Actually dating a non-gamer is quite difficult because you have different interests in life, for example, I go on with a date with someone, and talk about things related to my gaming life and MMOrpg stuffs. for her it'll be boring for her since it s not really her hobby playing this kind of games. It also goes with her, she may be talking about her hobbies, things that she do in her life, I wouldn't be that interested on the things that she is talking about since it has nothing to do to what I like the best and that is playing online games. Maybe we should look for someone who has the same hobbies as ours so it will be easier for us to mingle with this people.
Well I disagree from the fact that people who have different interest will have a hard time to mingle with each other. Simply because you guys will be interested from what you partner have. For me, I've been playing online games ever since so it'll be interesting for me to know what do others do, I'd like to know what is keeping them busy, what are the things they do so they will be able to release their stress. And same goes to her, she will be curious on why do I play longer than sleeping, what do I benefit from playing all day and all night. Those are the simple things that can make your relationship with each other stonger than before.
If I where you, I'll go to gaming convention and find a girl with the same interest. It is hard to convince a nongamer about your way of life. I had once a situation that was aweful and depressing when my nongamer girlfriend made me choose between her and my console. That day i had to decide as she had force me to. I looked at my console and her many times, don't ask me what i had told her in the end. It is just the way things are many people don't understand our situation and most of them don't try to understand.
It's all abput communiction, if you try to make her understand in the first place, that for playing online games is more that playing for you, it ois part of your life, if she does not understand this, then there is no way you guys can start a relationship. This topic is just dating, so there is no problem if you date non-gamers, if it is having a relationship with a non-gamer, then it is another story.
For me it doesn't matter if what I date is a gamer or not as long you spend time with her always and your happy with her despite the time constraint in playing games. If you feel that you really love her and he loves you back she will understand everything you do.
I totally agree, you just have to have time for her and make her understand that this is what you do, you just have to give more time and sacrifice a bi of your time in gaming. be open to her and she will be open to you too, communication is the key in this relationship.
I can say, most nan gamer girls maybe a bit uncomfortable in the fact that their boyfriends allot most of their time in gaming rather than spending most of his time for her. But still it depends on how they talk to each other regarding on this situation, and how understandable is the girl to his man.
I live about two hours away from my girlfriend, so we see each other on weekends only pretty much...sometimes three day weekends, but that'll all change when she goes back to school in August.
Basically though, she doesn't even know what an MMO is, she knows that I play video games, is okay with it, and doesn't see it as a "bad hobby" like your girlfriend seems to...as long as she knows that i choose her over video games in the end, and that i'm not disregarding her in favor of video games, she's fine. We both know that we need our space sometimes and some time to do our own thing...I let her do whatever she does, she lets me play video games, the world is happy.
So short answer, yes, gamers can date non-gamers.
Your argument is like a two legged dog with an eating disorder...weak and unbalanced.
I live about two hours away from my girlfriend, so we see each other on weekends only pretty much...sometimes three day weekends, but that'll all change when she goes back to school in August.
Basically though, she doesn't even know what an MMO is, she knows that I play video games, is okay with it, and doesn't see it as a "bad hobby" like your girlfriend seems to...as long as she knows that i choose her over video games in the end, and that i'm not disregarding her in favor of video games, she's fine. We both know that we need our space sometimes and some time to do our own thing...I let her do whatever she does, she lets me play video games, the world is happy.
So short answer, yes, gamers can date non-gamers.
Being as jealous as me, I would be all day wondering if she is cheating me
I'm kind of lucky I suppose. My wife doesn't play games but she "allows" me to. On the flip-side, I've matured enough to know when the game comes second to real-life. So I basically don't give her a reason to complain about it too much.
She does play NeoPets and watched with interest as I was building my cliff-side fortress in Minecraft though. She even used to build rooms for a MUD back when we met. It's more of the action type games she doesn't like... and hates when I play a violent one.
I can live with that... I just wait until she isn't home
I wouldn't wait until my gf is out to play violent games. They are part of my life, and she should know that I am not going to shot her with a railgun or something
I wouldn't wait until my gf is out to play violent games. They are part of my life, and she should know that I am not going to shot her with a railgun or something
Have this conversation again when you've been married for 13 years...
I wouldn't wait until my gf is out to play violent games. They are part of my life, and she should know that I am not going to shot her with a railgun or something
Have this conversation again when you've been married for 13 years...
I wouldn't wait until my gf is out to play violent games. They are part of my life, and she should know that I am not going to shot her with a railgun or something
Have this conversation again when you've been married for 13 years...
I'd probably shoot her with the shrinker ray if I had one.
I was a relationship with a gamer woman, so I look at this from the other side of spectrum, although I know some (especially women), that are quite resistant to games. Best thing is to show them what games are about. Everyone who doesn't like games, are most likely just unwilling to learn. Games are often too complex to fire-up person's interest, if there isn't some burning need to play them; there never is, but neither is with reading books. So show her what the games are about, try even teach her play them.
If she enjoys books, best thing would be to show her a simple adventure game, with a captivating story. It's bound to get her interested eventually, when she gets comfortable with the controls and so on. When she sees you playing, she sees only meaningless mumbojumbo on the screen and doesn't quite understand there's real people playing and cooperating with you, same kind of ignorance you can hear from grand parents or whoever is unfamiliar with these things. I don't give a f about American football, but I also know nothing about it. If I learned the rules of the game, it might get interesting for me... The thing about games is also, that there's so many different kind of games, every living being likes some game as long as they capable of playing them, that's for sure. Sims or Farmville type of stuff appeals to a lot of women, or you can play virtual version of backgammon, if that's your thing.
