To me, addiction is a word made by some pussy long ago who had no willpower and decided he needed a new name for being a pussy so he chose addict. .....
I am a 40 year old long time gamer and drug addict. Don't listen to anyone on this forum.
If you want to stop and you can't, tell your parents you want to see a therapist.
I just quit smoking after being addicted to nicotine for 28 years. Everyone says when you quit smoking it sucks for about 3 days. Well it was one month of hell for me. I wasn't able to drive or go out in public.
Different people are different. If you can't limit your time, then quit gaming altogether. If you can't do that, see a therapist.
But the good news is you are still young. And if you take action now, no harm done.
First of all- addiction comes in many forms and some cannot yet be explained, but don't delude yourself or anyone else with nonsense of people with addictions being pussies... Your brain reacts electrically and chemically in different ways to different stimulants- and this is different from person to person. Unless you are an epicurean, one day you will find something that makes you feel such a way- that you find yourself thinking about it when your not doing it and surely enough finding ways to do it instead of think of it. I personally have never been addicted to anything, and apparently neither have you- but addiction is real but I suppose you don't believe in evolution either, and that's ok... but when someone actually comes looking for advice and you tell them to just stop being a pussy, you deserve to be punched in the mouth.
Now to address the OP- I would suggest first canceling the subscription and telling your parents about your ambitions and asking them to hang on to the credit card (if its yours or theirs) and just tell them how you feel and tell them not to let you use it... if you find yourself compelled to steal it back, call the bank and tell them to put a stop payment- have your parents say my son keeps trying to play this damn game, I don't want this card being used for "blah blah blah"... also- give away your account info in open chat- spam it then log out... Anything you can do to make it a hassle for yourself to possibly play again.
As someone who knows dream weaver well and gaming even more- you have to make it entertaining for yourself- there are numerous sites with lots of videos on how to get started in DW infact I know the disc that comes with it has some video intros and the site link for more. If you find yourself getting bored with it- then take a break, if you burn yourself out you will be screwed altogether. Also maybe pick a project, instead of just "learning dreamweaver" say "Hey, I'm going to develop an i'm addicted to gaming site" or even ilikedarkmeat.com- whatever it may be, choose something you are passionate about and then learn that way... Task by task "How do I make a cool background" "How bout nifty buttons... " etc etc etc.
And good luck.
There... that's what I got... I hope it helped, now help yourself.
Originally posted by skydragonren You keep saying my opinions are colored by what I have seen in the past. I do not agree with this. I have never let what I have seen in the past affect my life growing up or have any affect on my life as an adult. I could really care less what my father did.
How you are raised, the environment, and the people in the environment positively alter you as a person. It has been proven many times that this is true. Trying to act like a "badass" and say you were in complete control of how you turned out is just plain naive and wrong. Even if you never told your story, from a psychological perspective, it's pretty easy to see you had an unfortunately hard upbringing in your childhood.
Examples are you are unnecessarily aggressively to people that need help and in your eyes makes them a "pussy" and are "weak". Some people are wired differently and aren't like you. Your difficult upbringing obviously made you have a tough exterior and able to handle a lot of stress and problems, good that you turned a negative into a positive. Others were raised differently and don't fit your perspective, so have a little slack. A "swift kick in the ass" isn't always the best answer.
So please, don't preach "it's your fault you turned left". Some people had to turn left or thought left was the best choice at the time. Everything is not under your control. You're articulate and obviously intelligent and have a good head on your shoulders, but everything simply does not fit into your little box.
What if your passion for MMOs could be channeled productively? You could get a job as a game tester, write (and maybe sell) game guides, actually make money in games like Project Entropia, SoE Exchange and similar games.
Just saying if you are passionate about MMO gameplay , you may find something useful. If it is disupting your relationship with others close to you then by all means get help
What if your passion for MMOs could be channeled productively? You could get a job as a game tester, write (and maybe sell) game guides, actually make money in games like Project Entropia, SoE Exchange and similar games. Just saying if you are passionate about MMO gameplay , you may find something useful.
This is something I considered myself. I eventually realized that there were underlying reasons as to why I played games so much. I also came to the conclusion that, despite the fact I'd be doing work that I loved, I wouldn't be able to stop playing long enough to get any real work done.
If you are truly as ambitious as you say you are, then you should muster up the strength to get your gaming under control. If not, I hear there is a clinic in Amsterdam that deals with gaming addiction. Buy I'm sorry to say, even they say gaming is NOT an addiction. Not to mention that you might get some other "addictions" while you are there...
This is what I thought when I read his story.
From dictionary.com:
1. Ambitious, aspiring, enterprising describe a person who wishes to rise above his or her present position or condition.
3. Requiring or showing much effort; challenging: an ambitious schedule.
News flash! you aren't ambitious as you think you are. If you were, you'd be doing something with your life, that is in fact the definition of ambitious. You're more of a dreamer, you dream of great things you could do and then do nothing, there is a big difference. Grow up, stop acting like a stupid high school kid and you'll be fine. Otherwise, if you love MMOs so much and you are ambitious - combine your ambitions and addiction into something that makes you rich.
I could not agree with you more. I would even go a step further and say he's not a dreamer, he's spoiled, plain and simple.
The first clue comes when he mentions throwing his $2,000 computer out the window. A computer that also happens to have at least another $600 plus in programs, assuming he does not have the full Adobe Suite.
I'm willing to bet money mommie and daddie bought him that. They probably also buy him $500 shoes, $70 T-shirts and I would not be surprized if they bought him a BMW too. That is his plight. It's not that he's pissing his life way, but that he knows that if he keeps his course of action, he will never be able to afford those things. And deep down he knows his parents will not be able to bank him and buy him all the best while he is living with them when he's in his 40's playing whatever MMO is hip then.
