant by myself and he came up to me and told me not to worry about all that had happend that day that people have bad days and that he knew I was having one. I was relieved. OMG...once he said that I felt like I was talking to someone I had known all my life. We hit it off.
For the next couple of days while he was in town we had lots of chances to talk and hang out and before he left to go back to San Fran he asked if I cared to come to San Fran with him to see his company and meet some of the people we'd be working with. He said I wouldn't need to worry about a place to stay because I could stay on his yacht. I was so tempted...but the ring on my finger I swear started burning. The thing was he knew I was married and even offered to fly my hubby and me both down! Even then...there is no way I would have gone unless my company was up for it and even then I do not know if I would have gone because I know the temptation of sleeping with this guy was going to be constantly on my mind. So I had to turn him down in the end. Thank god! That was one time, though I loved my hubby deeply I was seriously tempted to sleep with someone else, simple because this guy was so frakking hawt!!!!!!!!!!!
So tell me peoples...
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I cheated on my girlfriend when i was 20. We were in a LTR on it's second year and i just didn't care. I had no conscious since i was a firm believer in "what they don't know won't hurt them".
It happened at a private party i went to with some of my friends. I ended up in bed with one of the girls in one of the guest rooms. I got her number and promised to call her the next day but never did. I went home the next day and woke my girlfriend up for some 'playtime' like nothing had happened.
Being in my mid thirties now and married i have ofc grown up since then. That was my one time of 'fame' and never felt like repeating it. So it's not always true that once a cheater always a cheater. People do change.. you just can't change other people.
Do i regret i did it. Sure ..i would change the outcome of that evening if i could.. But i probably wouldn't then. I'm happy to say that i have a whole lot more loyalty and a conscience today than i did back then.
Naaah, never. I never did see the point after all to do that. When I am in a relationship I have to be in love with my partner so in the end I don't really pay attention to any other "temptations" so to speak.
Lol I have been cheated though a few times:P
A friend is not him who provides support during your failures.A friend is the one that cheers you during your successes.
I've been cheated on before but I've never done it. Never saw the point. I know what it's like for me and I'd never want it to happen to the other person. If it really came down to cheating I'd consider ending the current relationship assuming that it wasn't going all that well.
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When you have a girlfriend/boyfriend and you sleep with someone, like a one night stand... I don't think thats considered cheating. Having a girlfriend/boyfriend and then seeing someone else I think is really cheating..
Because if just sleeping with someone is considered "cheating" then I would have to change my vote.
I like girls... too much to just bang one of them..
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If I have a girlfriend... Shes my girl.. thats it.. I'd go around the world and back for her but that other girl I slept with the other night... Just a lay, I can give two shits about her.
Yes.. I'm a womanizer. But I'm not an asshole.
p.s.
I loveeee stealing girlfriends.
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What if Paul Revere was like the boy who cried wolf....?
Originally posted by Hazmal
What does he say when people ask what he did? "My mommy was irking me yo - I wanted to keep pwning nubs on my xbox, so I roughed her up with a hardshell. That is just how I roll."
Then if she sleeps around on you, you're OK with that?
Lover...asif you have to ask.
Wife..never..old school here.and I have never hit a women,if she hits me i just hugger real hard,and whisper in her ear,tell she stops fighting Southern gentleman,but i have had the crap slapped out me more than once. aggressive Filthy mouth.
But if she messed around on me,,, i still wouldn't,she would have to be dead,for me to pull that monster out.Yo
I ws just thinking about some of the comments made here from the girls.Yo
Trade in material assumptions for spiritual facts and make permanent progress.
Cheating is easy. Staying true is the hard part. There are tons of temptations and opportunities out there. It's just a matter of what type of person you want to be. If i ever felt the need to stray i would rather divorce first than do that to my wife. Then i could live the single life all i wanted without hurting anybody.
There is always ways to cheat and it came across me many times. Girls cheat on me I could give a dman and then a week later they come back seeking a real man. Personally I don't see a valid reason to cheat. If your not feeling the person, man-up (that's a word that goes for the male and the female) and tell them and leave them. My generation of ladies (and guys) just don't know what they want. Girls not wanting to be actually commited with a real man, yet they feel like they are at their time where they think they should play around. That only goes for some, but not all yet there are guys that feel the same way too.
