in my opinion, marriage system is not so useful for a game because i think it may be a tool which makes abruption for a couple...for the friction in gaming or another person...
Marriage is awful in real life so why would anyone want to do it on a game?!! Omg LOL! I stole a bride from a pixel wedding once though ... was pretty funny. I talked her out of it by convincing her what losers guys are lmao.
Marriage is awful in real life so why would anyone want to do it on a game?!! Omg LOL! I stole a bride from a pixel wedding once though ... was pretty funny. I talked her out of it by convincing her what losers guys are lmao.
maybe you force the guys to be such losers lmao..
First off noone is responsible for someone acting like a loser other than themselves... Anyhow marrriage is so awful because you lose your independence when you get into all that. It is like a contract that says" ok come take over my life forever" Which honestly I think totally sucks for both parties. You lose your freedom to do what you want when you want and always have to schedule everything around this other person. If marriage were truely about love and not insecurity it might not be so bad but honestly most people get married because they are afraid of being alone rather than happy with themselves. They have this fairy tale image that everything will be wonderful from then out when if it wasn't already that way marriage is just going to make it worse not better, not to mention that you are probably messing up a good thing the way it was before. I don't understand why so many guys these days see a happy independent female and want to trap her. ....Sometimes the worst thing you can do in a relationship is to worry about the future of it .. just enjoy it as it is.One thing mariage is not is fun.. it is work alot of work.. but some people I guess like that kind of drama... and in a game... why someone would want that kind of work when they are supposed to be having fun? that is beyond me LOL!!!
Marriage is awful in real life so why would anyone want to do it on a game?!! Omg LOL! I stole a bride from a pixel wedding once though ... was pretty funny. I talked her out of it by convincing her what losers guys are lmao.
maybe you like girls. I bet that is the problem.
My preferences are not the topic of this thread , and as I have already told you in response to your private messeges I am currently in a relationship with a man tyvm. Please don't go all stalker on me lol.
Try, marriage in ELF Online, that prety crazy and unreasonable a girl may date with up to 3 boys, but boys can only date with one girl. The developer must be a feminist
LOL! that is funny ! HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! ... Anyhow They probably did that because of the ratio to men to women that play games but still it is funny they set rules about it LOL!!!
I've always wanted to get a girl character and then marry a guy. Then right before the wedding, I would tell him I'm a guy.
...oh I'm bad
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I've always wanted to get a girl character and then marry a guy. Then right before the wedding, I would tell him I'm a guy. ...oh I'm bad
And if it's RPing, what makes you think it makes a difference? I've had online RP characters married to female characters that were played by male players. So what?
What the hell is this? Why do people want this in their games ( mostly asian games from what I've seen )? Someone explain this phenomenon to me, as I just do not understand it at all. Even from a role-play standpoint, it's creepy. Newsflash: Gorgeous Glenda Greatknockers is in reality Puny Peter Palmbeater.
Two points here:
1) Some people who play these games don't think of themselves as their character - instead, they treat the character as you would a pet. Ironically, these people are often RPers and out of game they will talk of their character in the 3rd person. They will say "I have a level 31 scout" instead of "I am a level 31 scout." They have made a split between themselves and their character - there is nothing creepy about these people allowing their toon to get married - they themselves understand they are not getting married they are simply expanding their character's ingame character.
2) Any feature that allows and/or encourages human beings to interact with each other in a MMORPG is worth including in a MMORPG. MMORPGs need outlets to express our unique individuality to other people or else ask yourself what is the point of playing a game with other human beings? If your answer is not the above go play halo3 you'll get as much out of it, save yourself a few bucks, and spare the rest of us of these mediocre MMORPGs we got nowadays.
I hope this helps you.
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I think it's somewhat nice, I've met some nice girls to enjoy playing mmo's with. Not to mention, if you happen to have a gf who enjoys mmo's like you do, chances are she'll probably bring it up.
I can see from an rp perspective how some people might like the option of getting married. It's like playing house.
When I played SWG I played a female creature handler gunfighter. She had a 'boyfriend' that was in actuality played by a lesbian in Ireland. When I told my wife this she laughed hysterically for about 30 minutes (she almost passed out). The idea of a guy playing a girl dating a guy played by a lesbian for some reason struck my wife as.....humorous I decided at that point to turn down the marriage proprosal and any other marriage proposals thereafter.