Simply put, if he wants to change, he has 3 options:
1- grow up and be responsable
2- Channel his like of video games and get a job in the gaming industry
3 - go see a therapist and piss some more of his parent's money away.
And please, coming here crying about being addicted to video games is the same thing as going to bar and crying that you are an alchoholic....
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You are an ass.
To the OP.
I am a 40 year old long time gamer and drug addict. Don't listen to anyone on this forum.
If you want to stop and you can't, tell your parents you want to see a therapist.
I just quit smoking after being addicted to nicotine for 28 years. Everyone says when you quit smoking it sucks for about 3 days. Well it was one month of hell for me. I wasn't able to drive or go out in public.
Different people are different. If you can't limit your time, then quit gaming altogether. If you can't do that, see a therapist.
But the good news is you are still young. And if you take action now, no harm done.
First of all- addiction comes in many forms and some cannot yet be explained, but don't delude yourself or anyone else with nonsense of people with addictions being pussies... Your brain reacts electrically and chemically in different ways to different stimulants- and this is different from person to person. Unless you are an epicurean, one day you will find something that makes you feel such a way- that you find yourself thinking about it when your not doing it and surely enough finding ways to do it instead of think of it. I personally have never been addicted to anything, and apparently neither have you- but addiction is real but I suppose you don't believe in evolution either, and that's ok... but when someone actually comes looking for advice and you tell them to just stop being a pussy, you deserve to be punched in the mouth.
Now to address the OP- I would suggest first canceling the subscription and telling your parents about your ambitions and asking them to hang on to the credit card (if its yours or theirs) and just tell them how you feel and tell them not to let you use it... if you find yourself compelled to steal it back, call the bank and tell them to put a stop payment- have your parents say my son keeps trying to play this damn game, I don't want this card being used for "blah blah blah"... also- give away your account info in open chat- spam it then log out... Anything you can do to make it a hassle for yourself to possibly play again.
As someone who knows dream weaver well and gaming even more- you have to make it entertaining for yourself- there are numerous sites with lots of videos on how to get started in DW infact I know the disc that comes with it has some video intros and the site link for more. If you find yourself getting bored with it- then take a break, if you burn yourself out you will be screwed altogether. Also maybe pick a project, instead of just "learning dreamweaver" say "Hey, I'm going to develop an i'm addicted to gaming site" or even ilikedarkmeat.com- whatever it may be, choose something you are passionate about and then learn that way... Task by task "How do I make a cool background" "How bout nifty buttons... " etc etc etc.
And good luck.
There... that's what I got... I hope it helped, now help yourself.
ALL YOUR PLAYER BASE ARE BELONG TO KITTY!
How you are raised, the environment, and the people in the environment positively alter you as a person. It has been proven many times that this is true. Trying to act like a "badass" and say you were in complete control of how you turned out is just plain naive and wrong. Even if you never told your story, from a psychological perspective, it's pretty easy to see you had an unfortunately hard upbringing in your childhood.
Examples are you are unnecessarily aggressively to people that need help and in your eyes makes them a "pussy" and are "weak". Some people are wired differently and aren't like you. Your difficult upbringing obviously made you have a tough exterior and able to handle a lot of stress and problems, good that you turned a negative into a positive. Others were raised differently and don't fit your perspective, so have a little slack. A "swift kick in the ass" isn't always the best answer.
So please, don't preach "it's your fault you turned left". Some people had to turn left or thought left was the best choice at the time. Everything is not under your control. You're articulate and obviously intelligent and have a good head on your shoulders, but everything simply does not fit into your little box.
Go outside.
Ok, you all may call me Lucifer after this...
What if your passion for MMOs could be channeled productively? You could get a job as a game tester, write (and maybe sell) game guides, actually make money in games like Project Entropia, SoE Exchange and similar games.
Just saying if you are passionate about MMO gameplay , you may find something useful. If it is disupting your relationship with others close to you then by all means get help
This is something I considered myself. I eventually realized that there were underlying reasons as to why I played games so much. I also came to the conclusion that, despite the fact I'd be doing work that I loved, I wouldn't be able to stop playing long enough to get any real work done.
This is what I thought when I read his story.
From dictionary.com:
1. Ambitious, aspiring, enterprising describe a person who wishes to rise above his or her present position or condition.
3. Requiring or showing much effort; challenging: an ambitious schedule.
News flash! you aren't ambitious as you think you are. If you were, you'd be doing something with your life, that is in fact the definition of ambitious. You're more of a dreamer, you dream of great things you could do and then do nothing, there is a big difference. Grow up, stop acting like a stupid high school kid and you'll be fine. Otherwise, if you love MMOs so much and you are ambitious - combine your ambitions and addiction into something that makes you rich.
I could not agree with you more. I would even go a step further and say he's not a dreamer, he's spoiled, plain and simple.
The first clue comes when he mentions throwing his $2,000 computer out the window. A computer that also happens to have at least another $600 plus in programs, assuming he does not have the full Adobe Suite.
I'm willing to bet money mommie and daddie bought him that. They probably also buy him $500 shoes, $70 T-shirts and I would not be surprized if they bought him a BMW too. That is his plight. It's not that he's pissing his life way, but that he knows that if he keeps his course of action, he will never be able to afford those things. And deep down he knows his parents will not be able to bank him and buy him all the best while he is living with them when he's in his 40's playing whatever MMO is hip then.
Simply put, if he wants to change, he has 3 options:
1- grow up and be responsable
2- Channel his like of video games and get a job in the gaming industry
3 - go see a therapist and piss some more of his parent's money away.
And please, coming here crying about being addicted to video games is the same thing as going to bar and crying that you are an alchoholic....
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