I just think cheating silly. If you have to cheat on somebody I think it shows just how weak emotionally of a person you are. I got the balls to call a relationshp off if I'm not feeling it (of course I will work it out), but I would never bouce a relationship just because another girl has intrest in me. I still got ladies who screwed me over trying to be friends with me because they want the real thing, pretty riki is not going to put up with that though.
So no, never cheated on anybody. I've been cheated on but I rather do, because I will always find a girl better than what I had before...and Teala, you got to to hit me up with some paragraphs. Split those run-ons. I know you can do better...unless your wasted tonight. ha ha ha.
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lets see..
first long relationship I ever had, the girl cheated on me. no biggy, I was young, we broke up. she actually married the guy and started a family. yay for her
dataed a girl for 7 years and got married. During our marriage she got pregnant and had an abortion, which she told me at the time was a miscarriage. Very soon after that I got the feeling shes cheating on me, coming home at 5am and going out with poeple I for some reason never get to meet. 6 months after the abortion, we divorce. A year after we divorced she gave birth to a child from the guy I suspected she cheated on me with. Shes stil not married, had the child and..I really dont know what else shes up to. Its funny how after you find out you've been cheated on by someone you thought you knew how you look back and think "damn how blind could I have been?"
Got into a 2 year relationship back in 98-2000. Caught the girl giving her number out while we were out shooting pool coming back from the bar. Found out that she had 3 other boyfriends who she would call for a booty call occassionally.
got into a 3 year relationship after that, found out the girl I was having an affair with a married man who lived out of town and would come down to visit every few months. Coincidentally, her best friend.. married for 15 years was having a nearly identicle affair with a man who would come visit twice a year. She had the balls to claim he was just a friend and actually had him over for dinner where he sat across the table from her husband.
These are just the long term girlfriends and every one of them cheated on me. Have I ever done it? No, I find it despicable. I will say I know why this happened, it was just a poor choice in the girls I chose to date and being a bit naive. Since Ive been schooled in avoiding girls with a princess syndrome and/or attention whores, I met someone who Im very compatable with and have an incredible trust for. Weve been dating for 2 years and we just bought a house in November. We plan on getting married, I actually just bought her ring a month ago and will be surprising her with it on our cruise this month.
Im just thankfull through all this that I didnt catch any STD's. I mean, these were the girls that I thought I KNEW. I think about all the other women who I just slept with on one nighters, or dated for a month or a week or so and it just gets pretty damn scary.
anyway, thanks for letting me confide in you
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That's actually called cheating lol.
Me, personally, have never cheated on my wife and when I had a girlfriend I never cheated on them either.
People who have to create conspiracy and hate threads to further a cause lacks in intellectual comprehension of diversity.
I've never done anything even close to resembling cheating when I have ANYONE in my life that I'm committed to in a relational capacity.
Your argument is like a two legged dog with an eating disorder...weak and unbalanced.
i've got no boyfriend ever. but i think maybe everyone has cheated on lover. it depends, if u tell a white lie, it doesn't matter and the lover would understand. if u did sth wrong and cheated, it's another situation.
Well...for me,while i was dating my wife i saw other people,she knew and as for her she was seeing others too,but of course she always kept it a secrete,asfi i didn't know a and i didn't really care,so i thought at that time, now i get jealous but i try not to show it.I think has to do with the fact that I'm 7 yrs older.Maturing faster than her cant be a real night-mare,don't attempt this unless your "most" skilled.
I knew from the start that she was the one,more of a feeling than it was really knowing ,but i really had to sow my oats before i settled down.So it wasn't an issue of screwing around for me,more of prepping myself for the future.DOH
Trade in material assumptions for spiritual facts and make permanent progress.
Sounds cheesy and moralistic, but no. Never. I either love or I dont. Period. When I feel the air is out I'd rather end the relationship. I am usually very clingy and a very loyal person. Who has my friendship has it 100% not 98, not 99.
