What's happened with me is, every time they start trying to suggest something I just know I don't want to do or badger me about it, I just walk away and shut myself up in my room to avoid them, the way I see it, we're not being anti-social ( or whatever the media or parents try to call it these days ) we're just avoiding idiots who try and tell us how to live all the time from what I see.
I would suggest for you to talk it out or atleast say something (even if it's yelling) rather than being quiet and ignore... Trust me, it's more psychologically damaging to others when you ignore them. The best way is to talk it out. ( It makes me feel really left out and alone when people ignore me... That's why I will always respond when someone says something to me, with one exception, where they're repeating the same thing over and over, when it's obvious just to annoy u?)
To the OP, yea choose what you want... Try to make them understand, but there's people who are stubborn and such... In those cases I got nothing...
I agree with you there LordDarkmist, as for the talk it out thing I already have, I've told them they have to respect what I want to do with my life, only problem is that they just do the "We do care about what you want to do" comment and then proceed to argue with me again, so now I just ignore them whenever they mention a word associated with anything that I don't want to do. I prefer being inside my room at my computer talking to people I can relate to instead of just fighting it out with my parents, I'll tell you one thing though, this year has been the last straw for me, I quit the lessons that they were trying to make me do ( even though it had no effect on my course whatsoever ) and it felt great, not only that but I have ten times more free time because of it and It causes me less stress, rebellion is good in my opinion especially if you know for sure what you want to do is the right thing.
Oh and I'm just quoting this so it makes it easier to find the posts, this topic is getting filled
Quoting people doesn't make you clever, in fact, it makes you all the more stupid for not bothering to read the quotes you post in the first place.
Sounds like your parents are being childish, they are the ones being selfish. It is your life you have your own soul and they do not own you rather they raised you or not. Kids arent for everyone maybe one day if you ever get the patience but if you are happy and feel like your life is right then dont change it and espically for them.
I'm smart enough to know that I don't want to deal with the responsibility than bring an unwanted child into the world. Now if only half the world were as smart as the people replying to this thread.
The OP seems hurt by how his parents treat him. They sound very old fashioned. I doubt that lashing back at them with a caustic retort is going to make the family closer. It might feel good for a minute but, eventually, it'll probably just cause more bad feeling all around. If his parents can't accept how he wants to live his life, what can you do? Either tolerate it and try and muddle along with them the best you can or distance yourself from your own family. In the case of my father, I muddle.
I generally find that when you respond seriously they see an opening to have an intelligent conversation in hopes of getting you to come around to their way of thinking. If you're flip to them, they eventually get the message, stop bugging you, and realize that it ain't happening.
I had this with my parents for a bit about getting married. I choose the flip route and they quit asking.....
Just a quick PS: I'm married now, with kids. Things can change over the years, put parental input never does. You have to know how to nix it from the start, or you'll hear it forever.
Heh babies will come like it or not unless some kind of freaky "Children Of Man" scenero breaks out. Don't worry so much over it.
1. beacuse you wont have to threat about making babys if you stick around playing mmo's forever
2. there are numerous forms of birthcontrol out there.
3. Did I memtion the fun making them?...ah crap banned!
True Im sure children are/ or can be annoying and a big responability, but that what all parent's go through. I figure if it happens it happens just be ready. And oh yea don't set any major plans that have a time span of 18 years, 19 in some states heh "I kid I kid" but seriously offspring is just natures little way of saying you might not be around for ever but who said your genes dont have to be? I like to think that if I had a kid I should share with the rest of humanity what I as an individual could not give. My pompus/jerk like ways just fall out of a tree ya know?
The OP seems hurt by how his parents treat him. They sound very old fashioned. I doubt that lashing back at them with a caustic retort is going to make the family closer. It might feel good for a minute but, eventually, it'll probably just cause more bad feeling all around. If his parents can't accept how he wants to live his life, what can you do? Either tolerate it and try and muddle along with them the best you can or distance yourself from your own family. In the case of my father, I muddle.
The OP's parents sound downright stupid, selfish, and narrow-minded. You can't expect someone to re-live your life. You can't expect them to like all the things you do either.
There is already an overpopulation problem in many places not to mention that there are many parents who have kids because they wanted to have sex, but didn't think about the conesquences or just didn't care. While it may be more selfish in a way at least you are admitting that you find you probably wouldn't be a good parrent. I feel the same way myself. I spend to much time doing things I like and don't believe I would devote enough time to a child. There are pleanty of people having kids and I think thats great, but there really is no pressing need to have them at this point in time. The human race is procreating just fine if not to much as it is.
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I would suggest for you to talk it out or atleast say something (even if it's yelling) rather than being quiet and ignore... Trust me, it's more psychologically damaging to others when you ignore them. The best way is to talk it out. ( It makes me feel really left out and alone when people ignore me... That's why I will always respond when someone says something to me, with one exception, where they're repeating the same thing over and over, when it's obvious just to annoy u?)
To the OP, yea choose what you want... Try to make them understand, but there's people who are stubborn and such... In those cases I got nothing...
I agree with you there LordDarkmist, as for the talk it out thing I already have, I've told them they have to respect what I want to do with my life, only problem is that they just do the "We do care about what you want to do" comment and then proceed to argue with me again, so now I just ignore them whenever they mention a word associated with anything that I don't want to do. I prefer being inside my room at my computer talking to people I can relate to instead of just fighting it out with my parents, I'll tell you one thing though, this year has been the last straw for me, I quit the lessons that they were trying to make me do ( even though it had no effect on my course whatsoever ) and it felt great, not only that but I have ten times more free time because of it and It causes me less stress, rebellion is good in my opinion especially if you know for sure what you want to do is the right thing.
Oh and I'm just quoting this so it makes it easier to find the posts, this topic is getting filled
Quoting people doesn't make you clever, in fact, it makes you all the more stupid for not bothering to read the quotes you post in the first place.
ill start thinking about kids when im 50
I'm smart enough to know that I don't want to deal with the responsibility than bring an unwanted child into the world. Now if only half the world were as smart as the people replying to this thread.
Next time they ask you, tell them that you think you have a couple of kids by a couple of different women. That should end the conversation.......
I generally find that when you respond seriously they see an opening to have an intelligent conversation in hopes of getting you to come around to their way of thinking. If you're flip to them, they eventually get the message, stop bugging you, and realize that it ain't happening.
I had this with my parents for a bit about getting married. I choose the flip route and they quit asking.....
Just a quick PS: I'm married now, with kids. Things can change over the years, put parental input never does. You have to know how to nix it from the start, or you'll hear it forever.
Heh babies will come like it or not unless some kind of freaky "Children Of Man" scenero breaks out. Don't worry so much over it.
1. beacuse you wont have to threat about making babys if you stick around playing mmo's forever
2. there are numerous forms of birthcontrol out there.
3. Did I memtion the fun making them?...ah crap banned!
True Im sure children are/ or can be annoying and a big responability, but that what all parent's go through. I figure if it happens it happens just be ready. And oh yea don't set any major plans that have a time span of 18 years, 19 in some states heh "I kid I kid" but seriously offspring is just natures little way of saying you might not be around for ever but who said your genes dont have to be? I like to think that if I had a kid I should share with the rest of humanity what I as an individual could not give. My pompus/jerk like ways just fall out of a tree ya know?
It..Burns..
Your argument is like a two legged dog with an eating disorder...weak and unbalanced.