Marriage is awful in real life so why would anyone want to do it on a game?!! Omg LOL! I stole a bride from a pixel wedding once though ... was pretty funny. I talked her out of it by convincing her what losers guys are lmao.
maybe you force the guys to be such losers lmao..
First off noone is responsible for someone acting like a loser other than themselves... Anyhow marrriage is so awful because you lose your independence when you get into all that. It is like a contract that says" ok come take over my life forever" Which honestly I think totally sucks for both parties. You lose your freedom to do what you want when you want and always have to schedule everything around this other person. If marriage were truely about love and not insecurity it might not be so bad but honestly most people get married because they are afraid of being alone rather than happy with themselves. They have this fairy tale image that everything will be wonderful from then out when if it wasn't already that way marriage is just going to make it worse not better, not to mention that you are probably messing up a good thing the way it was before. I don't understand why so many guys these days see a happy independent female and want to trap her. ....Sometimes the worst thing you can do in a relationship is to worry about the future of it .. just enjoy it as it is.One thing mariage is not is fun.. it is work alot of work.. but some people I guess like that kind of drama... and in a game... why someone would want that kind of work when they are supposed to be having fun? that is beyond me LOL!!!
You either had a very sad home life or you are very young. Counseling might help though.
Life is not all about satisfying your own personal needs. That's what animals do on the most instinctual level. Human beings on the other hand are capable of altruism. Doing for others without wanting anything in return is part of being a kind and caring person. When you love someone, doing things for them or compromising is not an imposition. It's part of life and acknowledging the fact that there are bigger things besides your own wants and desires.
My wife and I are synergy. Apart we were two seperate, complete people, but together we are capable of so much more. We work, play, exercise, vacation together. We love each other more every day. We are best friends. So it is possible to be married and be happy. You just have to be smart about your choice.
Marriage is awful in real life so why would anyone want to do it on a game?!! Omg LOL! I stole a bride from a pixel wedding once though ... was pretty funny. I talked her out of it by convincing her what losers guys are lmao.
maybe you force the guys to be such losers lmao..
First off noone is responsible for someone acting like a loser other than themselves... Anyhow marrriage is so awful because you lose your independence when you get into all that. It is like a contract that says" ok come take over my life forever" Which honestly I think totally sucks for both parties. You lose your freedom to do what you want when you want and always have to schedule everything around this other person. If marriage were truely about love and not insecurity it might not be so bad but honestly most people get married because they are afraid of being alone rather than happy with themselves. They have this fairy tale image that everything will be wonderful from then out when if it wasn't already that way marriage is just going to make it worse not better, not to mention that you are probably messing up a good thing the way it was before. I don't understand why so many guys these days see a happy independent female and want to trap her. ....Sometimes the worst thing you can do in a relationship is to worry about the future of it .. just enjoy it as it is.One thing mariage is not is fun.. it is work alot of work.. but some people I guess like that kind of drama... and in a game... why someone would want that kind of work when they are supposed to be having fun? that is beyond me LOL!!!
You either had a very sad home life or you are very young. Counseling might help though.
Life is not all about satisfying your own personal needs. That's what animals do on the most instinctual level. Human beings on the other hand are capable of altruism. Doing for others without wanting anything in return is part of being a kind and caring person. When you love someone, doing things for them or compromising is not an imposition. It's part of life and acknowledging the fact that there are bigger things besides your own wants and desires.
My wife and I are synergy. Apart we were two seperate, complete people, but together we are capable of so much more. We work, play, exercise, vacation together. We love each other more every day. We are best friends. So it is possible to be married and be happy. You just have to be smart about your choice.
Actually I can see both points of view. My parents married young & are still happily married, but in my case the short awful marriage I had in my mid 20s was enough to put me off for life. My sister's first marriage also ended badly after almost 10 years, but she has now been happily remarried for almost twice that.
It's not as simple as saying 'be smart about your choice', people change over time & things often don't work out as we hope. I am glad you & your wife are happy though, long may it last.
To get back on subject though, MMO marriages are definitely odd if not actually creepy!
If you can't "Have your cake & eat it too", then how can "The proof of the pudding be in the eating"?
I am in favor of including role-playing features like this in a game.
