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Ze.Romegu
Member Posts: 160
First off, my titles are always wack, so don't expect anything. (I don't know why I said this.)
Actually, I need advice on girls. Well, I was at my history class today at the college building, and there were going to be new people coming to the class. I'm sitting, listening to the teacher, and he announces the new students are here. There's this one guy that looked 24, (im not going into rough details) and a girl (skin color: black. I'm white. 
) that looked like 19. Then the last person comes in, it was another girl, I looked behind me, she... *ahem* looked hot, and I thought I should ask her out. I heard her talking after that outside of the room, and my friend said she was talking about some guy in the class. (figure that's me) So i'm trying to figure if I should ask her out right now, or get to know her, or what. I've never had a girlfriend, or built any relationships ith a girl. 
Althought i've known many people getting together in junior high, and/high school, I didn't. I was also not at the homecoming. 
Well this brings me my main question, what should I do? I'm stuttered, but I think I could take this in as an oppurtinity. You know what I mean? So, what now. 
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hmm...this year's homecoming, I wouldn't have missed it if I hadn't gone, that's...if I knew I was going to get slapped in front of everyone --
twice.
as far as the girl goes, hey, it's worth a shot - go for it.
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Just go for it. You will regret it if you don't...trust me.
mmk first of all... your asking people on a frikin website based on Massively Multiplayer Online Games. Go ask somebody in myspace or something. Theres actually some pretty girls on there... However, I am a loser. I'm 12. I don't know what im talking about. I have almost been on a date... with the girl I like too... But she smokes pot...
Me within 6 years:
dead
no you dont. And whats so bad about asking random people on a website, youll most likely never see them in real life.
just go for it if she rejects you youll save valuable time that you probably would have wasted trying to get to know her. And i know how hard it is, but when you try to get to know the person for me i always end up just giving up or finding something out that makes me not want her anymore so just go for it and save yourself the time.
Took the words right out of my mouth. In high school, girls are not realistic and are immature. It changes in college, but reality sets in later when girls learn to compromise with partners and act their age.
"Whoever controls the media controls the mind..-'Jim Morrison"
"When decorum is repression, the only dignity free men have is to speak out." ~Abbie Hoffman
$5 says she wasent talking about you.
WARNING: My spelling is atrocious
You can't just go up to a girl you don't know and ask her out. Find a good time to get to know her. With a conversation. You don't need a hit line. Just introduce your self and have a talk with her. That's about it. Get to know what your dealing with.
Be polite and after you introduce yourself, ask " I'm sorry, am i'm bothering you" (optional). I think it's just polite.
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jokes are always good... if think you funny then they have a reason to hang out with you and thats a start... that starts it up... because askign random girls out is dumb get to know her... then the hard part comes you have to look attractive... thats hard for most popel on this forum true but just get ripped and that will be good enough(hey its true we cant change our faces might as well work with what you can).... then get ssome balls and if need be alchol and ask her out...
The advice all depends on your appearance. If you're fat or out of shape there's not a whole lot that a nice personality is going to do to land you an attractive girl. That is unless you're rolling in the dough.
I get the impression you're in your early 20's. Thats good because that means your testosterone levels are peaked. Take advantage of that and do some intense Aerobic and Anerobic workouts. Girls really like a hot bod. Also give yourself facials. Girls like great looking skin. It's all about image and presentation. You're selling yourself like a store sells a product. All that jazz that women say about wanting a man with a sense of humor is nonsense. Do you think women gawk over male strippers because they have a great personality? I would say it's the abs.
My next tip will be disputed by virtually everyone here but here it goes anyway. Never approach a girl and ask her out. Thats sending out a negative message. You're pretty much saying that she has the upper hand and you have little to offer. Instead make them come to you.
A confident and slightly cocky attitude really wins them over. You ever wondered why the jerks get the girls and the polite nice guys are left out in the cold? Girls like a guy that has a bit of mystique about them. Here's a good example of that cool and cocky attitude. You're in a bar and a really hot girl walks up and says "Buy me a drink?". Dont jump and say "okay!". Instead look at her with a grin and say "Why? Whats in it for me?".
You have no idea what you're talking about do you?
