There is something really wrong with you if you fall in love in an MMO, seriously wake up.
I can understand you find someone interesting and fall in love after you meet her/him and spend some time together.
But IN an MMO? Come on take a break, don't avoid life so much.
Isn't the purpose of escapism to escape?
Climb down off the pulpit.
Self-pity imprisons us in the walls of our own self-absorption. The whole world shrinks down to the size of our problem, and the more we dwell on it, the smaller we are and the larger the problem seems to grow.
I met my partner about 2 years ago in EVE online. We gave ourselves a three month limit. Either meet in real life (ofc we talked on voice/video chat all day usually) or leave each other alone by then. I lived on the west coast. He flew out, we pooled some money together, got to know each other for about 3 more months in person and then drove coast to coast trying to find a new place to settle.
We moved pretty fast, but I don't regret it. What ensued was one of the best adventures of my life. Driving through the US with two cats, living in hotels, exploring the nation. Going from California to Maine was tiring, but worth it. We eventually settled in Cleveland because cost vs. standard of living just can't be beat here.
So I guess it does happen. But, I think there is a difference between cybering/internet dating and actually getting to know someone.
We are both happy, it's probably the best thing that has ever happened to me. One benefit, you know your partner is at least somewhat of a gamer, so that's out of the way. Hehe
I met my fiancee on an MMO. So ya it's certainly possible. We where in a long distance relationship for about a year till I decided to move in with him. We are still planning on a wedding date though.
Im from Oregon and she was from British Columbia Canada.
After Virtual Dating(Many hours on the phone) we met about a year after we had been gaming together.
We are going on married for 10 years now. We have two kids now so the gaming time is all but gone. In fact she doesnt game at all anymore but I still do when I have time.
Honestly, We got to know each other much much better then we would have if we had met at a bar or what not.
There are many stories out there from people, neither of us were looking, it just happened. You cant use an MMO as a dating site though. If by chance it happens, thats great but you cant look at an MMO as a way to look for a relationship.
There is something really wrong with you if you fall in love in an MMO, seriously wake up.
I can understand you find someone interesting and fall in love after you meet her/him and spend some time together.
But IN an MMO? Come on take a break, don't avoid life so much.
I think the same could be said about dating websites or facebook then, right?
Definitely yes.
Falling in love with bits and bytes is to weird.
But with someone you know from a game in real life is different. I was talking about falling in love IN game.
You don't fall for the computer or the avatar - it has nothing to do with bits and bytes. You fall for the person on the other computer. Assuming people are honest (bad assumption, yes, but lets go with it), besides the physical aspect what are you lacking? You can get to know the person, talk to them, learn their personality, beliefs, ideologies, etc. You can form a bond that has nothing to do with physical desire in a medium that both of your have an interest in.
If you need a face to fall in love with, that's fine, but not everyone does.
I'm not advocating assuming an interest or a crush is some kind of all-consuming love, but it can happen without people being face to face. I'd think it would be more of the exception than the rule for it to occur though.
There is something really wrong with you if you fall in love in an MMO, seriously wake up.
I can understand you find someone interesting and fall in love after you meet her/him and spend some time together.
But IN an MMO? Come on take a break, don't avoid life so much.
Isn't the purpose of escapism to escape?
Climb down off the pulpit.
Sure I think that's why we play games, MMORPG's in particular. To ventilate some stress, and be a hero. For some it's like reading a book, watch a movie. Get involved in an invironment and story.
I wonder how you think about falling in love with a fictional character in a book, or an actress you discovered in a movie, or the character that particular actress plays. Sounds healthy?
Perhaps we're not talking about the same kind of love...maybe I'm to emotional and maybe to me falling in love sounds more like thinking about that person all the time and wanting to be a part in her/his life.
There is something really wrong with you if you fall in love in an MMO, seriously wake up.
I can understand you find someone interesting and fall in love after you meet her/him and spend some time together.
But IN an MMO? Come on take a break, don't avoid life so much.
I think the same could be said about dating websites or facebook then, right?
Definitely yes.
Falling in love with bits and bytes is to weird.
But with someone you know from a game in real life is different. I was talking about falling in love IN game.
