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  • devilisciousdeviliscious Member UncommonPosts: 4,359

     *eyes open*

    Originally posted by Terranah


     
    Originally posted by deviliscious

    Originally posted by KingDong

    Originally posted by deviliscious


    Marriage is awful in real life so why would anyone want to do it on a game?!!  Omg LOL! I stole a bride from a pixel wedding once though ... was pretty funny. I talked her out of it by convincing her what losers guys are lmao.



    maybe you force the guys to be such losers lmao..

    First off noone is responsible for someone acting like a loser other than themselves... Anyhow marrriage is so awful because you lose your independence when you get into all that.  It is like a contract that says" ok come take over my life forever" Which honestly I think totally sucks for both parties.  You lose your freedom to do what you want when you want and always have to schedule everything around this other person. If marriage were truely about love and not insecurity it might not be so bad but honestly most people get married because they are afraid of being alone rather than happy with themselves.  They have this fairy tale image that everything will be wonderful from then out when if it wasn't already that way marriage is just going to make it worse not better, not to mention that you are probably messing up a good thing the way it was before. I don't understand why so many guys these days see a happy independent  female and want to trap her. ....Sometimes the worst thing you can do in a relationship is to worry about the future of it .. just enjoy it as it is.One thing mariage is not is fun.. it is work alot of work.. but some people I guess like that kind of drama... and in a game... why someone would want that kind of work when they are supposed to be having fun? that is beyond me LOL!!!


    You either had a very sad home life or you are very young.  Counseling might help though.

     

     

    Life is not all about satisfying your own personal needs.  That's what animals do on the most instinctual level.  Human beings on the other hand are capable of altruism.   Doing for others without wanting anything in return is part of being a kind and caring person.  When you love someone, doing things for them or compromising is not an imposition.  It's part of life and acknowledging the fact that there are bigger things besides your own wants and desires. 

     

    My wife and I are synergy.  Apart we were two seperate, complete people, but together we are capable of so much more.  We work, play, exercise, vacation together. We love each other more every day.  We are best friends.  So it is possible to be married and be happy.  You just have to be smart about your choice.

    LOL!! 1. what you view life as and what others may view life as are 2 entirely different things, making assumptions about a person simply because they do not want the same things in life that you do is narrow minded and judgemental.   Human beings are animals and sex ,  the fear of being alone, and helping one another are all primitive  desires.  Dogs live in packs and help each other survive, Elephants mourn for their dead, and mother bears protect their young. Caring for others and wanting nothing in return is something you can very much do without marriage, in fact marriage  in itself demands something in return, commitment to that person.. forever. Marriage is only a part of life because certain people decided so just as certain people decided it was agood idea to fill up our dead with chemicals and place them in boxes everywhere rather than allow them to go back into the earth the way they were meant to in the first place. Have to wonder sometimes who thinks up these brilliant ideas.. Yes it is possible for people to convince themselves that is what life is about and that is the way it should be, but those same people have never bothered to look at life from other points of view and see what else is out there. Opinions are not facts simply because you say they are.

  • devilisciousdeviliscious Member UncommonPosts: 4,359
    Originally posted by LordSic


      Just what i need... convince one women to let me play video games so i can log in and get nagged at by another

    lmao! that works both ways for girls too... men can be so possesive and demanding, and honestly i think they complain wayyy more than women.  Men sleep on your keys so you can't go clubbing,   stand around giving any guy who looks at you dirty looks, and  punch a guy for buying you a drink... yea I think men are wayyy wworse than women lol.

  • devilisciousdeviliscious Member UncommonPosts: 4,359

    It is bad enough that you have to  run away from guys trying to force you to marry them in real life please don't make us have to run away from guys in games too ! lmao

  • Beatnik59Beatnik59 Member UncommonPosts: 2,413

    I've played male characters that married female characters played by males, and I've also played female characters who were married to male characters.  I guess I don't see any problem in it, mainly because I have a sense of detachment in terms of my characters.

    Don't get me wrong, I'm fond of my characters, because I spend a lot of time imbuing them with personalities.  But the characters are not me.  While this may sound strange to some who aren't roleplayers, I view my characters not as extensions of me, but independent entities who depend upon me to give them the things they need to be happy in their virtual world.  In this respect, the "toon" is not there to serve me.  Rather, I see myself as someone there to serve the "toon."