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No, never cheated and i doubt i ever will. When i start a relationship with a woman, i'm in it all the way. Like a loyal puppy
(except that i don't hump her leg... and i don't pee all over the place either)
Yes I have. Unfortianatly most women I dated treated me like trash when I treated them like a princess. I had a Plt Sgt give me this advice, treat a princess like a whore and a whore like a princess and your troubles wil be over. So yes I am an asshole, but hey it works out.
"Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness". No one can stop anyone from pursuing happiness, but life and liberty are said to only exist if they are deliberately sought and paid for".
I was married 14 years, my ex cheated on me at least 8 times that I know of...(I used to say ten times, but she still denies that) Too many lies to keep track of.
I tried to stick it out for the kids. All it did for them was make their lives hell.
I never cheated on her, but she wanted to have an open marriage, so I tried to be that for her....big mistake. Don't do it. ever. It's a box you can never close once it's opened. PERIOD. ...Trust me you will think it's fun but only for so long...then the pain starts to set in. This lifestyle is a hollywood fantasy and NOT stable. I couldn't make her see that though.
I never knew someone so close could create so much pain to a person's soul, and I'd NEVER wish it on anyone else....I think I'd rather burn alive than go through that again.
The worst part is....She never could tell me why, would only tell me I was great and that she just wanted to be selfish...her words... eventually it became a pat answer for her that I didn't make enough money (despite owning a house and 2 paid for vehicles....that one just didn't float.....Still own the house..lol, it's a rental now making me money)
Met my current girl online, been with her over 2 years now and will marry her someday....she's sooooo not ever going to cheat..lol. Can't explain that, just know it. I'm happy to say that I'd never cheat on her too.
Can any man ever really answer yes to this question? Unless, of course, you have video evidence. In that case I was drugged without my knowlege.
I've never cheated on a gf but I will say this. If a woman isn't getting the goods delivered at home, many times she will go elsewhere to get things taken care of. If you aren't committed to taking care of your partners needs, or even trying to attempt you might want to get out of that relationship.
Don't be terrorized! You're more likely to die of a car accident, drowning, fire, or murder! More people die every year from prescription drugs than terrorism LOL!
Been married for ten years and haven't cheated. Then again, no one else has shown any interest in fucking me so I guess that isn't really much of an accomplishment. If some did express that they wanted some, I'm not sure how I'd react. hell, I'd probably be too shocked to react. When I came to my senses I would probably become too suspicious of the woman's actual motives to take her offer seriously.
Then if she sleeps around on you, you're OK with that?
No, abso-lutely not... I catch her, shes done with...
You can call me sexist?
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What if Paul Revere was like the boy who cried wolf....?
Originally posted by Hazmal
What does he say when people ask what he did? "My mommy was irking me yo - I wanted to keep pwning nubs on my xbox, so I roughed her up with a hardshell. That is just how I roll."
We had such a great time eh? LMAO j/k
No, abso-lutely not... I catch her, shes done with...
You can call me sexist?
I wouldn't say sexist, but it's a common response. I don't think you are neither the first nor the last that has double standards:)
Plus cheating technically speaking is not the sex part that much, it's the lieing part. The moment you lie to your partner that's when you cheat more or less.
A friend is not him who provides support during your failures.A friend is the one that cheers you during your successes.
Funny, but the most unfortunate part of that statement is that it is true. One of the deepest most disturbing parts of humanity is that we live in a very different world than the one we hold to our illusions, and it isn't pretty.
My blog is a continuing story of what MMO's should be like.
No, abso-lutely not... I catch her, shes done with...
You can call me sexist?
I wouldn't say sexist, but it's a common response. I don't think you are neither the first nor the last that has double standards:)
Plus cheating technically speaking is not the sex part that much, it's the lieing part. The moment you lie to your partner that's when you cheat more or less.
Agreed.
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What if Paul Revere was like the boy who cried wolf....?
Originally posted by Hazmal
What does he say when people ask what he did? "My mommy was irking me yo - I wanted to keep pwning nubs on my xbox, so I roughed her up with a hardshell. That is just how I roll."