You don't fall for the computer or the avatar - it has nothing to do with bits and bytes. You fall for the person on the other computer. Assuming people are honest (bad assumption, yes, but lets go with it), besides the physical aspect what are you lacking? You can get to know the person, talk to them, learn their personality, beliefs, ideologies, etc. You can form a bond that has nothing to do with physical desire in a medium that both of your have an interest in.
If you need a face to fall in love with, that's fine, but not everyone does.
I'm not advocating assuming an interest or a crush is some kind of all-consuming love, but it can happen without people being face to face. I'd think it would be more of the exception than the rule for it to occur though.
But it is nothing more than bits and bytes, the rest is influenced by your own desires and fantasy in a perfect setting with elves and dwarfs and beautiful purple skies that are not real.
If you don't plan to follow through irl then it would be strange. So, best advice is play the game and don't worry about someone half way across the other side of the world.
Originally posted by Jemcrystal I hear "I met my true love in an mmo" stories here and there. What you do not hear is the relationships that failed to work out. I had one of those when I first started gaming. Gaming world is like real life. Some times it works and sometimes not. Love is an unpredictable. I think people are making less productive relationships thru MMO's due to the level quick and easy models. I'm not sure that I care. Using MMO's like a dating service is probably over all stupid and dangerous. But I suppose it's no worse than meeting at bowling alley.
I fell in love at first sight with this Paladin wielding the Holy Avenger with +4 vs. Cheating Boyfriends! As time passed, she revealed to me that she is a multi-millionaire in real life and she couldn't actually cast healing spells outside WoW. I was shocked that this CEO Paladin fell in love with me and had little recourse but to dump the lying magicless loser! I'm so disgusted, I don't date humans anymore.
There is something really wrong with you if you fall in love in an MMO, seriously wake up.
I can understand you find someone interesting and fall in love after you meet her/him and spend some time together.
But IN an MMO? Come on take a break, don't avoid life so much.
I think the same could be said about dating websites or facebook then, right?
Definitely yes.
Falling in love with bits and bytes is to weird.
But with someone you know from a game in real life is different. I was talking about falling in love IN game.
You don't fall for the computer or the avatar - it has nothing to do with bits and bytes. You fall for the person on the other computer. Assuming people are honest (bad assumption, yes, but lets go with it), besides the physical aspect what are you lacking? You can get to know the person, talk to them, learn their personality, beliefs, ideologies, etc. You can form a bond that has nothing to do with physical desire in a medium that both of your have an interest in.
If you need a face to fall in love with, that's fine, but not everyone does.
I'm not advocating assuming an interest or a crush is some kind of all-consuming love, but it can happen without people being face to face. I'd think it would be more of the exception than the rule for it to occur though.
But it is nothing more than bits and bytes, the rest is influenced by your own desires and fantasy in a perfect setting with elves and dwarfs and beautiful purple skies that are not real.
And who are we to determine what's real. As far as I know, everything around us is just perception of our minds. Life is an MMO just on bigger scale - one big server called Earth /grin
There is something really wrong with you if you fall in love in an MMO, seriously wake up.
I can understand you find someone interesting and fall in love after you meet her/him and spend some time together.
But IN an MMO? Come on take a break, don't avoid life so much.
I think the same could be said about dating websites or facebook then, right?
Definitely yes.
Falling in love with bits and bytes is to weird.
But with someone you know from a game in real life is different. I was talking about falling in love IN game.
You don't fall for the computer or the avatar - it has nothing to do with bits and bytes. You fall for the person on the other computer. Assuming people are honest (bad assumption, yes, but lets go with it), besides the physical aspect what are you lacking? You can get to know the person, talk to them, learn their personality, beliefs, ideologies, etc. You can form a bond that has nothing to do with physical desire in a medium that both of your have an interest in.
If you need a face to fall in love with, that's fine, but not everyone does.
I'm not advocating assuming an interest or a crush is some kind of all-consuming love, but it can happen without people being face to face. I'd think it would be more of the exception than the rule for it to occur though.
But it is nothing more than bits and bytes, the rest is influenced by your own desires and fantasy in a perfect setting with elves and dwarfs and beautiful purple skies that are not real.