    Marriage is one of those things that I think virtual people would like in a virtual world.  After all, how do all the virtual people get into the virtual world (virtually speaking, of course)?  So if I'm playing a character, I find it only natural to look for someone he or she might like.  Sometimes, or even most times, the character I play marries someone who I personally couldn't tolerate if they were real.  But the server isn't real, and I'm not the one who matters here.  It's my character who matters.

    So if she marries a nice guy who treats my female character with respect, and she finds him charming, and he asks, she'll marry him.  But I don't think of it as me marrying some man.  I look at it as a proud father giving away his daughter, because in a certain sense, that's what I am to my characters, as I am responsible for creating them and 'raising' them.

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  • TerranahTerranah Member UncommonPosts: 3,575

    Originally posted by deviliscious


     *eyes open*
    Originally posted by Terranah


     
    Originally posted by deviliscious

    Originally posted by KingDong

    Originally posted by deviliscious


    Marriage is awful in real life so why would anyone want to do it on a game?!!  Omg LOL! I stole a bride from a pixel wedding once though ... was pretty funny. I talked her out of it by convincing her what losers guys are lmao.



    maybe you force the guys to be such losers lmao..

    First off noone is responsible for someone acting like a loser other than themselves... Anyhow marrriage is so awful because you lose your independence when you get into all that.  It is like a contract that says" ok come take over my life forever" Which honestly I think totally sucks for both parties.  You lose your freedom to do what you want when you want and always have to schedule everything around this other person. If marriage were truely about love and not insecurity it might not be so bad but honestly most people get married because they are afraid of being alone rather than happy with themselves.  They have this fairy tale image that everything will be wonderful from then out when if it wasn't already that way marriage is just going to make it worse not better, not to mention that you are probably messing up a good thing the way it was before. I don't understand why so many guys these days see a happy independent  female and want to trap her. ....Sometimes the worst thing you can do in a relationship is to worry about the future of it .. just enjoy it as it is.One thing mariage is not is fun.. it is work alot of work.. but some people I guess like that kind of drama... and in a game... why someone would want that kind of work when they are supposed to be having fun? that is beyond me LOL!!!


    You either had a very sad home life or you are very young.  Counseling might help though.

     

     

    Life is not all about satisfying your own personal needs.  That's what animals do on the most instinctual level.  Human beings on the other hand are capable of altruism.   Doing for others without wanting anything in return is part of being a kind and caring person.  When you love someone, doing things for them or compromising is not an imposition.  It's part of life and acknowledging the fact that there are bigger things besides your own wants and desires. 

     

    My wife and I are synergy.  Apart we were two seperate, complete people, but together we are capable of so much more.  We work, play, exercise, vacation together. We love each other more every day.  We are best friends.  So it is possible to be married and be happy.  You just have to be smart about your choice.

    LOL!! 1. what you view life as and what others may view life as are 2 entirely different things, making assumptions about a person simply because they do not want the same things in life that you do is narrow minded and judgemental.   Human beings are animals and sex ,  the fear of being alone, and helping one another are all primitive  desires.  Dogs live in packs and help each other survive, Elephants mourn for their dead, and mother bears protect their young. Caring for others and wanting nothing in return is something you can very much do without marriage, in fact marriage  in itself demands something in return, commitment to that person.. forever. Marriage is only a part of life because certain people decided so just as certain people decided it was agood idea to fill up our dead with chemicals and place them in boxes everywhere rather than allow them to go back into the earth the way they were meant to in the first place. Have to wonder sometimes who thinks up these brilliant ideas.. Yes it is possible for people to convince themselves that is what life is about and that is the way it should be, but those same people have never bothered to look at life from other points of view and see what else is out there. Opinions are not facts simply because you say they are.


    Yeah, different people have different perspectives.  What's right for me may not be right for you.

     

    My background though is I work intimately with a wide swath of humanity.  I see people and their families and the choices they make and the consequences of those choices.  After awhile you see repeating patterns, and you start to make assumptions.  And while you sometimes will be wrong, more times than not you aren't.  If you came from a happy home life, I appologize.  You would be one of those times I got it wrong.