A cocky arrogant attitude will get you girls? WRONG. Unless you're asking out some slut or whore.
What a girl likes is a confident guy. NOT COCKY. NOT ARROGANT.
From what i've seen the girls with the good personalities are the girls who would actually like you to go up to them and ask her out. Whatever you do, DO NOT ACT like an arrogant idiot. Biggest turnoff for girls.
Oh, and who says that just because you are out of shape you won't get a good looking girl? I've seen some ugly ass guys going out with hot girls. Why? Because the guy is nice.
I think it depends on what you're looking to start with her? Do you want a long term deal, or just someone to snuggle up against during those long cold nights?
I personally prefer long term relationships. So I never ask a girl out right away. I always strike up a conversation, her hair, shoes, clothes, maybe homework or whatever. Maybe I've "lost the page we're on" and I need help finding it. Just look for casual reason to talk to her. You don't have to fumble up to her and yell out "MY YOUR PRETTY! DATE ME PLZ!?!?" Talk to her, listen, if she seems interested go ahead.
You seem like you might be inexeperienced, in that I'm guessing you might be shy, or could be embarrassed if she says no. Correct me if I'm wrong, though. Taking it slow could save you that embarrasment. Asking her out right ahead could get you that nightmare enducing "Um...how about no?" Striking up a nice conversation and taking it slow could end either with a cool hot friend, or a hot girlfriend. You win either way, imo.
Basically- Strike up convo. Tell her you enjoyed talking to her and would like to talk again later. Maybe ask for her number, or ask her out to coffee/drinks in general if you're feeling good about it.
If you have to behave in a way that is not natural to you, you wont be happy with her in the long run.
Most folks are doing everything to get the person they want. They are funny, they make jokes, they act in this or that way.
Personnally I never overdo it. And if it is not my turn to call back, then I freaking wait and never call back. If the other person cant call you back when they say they will...1- They are wanting you to do everything, so you will be trapped in a painfull jail all the time you are with them, since you always have to do everything or 2- They are not interested.
Been single is not bad, no matter what peoples says. And folks hardpressing you or your inner self for kids or whatever...eh, there is already to many humans on Earth, you dont have to get kids yourself. Folks on the other side of the world have a pretty close genetic code to yours, so not even for survival reasons.
Your sweety half should not be a full time job!
Like I always say, are you better alone or with that person...if you even have doubts, maybe you should reconsider this relationship thingy!
Could I be dating someone "fat and ugly". Yeah, it is unlikely, but not impossible. Those persons often have others issues and I cant blame them for...not to mention I will almost certainly try and test them...if they feel miserable after a fat joke, that is a pretty bad start. If they enjoy the joke, it is a bad start as well because I was just mean and they have no self estime, if they make a joke back at about been afraid to break me just because they walk close by, now that is getting interesting but depending on the circumstance it may turn in a bad arguing or just laughers. But that need to be natural, and it is just not natural for most fat person, they are extremely complexed...and again, this is a tiny example and not a complete truth, huge simplification. See, life is complex and someone overdoing it is someone that is usually not worth it. It just need to be natural and an improvement for both. Not everyone is meant to be with everyone. Some folks always need to talk or be with their sweety half, and some other like me need to have a LOT of breathing room, dont care to always be in the same room, but there should be days where we dont really even talk beside greetings or non-talk stuff, fast and useful. But that is different for each person. Lot of peoples LIES willingly or unwillingly, especially guys, in order to get a relationship started. And this is pretty bad, because not only did it fail, but the person could have pick the wrong partner because of bad promises and left on the side someone less appealing that was a right partner who never lie...but that is the history of humanity.
- "If I understand you well, you are telling me until next time. " - Ren
You have no idea what you're talking about do you?
A cocky arrogant attitude will get you girls? WRONG. Unless you're asking out some slut or whore.
What a girl likes is a confident guy. NOT COCKY. NOT ARROGANT.
From what i've seen the girls with the good personalities are the girls who would actually like you to go up to them and ask her out. Whatever you do, DO NOT ACT like an arrogant idiot. Biggest turnoff for girls.
Oh, and who says that just because you are out of shape you won't get a good looking girl? I've seen some ugly ass guys going out with hot girls. Why? Because the guy is nice.