Perhaps I mistook the original intent of your post. If you mean people falling in love with a character, yes I agree it's absurd and that person needs a reality check.
But to fall in love with a person who plays the same game you play isn't so far fetched. Nor is there anything wrong with it.
I had a few opportunities to engage in relationships through MMO, but they never fell through for two reasons:
1. I never enjoyed dating people who had the same interest as me. It was always a intriguing to me to see how my lifestyle meshed with my partners and experiencing their connects. Having the same interests/hobbies was a bore. My wife absolutely hates MMOs...a keeper
2. I love physically contact in all forms. Just as inmportant to me and establishing all over relationship values. Meeting online never sastisfied it, period.
That being said, I've seen it happen many of times so it's not far fetched. I do believe it's not for everyone though...
There is something really wrong with you if you fall in love in an MMO, seriously wake up.
I can understand you find someone interesting and fall in love after you meet her/him and spend some time together.
But IN an MMO? Come on take a break, don't avoid life so much.
I think the same could be said about dating websites or facebook then, right?
Definitely yes.
Falling in love with bits and bytes is to weird.
But with someone you know from a game in real life is different. I was talking about falling in love IN game.
You don't fall for the computer or the avatar - it has nothing to do with bits and bytes. You fall for the person on the other computer. Assuming people are honest (bad assumption, yes, but lets go with it), besides the physical aspect what are you lacking? You can get to know the person, talk to them, learn their personality, beliefs, ideologies, etc. You can form a bond that has nothing to do with physical desire in a medium that both of your have an interest in.
If you need a face to fall in love with, that's fine, but not everyone does.
I'm not advocating assuming an interest or a crush is some kind of all-consuming love, but it can happen without people being face to face. I'd think it would be more of the exception than the rule for it to occur though.
But it is nothing more than bits and bytes, the rest is influenced by your own desires and fantasy in a perfect setting with elves and dwarfs and beautiful purple skies that are not real.
Perhaps I mistook the original intent of your post. If you mean people falling in love with a character, yes I agree it's absurd and that person needs a reality check.
But to fall in love with a person who plays the same game you play isn't so far fetched. Nor is there anything wrong with it.
No, falling in love with someone who enjoys the same hobbies and activities is beautiful, at least it is to me. Especially asocial ones like playing MMO's. Let's be honest, it is asocial. You may be social with a few thousands people in game, but you're being asocial with millions of people in the life you were born in.
Thank you, you made the important difference between falling in love in game while playing the game and falling in love with someone that plays the game.
Actually ...it doesn't sound very different :-) But it is.
I personally think it's a beautiful thing when two lonely souls settle for someone they met online.
/Win!
Girls who play video games turn me off because they're like one of the guys. I've turned down 2 advances; besides, people met online are as virtual as their avatars.
And who are we to determine what's real. As far as I know, everything around us is just perception of our minds. Life is an MMO just on bigger scale - one big server called Earth /grin
I hope you don't believe what you say :-)
I don't think your loved ones will ressurect within seconds after death on that server called Earth.
So I was browsing a channel of a certain youtube user named "henryabccba" who made some awesome AoC fan videos, and found this video where he shares a more personal story about himself :
I thought " wow that´s unusual" - but maybe it´s not that unusual at all, so anyone else ever fell in love in an MMO?
With all the recent valentines day stuff in some MMOs (Rift and TOR) I wonder if MMOs are also "dating platforms"?
2 of my guildies met while playing Asheons Call. Had a big wedding and inveted everyone in the guild, 67 showed up for it...and they were actually on Extreme Makeover Home Edition a few months back...they actually named their twin boys Asheron and Raistlin...Raistlin was the name of his character in the game, he was also a big fan of Dragonlance of course.
I hope we shall crush...in its birth the aristocracy of our moneyed corporations, which dare already to challenge our government to a trial of strength and bid defiance to the laws of our country." ~Thomes Jefferson
And who are we to determine what's real. As far as I know, everything around us is just perception of our minds. Life is an MMO just on bigger scale - one big server called Earth /grin
I hope you don't believe what you say :-)
I don't think your loved ones will ressurect within seconds after death on that server called Earth.