Many players are not run&gun combatmonkeys and many do enjoy aspects such as this. It adds flavor and immersion to those seeking it, while detracting virtually nothing from others.
The coding time for this very simple feature is virtually nill. If a small, but significant, population enjoy this, then there is no reason to not include it.
These are the people who will play for a long time and not bounce to the next new shiny thing.
The retention alone is worth coding.
There are often many features that typically combat types shun, such as player housing and decor, clothing, marriage, economy.
It doesn't mean these features are bad though.
They add the flavor to the world that quite a few people crave. (if you recollect, house decorating in SWG was in vogue and virtually a contest to create the best home/shop)
Is this Sims? Perhaps, but it keeps people in the game and playing and paying. And that ain't a bad thing.
It may be creepy to you, but it wasn't to me. My female character married a male character. We are both males and secure in our sexuality. This was an in character role-playing relationship and yes we did have a honeymoon in jabba's bed. (funny as hell).
For us and our friends, this added a full day of in-game content for us. Player content trumps any sort of dev content... and this ceremony was enjoyed by 20+ other players.
Multiply that my hundreds of others who were married and their friends... and this small feature seems pretty big.
Mmm..ive always thought it was amusing, ive never been in a game that when i played it, it had the marriage function working, but id prolly do it, only with a good friend who i knew wouldnt turn all teary-eyed-semi-drooling-pup on me
Marriage is awful in real life so why would anyone want to do it on a game?!! Omg LOL! I stole a bride from a pixel wedding once though ... was pretty funny. I talked her out of it by convincing her what losers guys are lmao.
you must be a joy to be married to. I feel sorry for your husband.
It may be creepy to you, but it wasn't to me. My female character married a male character. We are both males and secure in our sexuality. This was an in character role-playing relationship and yes we did have a honeymoon in jabba's bed. (funny as hell).
I've got an even better story. Years back on a text-based MUD, my character was married to a female character played by a female player. We got to be very good friends and spent a lot of time outside the game just talking. Her husband was abusive and eventually, she decided to leave him. I jumped on a plane, flew 2 states away, helped her pack up her stuff, loaded it into a trailer and drove her, her son and her pets 2000 miles to my house, where they stayed with me and my wife for about 2 months while they got back on their feet. I helped her find an apartment and I recommended her to a friend for a job. She got married to a really nice guy a couple years back and last I heard was very happy. That's the kind of thing that can happen in an online marriage, you can make a real difference in someone's life.
Look at it this way. You have real roleplayers and then you have self described roleplayers. Real ones can adapt to marraige and anything a game throws them where as non roleplayers who think they're real roleplayers can't even begin to think of something like getting marry or having any type of relationship in a game.
It's like dividing the men from the boys type thing. Move over, kids, let the men and women thru'.
Exactly. Real roleplayers are there to play a role, the immature ones are there to hack and slash and act like their already diminished social skills don't matter. That's why real roleplayers can separate their real lives from their game lives and can play a wide variety of character types, including different genders, with ease.
It's the little kids who are just there to swing a sword and act like a digital version of their real selves because they can't handle anything else.
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Kudos for a great idea. Couldn't agree more.
in my opinion, marriage system is not so useful for a game because i think it may be a tool which makes abruption for a couple...for the friction in gaming or another person...
maybe you like girls. I bet that is the problem.
Well, i can honestly say I never expected this much response on this topic. Some very interesting viewpoints stated.
*covers head and ducks* I give this thread another page and a half before this become the biggest sex war in the history of mmorpg.com lol
maybe you force the guys to be such losers lmao..
First off noone is responsible for someone acting like a loser other than themselves... Anyhow marrriage is so awful because you lose your independence when you get into all that. It is like a contract that says" ok come take over my life forever" Which honestly I think totally sucks for both parties. You lose your freedom to do what you want when you want and always have to schedule everything around this other person. If marriage were truely about love and not insecurity it might not be so bad but honestly most people get married because they are afraid of being alone rather than happy with themselves. They have this fairy tale image that everything will be wonderful from then out when if it wasn't already that way marriage is just going to make it worse not better, not to mention that you are probably messing up a good thing the way it was before. I don't understand why so many guys these days see a happy independent female and want to trap her. ....Sometimes the worst thing you can do in a relationship is to worry about the future of it .. just enjoy it as it is.One thing mariage is not is fun.. it is work alot of work.. but some people I guess like that kind of drama... and in a game... why someone would want that kind of work when they are supposed to be having fun? that is beyond me LOL!!!
maybe you like girls. I bet that is the problem.