Hehehe I knew someone would dispute my post. For starters I said a confident "SLIGHTLY" cocky attitude helps. Go back and read my post and you'll see it worded that way.
Okay I understand that it's politically correct to say that people choose their mates because of their "personality". That the nice guy gets the girl and there's a fairy tale ending. Yeah thats the way it worked in "Shrek 2". Well with the exception of Hollywood movies and rare cases, it isnt reality.
When I was back in school it was always the athletically built jocks that dated the cheerleaders. Not the geeks that played video games all day long.
That must have been a school full of shallow people then. Ever since I can remember, all the prettier girls may have gone out with the jocks but never for a long term relationship. They actually ended going out with the average guy because it actually meant something.
I stopped asking girls out for coffee about a year ago.....
partially because almost every time i always spill something(only if its a first date of course), and make an ass out of myself.
now i am no clutz i can toss knives and i used to be able to juggle, i dont spill things any other time or occasion.
but for some reason, and i know its not nerves simply because i adopt a "it doesnt matter were all gonna be dust anyway" attitude, so i might as well have as much fun between now and then and no time for fear or nerves.
but i always spill in these encounters never on any other type of first date.
as such i like drive through coffee houses.
98% of the teenage population does or has tried smoking pot. If you''re one of the 2% who hasn''t, copy & paste this in your signature.
Not much to say here except, if you like her, talk to her. If you don't have the courage to talk to her, then you definately won't have the courage to ask her out, you'll just stutter and fail. And if she's as hot as you say, guess what, the other guys think the same thing. And someone else is making plans as well. He might even already be talking to her, hell, he might have already asked her out. Hot girls, usually, don't stay single long. Unless they are SO hot they intimidate all the guys, but that's very rare.
And don't try to be anything you're not. It will be to hard on you, you will eventually resent her because you have to keep up the charade. If she won't like you for who you are, then she's not the one for you, so don't waste the time/money on her. There will be other women, always are.
If you decide to talk to her, just pick a moment, make eye contact, and say hello. She won't scream and run away, or point and shout, "Get away, Dork." If she does, she's a crazy nut job anyway. If she responds, and doesn't immediately turn away, then follow with a question about her, since she's new to the class, how about, "So, I haven't seen you around, where ya from?" Or something like that. If she tells you, then OMG, you are having a conversation. Take the next opportunity in the conversation to introduce yourself. If she already knows your name, hey, thats a GOOD sign. Conversations usually take on a life of their own as the questions and answers flow. Try to stay away from yes/no questions and answers.
As the conversation seems to be ending or if its getting ackward standing wherever it is you are standing, or if you just feel like it, suggest taking the conversation somewhere else, like the bedroom! I am just kidding, don't do that...just smile and say, " Hey, I am kinda hungry/thirsty, wanna grab something to eat/drink?" If she makes an excuse, thats not neccessarily a bad thing, she might be a little shy, or unsure around you. If she says cool...then sweet! If she makes an excuse, just play it off, let the conversation end as it normally should, and try next time you talk to her.
Anyway, that's pretty much as far as I care to give advice here. I hope you get the point. A point on appearance. Don't underdue/overdue it. Just basically be somewhat stylish, neat, and clean. That's about it. Don't use too much cologne but dont forget to shower, and use the deoderant. How a guy smells is important to most women. And look her in the eyes when you talk. Don't STARE at her though, but be liberal with the eye contact. And smile...relax. This ain't the end of the world if she ends up not diggin ya...if anything, you make a new friend...and one thing hot chick friends have thats cool, other hot chick friends! Yeah...scam onto the next one!
I hope some of these pointers help. Now go forth young, padawan! And someday you too will become a master! (I Know I just discredited myself with this statement.) But, I am married to a hot woman, so bite me.
DONT FORGET: Some other guy is already planning/doing this. So get to it!
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Everything born must die. All that is, will come to ruin. This is the essence of Doom. So sayeth the Doomsayer.
Perfectly said.
lmfao just reminded me of this picture http://www.ebaumsworld.com/richman.html i seriously just cant see that happening.
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Everything born must die. All that is, will come to ruin. This is the essence of Doom. So sayeth the Doomsayer.