Nah Earth is the hardcore permadeath server for the game "Life". Unless you join one of the Christian servers, they have a whole expansion pack after you die, promises a tailor made story depending upon the choices and actions of you character!
Everyone RPs so much on "Earth" as well, always in character and never admitting its a game... Not really my thing, but I have to go with the flow of things.
Well... not really a success story but my first relationship did start via an online game (Navyfield if you could believe it), I was in a destroyer, she was in a battleship, love at first salvo as it were... didn't work out because I am from Eastern Europe and she's from the East coast of Australia so the time differences (around 10 hours), the impossible distance, innevitable drifting apart so yeah it didn't work out in the end but it was something rather special I don't think I'll ever run into again (that and the fact her father also played the game... and well... I found that out the hard way XD, it went something like me:"hey love, how are you?" her dad( who was if I remember correctly in a H44 then): "who are you?" her: "hey <pet name withheld>.. this is my dad.." all 3 of us ended up laughing about it but as close calls come... yeah pretty close though he did take pleasure in blowing me up that game ^^' ).
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I think the same could be said about dating websites or facebook then, right?
Secrets of Dragon?s Spine Trailer.. !
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fwT9cFVQCMw
Best MMOs ever played: Ultima, EvE, SW Galaxies, Age of Conan, The Secret World
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2X_SbZCHpc&t=21s
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The Return of ELITE !
Isn't the purpose of escapism to escape?
Climb down off the pulpit.
Self-pity imprisons us in the walls of our own self-absorption. The whole world shrinks down to the size of our problem, and the more we dwell on it, the smaller we are and the larger the problem seems to grow.
I met my partner about 2 years ago in EVE online. We gave ourselves a three month limit. Either meet in real life (ofc we talked on voice/video chat all day usually) or leave each other alone by then. I lived on the west coast. He flew out, we pooled some money together, got to know each other for about 3 more months in person and then drove coast to coast trying to find a new place to settle.
We moved pretty fast, but I don't regret it. What ensued was one of the best adventures of my life. Driving through the US with two cats, living in hotels, exploring the nation. Going from California to Maine was tiring, but worth it. We eventually settled in Cleveland because cost vs. standard of living just can't be beat here.
So I guess it does happen. But, I think there is a difference between cybering/internet dating and actually getting to know someone.
We are both happy, it's probably the best thing that has ever happened to me. One benefit, you know your partner is at least somewhat of a gamer, so that's out of the way. Hehe
did you gank each other before falling in love?
Secrets of Dragon?s Spine Trailer.. !
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fwT9cFVQCMw
Best MMOs ever played: Ultima, EvE, SW Galaxies, Age of Conan, The Secret World
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2X_SbZCHpc&t=21s
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The Return of ELITE !
No, but we did scam a corp together.
so you are EvE's version of Bonnie and Clyde? Sounds fun.. need to get me a MMO girlfriend too sometime
Secrets of Dragon?s Spine Trailer.. !
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fwT9cFVQCMw
Best MMOs ever played: Ultima, EvE, SW Galaxies, Age of Conan, The Secret World
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2X_SbZCHpc&t=21s
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The Return of ELITE !
My wife and I met in Everquest.
Im from Oregon and she was from British Columbia Canada.
After Virtual Dating(Many hours on the phone) we met about a year after we had been gaming together.
We are going on married for 10 years now. We have two kids now so the gaming time is all but gone. In fact she doesnt game at all anymore but I still do when I have time.
Honestly, We got to know each other much much better then we would have if we had met at a bar or what not.
There are many stories out there from people, neither of us were looking, it just happened. You cant use an MMO as a dating site though. If by chance it happens, thats great but you cant look at an MMO as a way to look for a relationship.
Definitely yes.
Falling in love with bits and bytes is to weird.
But with someone you know from a game in real life is different. I was talking about falling in love IN game.
