Respect Your Fellow Gamers

Emm_Emm_Ohh

http://youtu.be/4fdV2F4el14

I have been friends with a mmo player for a week or two now, talking to him every now and then in game. I then get a message from his mom saying thank you for being nice to my son, he is only 11 years old. I would have felt like a complete jerk if I would have been mean or blown him off when he messaged me a few times instead of replying to his tells and being nice. It was just a reminder to be nice to your fellow players, you never know who the real person behind the toon is.

You never know if that person you are talking to in MMOs is older, younger, male or female. Be nice and show respect to your fellow gamers, you don't know their story or where they come from in life. I have met many gamers over the years ranging from the ill who can't leave the house to others who were war vets who have suffered so many injuries in the past protecting our freedom that they can no longer function in the real world.

How about the kid who gets bullied at school and uses MMOs to escape that real life drama for a brief period of time and fit in with likeminded fellow gamers? How about that stressed out student or worker who needs a break from whatever it is they have going on in their life?

Whatever their story is, they all have stuff in common with not only each other, but you as well. They all enjoy playing the same game as you and they want to have fun playing it, being nice to them is a step in the right direction to help make that a reality.

Respect your fellow gamer.

evilastro

Nice post, +1.

PizzaGoblin

This is nice to see some positivity. Being nice to others is one of those rules that's too easy to ignore whilst online vidya gaming.

psypoison

+2 on this any more mmo's are getting ruder and ruder good to see that not all the good people are gone.

Kevyne-Shandris

Originally posted by Emm_Emm_Ohh

http://youtu.be/4fdV2F4el14

I have been friends with a mmo player for a week or two now, talking to him every now and then in game. I then get a message from his mom saying thank you for being nice to my son, he is only 11 years old. I would have felt like a complete jerk if I would have been mean or blown him off when he messaged me a few times instead of replying to his tells and being nice. It was just a reminder to be nice to your fellow players, you never know who the real person behind the toon is.

You never know if that person you are talking to in MMOs is older, younger, male or female. Be nice and show respect to your fellow gamers, you don't know their story or where they come from in life. I have met many gamers over the years ranging from the ill who can't leave the house to others who were war vets who have suffered so many injuries in the past protecting our freedom that they can no longer function in the real world.

How about the kid who gets bullied at school and uses MMOs to escape that real life drama for a brief period of time and fit in with likeminded fellow gamers? How about that stressed out student or worker who needs a break from whatever it is they have going on in their life?

Whatever their story is, they all have stuff in common with not only each other, but you as well. They all enjoy playing the same game as you and they want to have fun playing it, being nice to them is a step in the right direction to help make that a reality.

Respect your fellow gamer.

The really younger players are fun to take out, as they see the world like innocent kids do. I'm like a mom to them I feel.

 

It's the older kids that I feel more like I have to be a drill sergeant with, though. As soon as they link up with the same age group they act like brats, and just as mean (some I want to take a switch to their behind). If you can separate them, they can be managed pretty well, but not in rat packs.

 

Overall, due to society changing online life is more crass and ruder. How folks act online isn't how my generation was raised, and seeing how too many act as "fun" I feel too many under the cloak of anonymity are pure sociopaths. It's very difficult to be nice to people who think nothing to spit on you, truly.

 

Buddha I'm not.

iridescence

I would've been tempted to tell the mom to stop letting the internet babysit her kid. I think 11 is way too young to be hanging around online and in MMOs unsupervised. She's lucky if the worst thing he runs into is some rude people.

(Not that I disagree with the general sentiments of the OP of course...)

 

asrlohz

I started playing MMOs when I was a wee lad of eleven. Makes me wonder if any of those whom were nice and noob friendly to me ever made posts like these.

dave6660

Sounds like a good way to pick up single mothers  

Emm_Emm_Ohh

Originally posted by dave6660

Sounds like a good way to pick up single mothers  

Haha, now that is thinking outside of the box.

plat0nic

Originally posted by dave6660

Sounds like a good way to pick up single mothers  

Now you're thinkin

Aelious

+1 and cannot be said enough

I think borrowing from South Korea is a must. They teach "Netiquite" in grade school and I think any country where technology has made online life so prevalent should follow suit.

2cp

kevjards

Was once playing Vanguard and we all were on voice chat apart from one of us.A very highly skilled player he was.When I asked him why he refused to be on voice chat he told me his mum wouldn't let him.So I asked how old he was ,he said 10.My chin it the floor .When I told the rest of the guys they were gobsmacked.We took care of the young lad and he was in our guild for 2 yrs before he left the game.Its always great to be polite to other gamers.Personally I am not the most skilled gamer but I always treat people with respect.

Quirhid

Tbh it is more common to talk with someone thinking they're some teenager only to discover that they are a grown adult - often with kids.

Helleri

Originally posted by dave6660

Sounds like a good way to pick up single mothers  

Is a good way to pick up single mothers & not so single mothers alike*

...good luck ever getting an rl meet though. it's like 1/20.