     

  • ProtestProtest Member UncommonPosts: 159

    Originally posted by deviliscious

    Originally posted by LordSic


      Just what i need... convince one women to let me play video games so i can log in and get nagged at by another

    lmao! that works both ways for girls too... men can be so possesive and demanding, and honestly i think they complain wayyy more than women.  Men sleep on your keys so you can't go clubbing,   stand around giving any guy who looks at you dirty looks, and  punch a guy for buying you a drink... yea I think men are wayyy wworse than women lol.



    Judging from the content of this post, the problem isn't with men, just the men that you pick.

    "Sleep on your keys so you can't go clubbing".. that statement speaks volumes about you and the men you choose.

    I hope things get better for you. I really do!

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    -T.S. Eliot

  • stickmstickm Member Posts: 219

    ya... why would you be out clubbing if you are married or have a boyfriend... they probably know if they let you out of sight that you will cheat on them...

  • whocares111whocares111 Member Posts: 14
    Originally posted by stickm


    ya... why would you be out clubbing if you are married or have a boyfriend... they probably know if they let you out of sight that you will cheat on them...



    and by the way, I happen to know devil from runescape and she is married. must be a treat in her house lol.

  • resonate6resonate6 Member Posts: 83
    Originally posted by Lodeclaw

    Originally posted by Orthedos


     
    Originally posted by Lodeclaw


    It's like this... Regardless of whether or not the devs take the time to program a system for marriage, people will perform and maintain virtual marriages within the game. I don't see why a dev should waste time working on a system for marriage when the players are perfectly capable of pursuing and managing the issue themselves. Whether or not it's good, bad, or creepy is irrevalent.
    In some games, after marriage comes offsprings, inheriting somewhat the stats and skills of the parents, and provide playable alts as the offsprings grow up.  Its a bit too rash to brush away developer's role in marriage.  Just call it an additional dimension of playing.  How about that? :-)

     

    No offense or anything, but it sounds like a dumb idea.

     

    I think it sounds cool... but than again , woman  like kids

     and this kinda stuff hehehe

  • devilisciousdeviliscious Member UncommonPosts: 4,359
    Originally posted by stickm


    ya... why would you be out clubbing if you are married or have a boyfriend... they probably know if they let you out of sight that you will cheat on them...

    Lmao. No he knows better than that .. i am mean to most men LOL!   Anyhow, then he says stupid stuff like " I trust you, I don't trust the guys" ... Total nonsense.  And the reason I like to go out is to have fun, dance music, let loose get the tension out from a stressful week. Why would i not want to ? lmao

  • devilisciousdeviliscious Member UncommonPosts: 4,359
    Originally posted by whocares111

    Originally posted by stickm


    ya... why would you be out clubbing if you are married or have a boyfriend... they probably know if they let you out of sight that you will cheat on them...



    and by the way, I happen to know devil from runescape and she is married. must be a treat in her house lol.

    Quit making troll posts .. you don't know me so don't pretend to lol!

  • BlackWatchBlackWatch Member UncommonPosts: 972

    I've never been able to see the 'draw' of ingame marriage... not for me, personally, at least.  But I'm guessing that for others, it's a way to 'enhance' their RP experience while ingame. 

    ...

    I wonder how many RL couples have split due to ingame issues?

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  • est0niaest0nia Member Posts: 62

    Originally posted by Zorvan


    What the hell is this? Why do people want this in their games ( mostly asian games from what I've seen )? Someone explain this phenomenon to me, as I just do not understand it at all. Even from a role-play standpoint, it's creepy.
     
    Newsflash: Gorgeous Glenda Greatknockers is in reality Puny Peter Palmbeater.

    How is it any different than millions fo people going onto online dating sites?

  • BlackWatchBlackWatch Member UncommonPosts: 972

    I mean, most online dating sites are 'legit'.  You meet, you date, etc.,..

    If you meet in an MMO... RAIDING = DATING?

    I can imagine the fights:

    I saw you looking at that Night Elf vendor.  No buff for you tonight.

    You selfish sonuvabeotch!  Are you seriously going to conjure yourself some water and not give any to me?