My preferences are not the topic of this thread , and as I have already told you in response to your private messeges I am currently in a relationship with a man tyvm. Please don't go all stalker on me lol.
*Grabs some popcorn, a pepsi, and a comfy chair.*
LOL! that is funny ! HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! ... Anyhow They probably did that because of the ratio to men to women that play games but still it is funny they set rules about it LOL!!!
Lol... or just the next post after my own...
I've always wanted to get a girl character and then marry a guy. Then right before the wedding, I would tell him I'm a guy.
...oh I'm bad
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In memory of Laura "Taera" Genender. Passed away on Aug/13/08 - Rest In Peace; you will not be forgotten
I approve.
And if it's RPing, what makes you think it makes a difference? I've had online RP characters married to female characters that were played by male players. So what?
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Two points here:
1) Some people who play these games don't think of themselves as their character - instead, they treat the character as you would a pet. Ironically, these people are often RPers and out of game they will talk of their character in the 3rd person. They will say "I have a level 31 scout" instead of "I am a level 31 scout." They have made a split between themselves and their character - there is nothing creepy about these people allowing their toon to get married - they themselves understand they are not getting married they are simply expanding their character's ingame character.
2) Any feature that allows and/or encourages human beings to interact with each other in a MMORPG is worth including in a MMORPG. MMORPGs need outlets to express our unique individuality to other people or else ask yourself what is the point of playing a game with other human beings? If your answer is not the above go play halo3 you'll get as much out of it, save yourself a few bucks, and spare the rest of us of these mediocre MMORPGs we got nowadays.
I hope this helps you.
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I think it's somewhat nice, I've met some nice girls to enjoy playing mmo's with. Not to mention, if you happen to have a gf who enjoys mmo's like you do, chances are she'll probably bring it up.
I can see from an rp perspective how some people might like the option of getting married. It's like playing house.
When I played SWG I played a female creature handler gunfighter. She had a 'boyfriend' that was in actuality played by a lesbian in Ireland. When I told my wife this she laughed hysterically for about 30 minutes (she almost passed out). The idea of a guy playing a girl dating a guy played by a lesbian for some reason struck my wife as.....humorous
I decided at that point to turn down the marriage proprosal and any other marriage proposals thereafter.
maybe you force the guys to be such losers lmao..
First off noone is responsible for someone acting like a loser other than themselves... Anyhow marrriage is so awful because you lose your independence when you get into all that. It is like a contract that says" ok come take over my life forever" Which honestly I think totally sucks for both parties. You lose your freedom to do what you want when you want and always have to schedule everything around this other person. If marriage were truely about love and not insecurity it might not be so bad but honestly most people get married because they are afraid of being alone rather than happy with themselves. They have this fairy tale image that everything will be wonderful from then out when if it wasn't already that way marriage is just going to make it worse not better, not to mention that you are probably messing up a good thing the way it was before. I don't understand why so many guys these days see a happy independent female and want to trap her. ....Sometimes the worst thing you can do in a relationship is to worry about the future of it .. just enjoy it as it is.One thing mariage is not is fun.. it is work alot of work.. but some people I guess like that kind of drama... and in a game... why someone would want that kind of work when they are supposed to be having fun? that is beyond me LOL!!!
You either had a very sad home life or you are very young. Counseling might help though.
Life is not all about satisfying your own personal needs. That's what animals do on the most instinctual level. Human beings on the other hand are capable of altruism. Doing for others without wanting anything in return is part of being a kind and caring person. When you love someone, doing things for them or compromising is not an imposition. It's part of life and acknowledging the fact that there are bigger things besides your own wants and desires.
My wife and I are synergy. Apart we were two seperate, complete people, but together we are capable of so much more. We work, play, exercise, vacation together. We love each other more every day. We are best friends. So it is possible to be married and be happy. You just have to be smart about your choice.
maybe you force the guys to be such losers lmao..
