Only YOU control your own happiness. Others can influence your mood, but in the end, this all comes back to YOU!
Be yourself, know yourself and always find happiness in the shittiest of moments. Does moping around make you feel better? HELL NO! Flip on some music and scream it out loud and freaking smile- I tend to find "So What" quite therapeutic
"I used to think the worst thing in life was to be all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone." Robin Williams
Is there anyway you can cure a broken heart, or at least alleviate the pain? Or is this something that just takes time?
(I'm starting to get worried if it's the time thing)
First would be try and not think about it , immerse your self in your favorite hobby, video games take my mind off the real world , there is always more fish in the sea try and catch one worth your time and personality wise just like you.
Heartbreaks are a personal thing and are tied into feelings and a situation that only you really know.
Like just the other day I went to a bakery down the street from where I live and the gentleman in front of me purchased the last chocolate eclair I'd been craving all day long. My heart was broken.
Member "A" might give me advice and say "Just go back tomorrow when they have made more and you will get your eclair"
While this is good/sound advice it might not be what I need because they don't know that I wanted a tasty pastry right then and my strong feelings towards accomplishing this goal.
What I'm trying to say is that while you might find the answer/way to cure that broken heart on a message board, most likely the answer lies within yourself and you just have to discover it.
Heartbreaks are a personal thing and are tied into feelings and a situation that only you really know.
Like just the other day I went to a bakery down the street from where I live and the gentleman in front of me purchased the last chocolate eclair I'd been craving all day long. My heart was broken.
Member "A" might give me advice and say "Just go back tomorrow when they have made more and you will get your eclair"
While this is good/sound advice it might not be what I need because they don't know that I wanted a tasty pastry right then and my strong feelings towards accomplishing this goal.
What I'm trying to say is that while you might find the answer/way to cure that broken heart on a message board, most likely the answer lies within yourself and you just have to discover it.
It seems obvious, but I think that's the first time I've heard that one. Wise advice Everyone here has had great advice and have been very kind. I almost wish I would have posted here first instead of asking my personal friends on how to handle the situation, all that led me to was a string of terrible relationships.
I've been immersing myself in lots of exercise, job hunting, and video games. Heard about a great job opportunity recently from an old friend, and I'm getting in pretty great shape. I'm feeling pretty good right now Sometimes I still wake up and my brain is still in the past and I have a split second where I wonder where he is or what happened (like why isn't there a warm body on the other side of the bed like there always has been lol), but then I remember and figure maybe there's a good reason he's not here, and I pick myself up and go be the best I can be.
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Those suggesting you distract yourself from it are essentially saying "bottle it up".
That's exactly what you are doing when you distract, may as well do some blow, it'll have the same outcome.
That being nothing.
This is why you'll just be randomly say peeing and think of the person and start balling, you've not faced the outlying issues entirely.
I suggest you really REALLY reflect on the situation, break yourself down, break them down and reason why things go sour (I can tell you now 99% of it is youthful inexperience, IE Arguing...)
Face the facts of why the partner left, come to terms with it and over time you'll get better. You will be fine and you will get over it. That's the lovely factor of said "love bug" it hits again eventually.
Time helps but only if you use it correctly. If you waste your time distracting yourself and staying busy BECAUSE of the facts at hand you are no better than a person who drinks their sorrows away and goes home from the bar and cries their little wittle hearts out.
In otherwords be strong and face things. Or not and be the girl who fixates on one instance of their life as the worlds greatest cataclysm. (Hell when I was your age I did that myself, boy what a emo little wah wah I was).
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Yup...love yourself!
Only YOU control your own happiness. Others can influence your mood, but in the end, this all comes back to YOU!
Be yourself, know yourself and always find happiness in the shittiest of moments. Does moping around make you feel better? HELL NO! Flip on some music and scream it out loud and freaking smile- I tend to find "So What" quite therapeutic
Chocolate. Except when it's above 90°.
Only time.
Although if you want a quick fix try
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cocaine
Or
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heroin
Although these tend to have long term side effects.
First would be try and not think about it , immerse your self in your favorite hobby, video games take my mind off the real world , there is always more fish in the sea try and catch one worth your time and personality wise just like you.
Heartbreaks are a personal thing and are tied into feelings and a situation that only you really know.
Like just the other day I went to a bakery down the street from where I live and the gentleman in front of me purchased the last chocolate eclair I'd been craving all day long. My heart was broken.
Member "A" might give me advice and say "Just go back tomorrow when they have made more and you will get your eclair"
While this is good/sound advice it might not be what I need because they don't know that I wanted a tasty pastry right then and my strong feelings towards accomplishing this goal.
What I'm trying to say is that while you might find the answer/way to cure that broken heart on a message board, most likely the answer lies within yourself and you just have to discover it.
It seems obvious, but I think that's the first time I've heard that one. Wise advice
Everyone here has had great advice and have been very kind. I almost wish I would have posted here first instead of asking my personal friends on how to handle the situation, all that led me to was a string of terrible relationships.
I've been immersing myself in lots of exercise, job hunting, and video games. Heard about a great job opportunity recently from an old friend, and I'm getting in pretty great shape. I'm feeling pretty good right now
Sometimes I still wake up and my brain is still in the past and I have a split second where I wonder where he is or what happened (like why isn't there a warm body on the other side of the bed like there always has been lol), but then I remember and figure maybe there's a good reason he's not here, and I pick myself up and go be the best I can be.
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Playing:
FFXIV, TERA, LoL, and HoTS
My Rig:
GPU: GeForce GTX 770, CPU: i7-4790K, Memory: 16 GB RAM
Relationships are funny.
Those suggesting you distract yourself from it are essentially saying "bottle it up".
That's exactly what you are doing when you distract, may as well do some blow, it'll have the same outcome.
That being nothing.
This is why you'll just be randomly say peeing and think of the person and start balling, you've not faced the outlying issues entirely.
I suggest you really REALLY reflect on the situation, break yourself down, break them down and reason why things go sour (I can tell you now 99% of it is youthful inexperience, IE Arguing...)
Face the facts of why the partner left, come to terms with it and over time you'll get better. You will be fine and you will get over it. That's the lovely factor of said "love bug" it hits again eventually.
Time helps but only if you use it correctly. If you waste your time distracting yourself and staying busy BECAUSE of the facts at hand you are no better than a person who drinks their sorrows away and goes home from the bar and cries their little wittle hearts out.
In otherwords be strong and face things. Or not and be the girl who fixates on one instance of their life as the worlds greatest cataclysm. (Hell when I was your age I did that myself, boy what a emo little wah wah I was).