    Why would you even want to roll on that robe?  You know my favorite color is red!  It doesn't matter that I'm a plate wearing warrior!  I wanted that ROBE!!!!!!!

    I NEED A NEW MOUNT!

    You need to get a bigger, more practical mount!  Think of our future family!

    You're spending way too much time logged off or at work!  Are you grinding with other people?

    Do these leggings make my butt look big?

    ...

    Forget a bunch of that noise.

    I play games to get away from drama, not make more.

    I can see dating in game if your toon is hotter than you are/or hers is hotter than she is real life.  Insecurity issues or whatever.  But count me out of that.

    Besides, what if your hearth is set to Ironforge and hers is set to Thunder Bluff.  Sure, Tauren chicks have less body hair than Dwarf fem's do, but long distance relationships NEVER WORK!!!!!!

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  • airheadairhead Member UncommonPosts: 718

    Why?  .... To practice polygamy (multiple wives) and not be bound by age restrictions..... pretty cool.

  • BlackWatchBlackWatch Member UncommonPosts: 972

    Polygamy... lol. 

    Now the fed's are watching this thread.

    ...

    Now battlegrounds need babysitters.

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  • whocares111whocares111 Member Posts: 14
    Originally posted by deviliscious

    Originally posted by whocares111

    Originally posted by stickm


    ya... why would you be out clubbing if you are married or have a boyfriend... they probably know if they let you out of sight that you will cheat on them...



    and by the way, I happen to know devil from runescape and she is married. must be a treat in her house lol.

    Quit making troll posts .. you don't know me so don't pretend to lol!



    and so you are denying being married?

  • wicked357wicked357 Member UncommonPosts: 172
    Originally posted by airhead


    Why?  .... To practice polygamy (multiple wives) and not be bound by age restrictions..... pretty cool.

    I don't know your age, but that sounds like some chester the molester shit! LOL

  • TeimanTeiman Member Posts: 1,319

    Originally posted by heartless


    I have to say that since my time in UO, I've seen people date, marry and break-up online. I've seen a married (in real life) couple marry other people (for RP reasons) in an MMO game. I've see some crazy shit from the RP crowd. I've actually seen people find their true love through an MMORPG and online dating. Hell, my best friend married a girl he met on AOL and they are great together and I love them both.
    I can never have an online relationship though. It may seem shallow but I preffer an actual woman over pixelated ones. No offence intended to girls that visit this forum, some of you are great people.

    The main problem with a virtual women, is the fisical contact. Other than that, you can have very impresive loves...

    Anyway, no sex => http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Platonic_love

    You MUST have sex to make real a relation.

     

  • KrayzjoelKrayzjoel Member Posts: 906

    Wow! I have a lot to say but ill try to sum it up........

    Relationships in games doesnt work! Ive seen it, seen what it does to guilds and RL relationships, and unfortunately ive been apart of it. Even though its been over a year Im still trying to regain my wife's trust....

    if you and your RL wife/hubby play to gether cool! You and your RL boyfriend/girlfriend play together cool! You and some some other person in another state saying your in a relationship online..not cool and not real.

    Play the Gane for the game!. if you want a relationship go to a online chat thing. or better yet...get a real relationship going with someone in your area.....

    By the way...in my opinion only there is no "role-playing" anymore. That term lost its meaning along time ago. By this i mean for instance: you are taking about something or something using, ole english, talking about strategy then someone suddenly says for instance. That burger i had at mcdonalds gave me the hershey squirts...im not eating there anymore. The Rp aspect is now completely gone. Real role playing is being on stage in a production for instance. You have to stay in character. PPL always never stay in character. In online games or not for any lenght or period of time at least. Now im not saying that ppl arent staying in rp or its not happening but simply its never enforced or never stay in "character".

    Look its just my opinion based off  experiences playing MMo's. Ive seen friends and others hurt because they take something the wrong way, send the wrong messages, being coy,  just just wanting attention, or just wanting ppl to help them w/o helping others.

    its just my opinion only.

     

    Played : WOW, LOTRO, COH/COV, EQ2, SWG, and WAR.
    Playing EVE Online and AOC.
    Wtg for SW:TOR and WOD

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