You don't fall for the computer or the avatar - it has nothing to do with bits and bytes. You fall for the person on the other computer. Assuming people are honest (bad assumption, yes, but lets go with it), besides the physical aspect what are you lacking? You can get to know the person, talk to them, learn their personality, beliefs, ideologies, etc. You can form a bond that has nothing to do with physical desire in a medium that both of your have an interest in.
If you need a face to fall in love with, that's fine, but not everyone does.
I'm not advocating assuming an interest or a crush is some kind of all-consuming love, but it can happen without people being face to face. I'd think it would be more of the exception than the rule for it to occur though.
Sure I think that's why we play games, MMORPG's in particular. To ventilate some stress, and be a hero. For some it's like reading a book, watch a movie. Get involved in an invironment and story.
I wonder how you think about falling in love with a fictional character in a book, or an actress you discovered in a movie, or the character that particular actress plays. Sounds healthy?
Perhaps we're not talking about the same kind of love...maybe I'm to emotional and maybe to me falling in love sounds more like thinking about that person all the time and wanting to be a part in her/his life.
But it is nothing more than bits and bytes, the rest is influenced by your own desires and fantasy in a perfect setting with elves and dwarfs and beautiful purple skies that are not real.
This isn't a signature, you just think it is.
I fell in love at first sight with this Paladin wielding the Holy Avenger with +4 vs. Cheating Boyfriends! As time passed, she revealed to me that she is a multi-millionaire in real life and she couldn't actually cast healing spells outside WoW. I was shocked that this CEO Paladin fell in love with me and had little recourse but to dump the lying magicless loser! I'm so disgusted, I don't date humans anymore.
And who are we to determine what's real. As far as I know, everything around us is just perception of our minds. Life is an MMO just on bigger scale
- one big server called Earth /grin
Sith Warrior - Story of Hate and Love http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sxKrlwXt7Ao
Imperial Agent - Rise of Cipher Nine http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OBBj3eJWBvU&feature=youtu.be
Imperial Agent - Hunt for the Eagle Part 1http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UQqjYYU128E
Perhaps I mistook the original intent of your post. If you mean people falling in love with a character, yes I agree it's absurd and that person needs a reality check.
But to fall in love with a person who plays the same game you play isn't so far fetched. Nor is there anything wrong with it.
I had a few opportunities to engage in relationships through MMO, but they never fell through for two reasons:
1. I never enjoyed dating people who had the same interest as me. It was always a intriguing to me to see how my lifestyle meshed with my partners and experiencing their connects. Having the same interests/hobbies was a bore. My wife absolutely hates MMOs...a keeper
2. I love physically contact in all forms. Just as inmportant to me and establishing all over relationship values. Meeting online never sastisfied it, period.
That being said, I've seen it happen many of times so it's not far fetched. I do believe it's not for everyone though...
No, falling in love with someone who enjoys the same hobbies and activities is beautiful, at least it is to me. Especially asocial ones like playing MMO's. Let's be honest, it is asocial. You may be social with a few thousands people in game, but you're being asocial with millions of people in the life you were born in.
Thank you, you made the important difference between falling in love in game while playing the game and falling in love with someone that plays the game.
Actually ...it doesn't sound very different :-) But it is.
/Win!
Girls who play video games turn me off because they're like one of the guys. I've turned down 2 advances; besides, people met online are as virtual as their avatars.
I hope you don't believe what you say :-)
I don't think your loved ones will ressurect within seconds after death on that server called Earth.
2 of my guildies met while playing Asheons Call. Had a big wedding and inveted everyone in the guild, 67 showed up for it...and they were actually on Extreme Makeover Home Edition a few months back...they actually named their twin boys Asheron and Raistlin...Raistlin was the name of his character in the game, he was also a big fan of Dragonlance of course.
I hope we shall crush...in its birth the aristocracy of our moneyed corporations, which dare already to challenge our government to a trial of strength and bid defiance to the laws of our country." ~Thomes Jefferson
Nah Earth is the hardcore permadeath server for the game "Life". Unless you join one of the Christian servers, they have a whole expansion pack after you die, promises a tailor made story depending upon the choices and actions of you character!
Everyone RPs so much on "Earth" as well, always in character and never admitting its a game... Not really my thing, but I have to go with the flow of things.
Community really really sucks though
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