First off noone is responsible for someone acting like a loser other than themselves... Anyhow marrriage is so awful because you lose your independence when you get into all that. It is like a contract that says" ok come take over my life forever" Which honestly I think totally sucks for both parties. You lose your freedom to do what you want when you want and always have to schedule everything around this other person. If marriage were truely about love and not insecurity it might not be so bad but honestly most people get married because they are afraid of being alone rather than happy with themselves. They have this fairy tale image that everything will be wonderful from then out when if it wasn't already that way marriage is just going to make it worse not better, not to mention that you are probably messing up a good thing the way it was before. I don't understand why so many guys these days see a happy independent female and want to trap her. ....Sometimes the worst thing you can do in a relationship is to worry about the future of it .. just enjoy it as it is.One thing mariage is not is fun.. it is work alot of work.. but some people I guess like that kind of drama... and in a game... why someone would want that kind of work when they are supposed to be having fun? that is beyond me LOL!!!
You either had a very sad home life or you are very young. Counseling might help though.
Life is not all about satisfying your own personal needs. That's what animals do on the most instinctual level. Human beings on the other hand are capable of altruism. Doing for others without wanting anything in return is part of being a kind and caring person. When you love someone, doing things for them or compromising is not an imposition. It's part of life and acknowledging the fact that there are bigger things besides your own wants and desires.
My wife and I are synergy. Apart we were two seperate, complete people, but together we are capable of so much more. We work, play, exercise, vacation together. We love each other more every day. We are best friends. So it is possible to be married and be happy. You just have to be smart about your choice.
Actually I can see both points of view. My parents married young & are still happily married, but in my case the short awful marriage I had in my mid 20s was enough to put me off for life. My sister's first marriage also ended badly after almost 10 years, but she has now been happily remarried for almost twice that.
It's not as simple as saying 'be smart about your choice', people change over time & things often don't work out as we hope. I am glad you & your wife are happy though, long may it last.
To get back on subject though, MMO marriages are definitely odd if not actually creepy!
If you can't "Have your cake & eat it too", then how can "The proof of the pudding be in the eating"?
Take the Hecatomb? TCG What Is Your Doom? quiz.
I am in favor of including role-playing features like this in a game.
Many players are not run&gun combatmonkeys and many do enjoy aspects such as this. It adds flavor and immersion to those seeking it, while detracting virtually nothing from others.
The coding time for this very simple feature is virtually nill. If a small, but significant, population enjoy this, then there is no reason to not include it.
These are the people who will play for a long time and not bounce to the next new shiny thing.
The retention alone is worth coding.
There are often many features that typically combat types shun, such as player housing and decor, clothing, marriage, economy.
It doesn't mean these features are bad though.
They add the flavor to the world that quite a few people crave. (if you recollect, house decorating in SWG was in vogue and virtually a contest to create the best home/shop)
Is this Sims? Perhaps, but it keeps people in the game and playing and paying. And that ain't a bad thing.
It may be creepy to you, but it wasn't to me. My female character married a male character. We are both males and secure in our sexuality. This was an in character role-playing relationship and yes we did have a honeymoon in jabba's bed. (funny as hell).
For us and our friends, this added a full day of in-game content for us. Player content trumps any sort of dev content... and this ceremony was enjoyed by 20+ other players.
Multiply that my hundreds of others who were married and their friends... and this small feature seems pretty big.
Mmm..ive always thought it was amusing, ive never been in a game that when i played it, it had the marriage function working, but id prolly do it, only with a good friend who i knew wouldnt turn all teary-eyed-semi-drooling-pup on me
o_o
you must be a joy to be married to. I feel sorry for your husband.
Just what i need... convince one women to let me play video games so i can log in and get nagged at by another
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Look at it this way. You have real roleplayers and then you have self described roleplayers. Real ones can adapt to marraige and anything a game throws them where as non roleplayers who think they're real roleplayers can't even begin to think of something like getting marry or having any type of relationship in a game.
It's like dividing the men from the boys type thing. Move over, kids, let the men and women thru'.
'nuff said.
Exactly. Real roleplayers are there to play a role, the immature ones are there to hack and slash and act like their already diminished social skills don't matter. That's why real roleplayers can separate their real lives from their game lives and can play a wide variety of character types, including different genders, with ease.
It's the little kids who are just there to swing a sword and act like a digital version of their real selves because they can't handle anything else.
Played: UO, EQ, WoW, DDO, SWG, AO, CoH, EvE, TR, AoC, GW, GA, Aion, Allods, lots more
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