Betaguy

Originally posted by Emm_Emm_Ohh

http://youtu.be/4fdV2F4el14I have been friends with a mmo player for a week or two now, talking to him every now and then in game. I then get a message from his mom saying thank you for being nice to my son, he is only 11 years old. I would have felt like a complete jerk if I would have been mean or blown him off when he messaged me a few times instead of replying to his tells and being nice. It was just a reminder to be nice to your fellow players, you never know who the real person behind the toon is.You never know if that person you are talking to in MMOs is older, younger, male or female. Be nice and show respect to your fellow gamers, you don't know their story or where they come from in life. I have met many gamers over the years ranging from the ill who can't leave the house to others who were war vets who have suffered so many injuries in the past protecting our freedom that they can no longer function in the real world.How about the kid who gets bullied at school and uses MMOs to escape that real life drama for a brief period of time and fit in with likeminded fellow gamers? How about that stressed out student or worker who needs a break from whatever it is they have going on in their life?Whatever their story is, they all have stuff in common with not only each other, but you as well. They all enjoy playing the same game as you and they want to have fun playing it, being nice to them is a step in the right direction to help make that a reality.Respect your fellow gamer.

 

Could had been a trick so you give him stuff and go out of you way more for him... just saying

Pyatra

Originally posted by Emm_Emm_Ohh

http://youtu.be/4fdV2F4el14

I have been friends with a mmo player for a week or two now, talking to him every now and then in game. I then get a message from his mom saying thank you for being nice to my son, he is only 11 years old. I would have felt like a complete jerk if I would have been mean or blown him off when he messaged me a few times instead of replying to his tells and being nice. It was just a reminder to be nice to your fellow players, you never know who the real person behind the toon is.

You never know if that person you are talking to in MMOs is older, younger, male or female. Be nice and show respect to your fellow gamers, you don't know their story or where they come from in life. I have met many gamers over the years ranging from the ill who can't leave the house to others who were war vets who have suffered so many injuries in the past protecting our freedom that they can no longer function in the real world.

How about the kid who gets bullied at school and uses MMOs to escape that real life drama for a brief period of time and fit in with likeminded fellow gamers? How about that stressed out student or worker who needs a break from whatever it is they have going on in their life?

Whatever their story is, they all have stuff in common with not only each other, but you as well. They all enjoy playing the same game as you and they want to have fun playing it, being nice to them is a step in the right direction to help make that a reality.

Respect your fellow gamer.

Nice post +1

Couldn't resist a bad pun:

I'd respect other players but I don't know how to allocate their skills.

Joejc7135

I always try to be polite to players in games, no matter the genre. Respect is another story though, that has to be earned. I agree with the sentiment of the post though! No reason to go around being rude or belittling people just cause...

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Kevyne-Shandris

Originally posted by Quirhid
Tbh it is more common to talk with someone thinking they're some teenager only to discover that they are a grown adult - often with kids.

The worst offenders aren't the really young children (as they still see everything with a sense of wonder), and they're mostly cute to have around and need help (like to protect from the group below that feed on them).

 

It's the pions from ages 18-28 (college kids) that need a switching, bad. Get three of them together in a group, it can sink fast. They're seriously immature for their age, and even proud of it. Some 30 year-olds can fall in that group as well, showing even further immaturity. The 11 year-old would work harder; want to get along; and willing to learn in contrast.

anemo

I used to always hide my age when I was under 18.   After about 2 years on WurmOnline people were amazed I was 18 instead of a late 20 something.

WereLlama

Well said.

Kevyne-Shandris

Originally posted by Betaguy
Could had been a trick so you give him stuff and go out of you way more for him... just saying

Oh, you can tell the little kids simply by how they talk and interact. It's those you have to keep an eye on, because the older kids are simply cruel, and it resembles a junior high playground when they find a "little brother" to pick on. -_-

 

And why parents should never let their kids play that young without supervision. The larger games have little creeps playing at times.

Nevulus

great post and a message I whole-heartedly agree with.

DamonVile

Originally posted by greenreen

Yeah or they could be some of the people we find on MMO forums. Stuck in their ways and hell bent on declaring their opinion law, facts be damned.

Everyone isn't glorious behind the scenes but all of us can pitiful in some way to others.

The guy making 8.00 an hour is sad to the guy making 14.00 an hour while both are sad to the guy making 35.00 an hour. You get the idea.

I befriended a kid once in a game. Let's just say I had to draw barriers. He started sending me porn and asked me for good links. I almost thought I was in a sting operation and asked him to stop sending porn. It seemed sort of contrived. Then there was a 17 yr old I talked to who was better but still complained about being adopted and how his mother was a crack addict lost on the streets that he wanted to get to know but couldn't find. That's pretty deep stuff to get into with people so I stuck to giving him advice about women if he asked how to get dates easier.

Being nice is not being open to everyone at all times nor do you have to talk to everyone who wants to talk to you. Some people who whisper you over and over are just lonely and if you can handle their emotional vampirism and want to encourage it, then yes, respond to everyone at all times. It's not really your job in an MMO to find lost souls and help them. Most people need to deal with their own problems to actuate real change. You might listen but you don't want to carry their burdens and them be a reason you stop logging in because they won't stop talking to you about their problems. Then you are just a crutch so eventually you will expect them to act instead of react and they might not causing a rift in the friendship because you can't hold them to it. That's when it turns into emotional vampirism. They suck suck suck you dry but have no interest in improving anything because you are enabling them to vent about it constantly and keep reliving it while being in a state of paralysis.

 

+1

I don't treat everyone with respect because it's something you earn. I do treat everyone like a person until they show me otherwise.

plat0nic

You can always treat someone with respect until they prove you wrong Maybe your definition of treating people like a person is "respectful" though so I dunno....

Emm_Emm_Ohh

Originally posted by plat0nic
You can always treat someone with respect until they prove you wrong 

That is how I approach it. I know other people/players feel like other people have to earn the respect given to them, but I feel like everyone should be respected until there is a reason not to.