Healthy to play?

MRKafagus

Is it really that mentally healthy to play FFXI every day, all day...  then talk to your friends about it (even if the freinds don't play the game themselves)  I think I have learned all I need to know about the game from this person, and I never really wanted a human walkthrough... I don't and haven't even played FFXI. 

Is there any way that I could get this friend to quit playing the game for a bit, and act like a normal human again?  

thanks fo your help

Wizardry

Well being that i have been around a long time and have tons of different friends in all aspects of life,this is an easy one to respond to.

What most people need to remember,is that every single person ,no matter who you are has some free time to waste everyday.Now how you choose to goof off or spend this free time is up to each individual.Some people like myself find gaming a little relaxing after a hard days work.When u say ,you want your friend to return to a normal life,there is no reason he cant have it both,like i said you always have some free time along the way.

You cant show bitterness ,because your friend wont share his free time the way YOU want him too.I have heard so many BS excuses like....i have 3 kids you only have 1,or i cant see wasting my time playing stupid games,while under that same breathe,there off to the corner store to spend 200 bucks a mnth on cigarettes.,or another 100 bucks on scratch an win tickets,or lay on the couch watching reality shows or vanna white an wheel of fortune.Well you see my point,everyone has a gripe,and nobody is perfect,to each his own...it will never change.,live with it.

Kerronz

I sorta agree with the last poster.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

I have a friend who've I had a HUGE crush on for the longest time. I enjoy hanging out with him, playing games, talking, and our humor level is so close that well, it's just fun! We didn't meet through a game, but through a friend. We shared enjoyment of FF:XI and both quit, and now we're looking forward to EQ2.

You can't change someone, they have to make their own decisions. You could gripe and say, 'He/she choose the game over me.' But that's just an angry way to look at it. The truth is, people make their own choices; you can explain how you would like to spend more time with him/her, but in the end they will make the choice to spend their free time as they wish, just as you're spending time and making the choice to pursue that person, in the subject of 'health.' (I'm not dissin' it, but just using your previous post as the example.)

I hope I made sense there.

Free_D

It seems that he loves the game, just like everybody else but maybe you can tell him to speak a little less of the game if you don't play it. Maybe he can find a friend that lives near him that he can talk with. I think it's enough to talk with those in my linkshell but sometimes I talk to my friends about it just to get them start playing and everyone want to but they don't want to pay a monthly fee for any kind of game

stse

The first poster't point is the best. Each person will have to make their own decision about what they do with their time. If you really want him to stop, then there really isn't anything that you can control that would make him change. It is more of a sudden even in his life that will change the way he will think about it. More like a revelation or realization. One has to make these decisions themselves, gameing more important or real life. It is hard at times, but yes, you will have to live with it.

I think the only realy thing you could do is to urge the person to go out more to parties, bars, clubs or just hanging out anywhere that is away from computers or games. Once people realize that there is a more interesting world outside of their computer, things change .

Unknown

Most people get into games to oversee a story, see their character progress, and some times it can seem obsessive, but you have to remember that all stories have to end, and eventually he will get to a wall where it says that his story will end, he will slow down,  and play it less. Just keep him from impeding his rl and things will be fine.

I played EQ for awhile pretty religiously but eventually I got bored with it and quit and went back to my regular life. This was sophmore year HS. I had good times, a few girlfriends, then my closest gf went back to Korea and I got bored again and about spring 2004, I picked up FFXI and have been hapy with my real life as it is. I play every day, but that is only 2-3 hrs late at night, 3-4 on a boring day.

People get obsessed about all kinds of things. Just make sure he keeps what he needs, do what you like, and let him do as he likes.