If she stays unwilling to learn, then I'd really really question the quality of the realionships etc... I would never be in a realitonship where both sides wouldn't only accept, but also get interested in each others hobbies. It wouldn't matter to me what exactly my girlfriend is interested in, I would actively try to do that with her. Were it squash, fashion, photography, chemistry, cosplay, helping animals, collecting stamps or even gaming. On the other hand, I do kind of understand, that games and gamers are easy to prejudge, as it's more of a solo hobby, and socializing happens over internet. It is it's own world... but so is collecting marbles, usually.
Final conclussion: If you are male and gamer and you never dated a girl (gamer or not, gamers are too few, and non-gamers aren't comprehensive if you don't look like an alpha) shoot yourself in the head. It's the painless and quickest way to solve your problems.
PS I'm having a very bad day. More emo than usual XD
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Actually dating a non-gamer is quite difficult because you have different interests in life, for example, I go on with a date with someone, and talk about things related to my gaming life and MMOrpg stuffs. for her it'll be boring for her since it s not really her hobby playing this kind of games. It also goes with her, she may be talking about her hobbies, things that she do in her life, I wouldn't be that interested on the things that she is talking about since it has nothing to do to what I like the best and that is playing online games. Maybe we should look for someone who has the same hobbies as ours so it will be easier for us to mingle with this people.
Well I disagree from the fact that people who have different interest will have a hard time to mingle with each other. Simply because you guys will be interested from what you partner have. For me, I've been playing online games ever since so it'll be interesting for me to know what do others do, I'd like to know what is keeping them busy, what are the things they do so they will be able to release their stress. And same goes to her, she will be curious on why do I play longer than sleeping, what do I benefit from playing all day and all night. Those are the simple things that can make your relationship with each other stonger than before.
If I where you, I'll go to gaming convention and find a girl with the same interest. It is hard to convince a nongamer about your way of life. I had once a situation that was aweful and depressing when my nongamer girlfriend made me choose between her and my console. That day i had to decide as she had force me to. I looked at my console and her many times, don't ask me what i had told her in the end. It is just the way things are many people don't understand our situation and most of them don't try to understand.
It's all abput communiction, if you try to make her understand in the first place, that for playing online games is more that playing for you, it ois part of your life, if she does not understand this, then there is no way you guys can start a relationship. This topic is just dating, so there is no problem if you date non-gamers, if it is having a relationship with a non-gamer, then it is another story.
You'll have about as much luck there as you would playing Rugby.
It is ok for me to date a non gamer. why because many of hot women are not really a gamer so i prefer to date a non gamer. haha
You just have to open to her and always make time for her. period
For me it doesn't matter if what I date is a gamer or not as long you spend time with her always and your happy with her despite the time constraint in playing games. If you feel that you really love her and he loves you back she will understand everything you do.
I totally agree, you just have to have time for her and make her understand that this is what you do, you just have to give more time and sacrifice a bi of your time in gaming. be open to her and she will be open to you too, communication is the key in this relationship.
At this point of the discussion. How many non-gamer girls are happy with their gamer boyfriends? Did you come up to any conclusion?
I can say, most nan gamer girls maybe a bit uncomfortable in the fact that their boyfriends allot most of their time in gaming rather than spending most of his time for her. But still it depends on how they talk to each other regarding on this situation, and how understandable is the girl to his man.
It sounds as if playing videogames is a sickness
I live about two hours away from my girlfriend, so we see each other on weekends only pretty much...sometimes three day weekends, but that'll all change when she goes back to school in August.
Basically though, she doesn't even know what an MMO is, she knows that I play video games, is okay with it, and doesn't see it as a "bad hobby" like your girlfriend seems to...as long as she knows that i choose her over video games in the end, and that i'm not disregarding her in favor of video games, she's fine. We both know that we need our space sometimes and some time to do our own thing...I let her do whatever she does, she lets me play video games, the world is happy.
So short answer, yes, gamers can date non-gamers.
Your argument is like a two legged dog with an eating disorder...weak and unbalanced.
Being as jealous as me, I would be all day wondering if she is cheating me
I'm kind of lucky I suppose. My wife doesn't play games but she "allows" me to. On the flip-side, I've matured enough to know when the game comes second to real-life. So I basically don't give her a reason to complain about it too much.
She does play NeoPets and watched with interest as I was building my cliff-side fortress in Minecraft though. She even used to build rooms for a MUD back when we met. It's more of the action type games she doesn't like... and hates when I play a violent one.
I can live with that... I just wait until she isn't home
I wouldn't wait until my gf is out to play violent games. They are part of my life, and she should know that I am not going to shot her with a railgun or something
Have this conversation again when you've been married for 13 years...
You marry, you lose
If I can't play violent games, she can't watch TV
It could be worse.
I could be into football.
If you date a gamer girl, do you meet up in Ogrimmar?
I have to say the whole idea of meeting up with girls to play video games is utterly useless as a date for me.
Totally lacking.
I'd probably shoot her with the shrinker ray if I had one.
I was a relationship with a gamer woman, so I look at this from the other side of spectrum, although I know some (especially women), that are quite resistant to games. Best thing is to show them what games are about. Everyone who doesn't like games, are most likely just unwilling to learn. Games are often too complex to fire-up person's interest, if there isn't some burning need to play them; there never is, but neither is with reading books. So show her what the games are about, try even teach her play them.
If she enjoys books, best thing would be to show her a simple adventure game, with a captivating story. It's bound to get her interested eventually, when she gets comfortable with the controls and so on. When she sees you playing, she sees only meaningless mumbojumbo on the screen and doesn't quite understand there's real people playing and cooperating with you, same kind of ignorance you can hear from grand parents or whoever is unfamiliar with these things. I don't give a f about American football, but I also know nothing about it. If I learned the rules of the game, it might get interesting for me... The thing about games is also, that there's so many different kind of games, every living being likes some game as long as they capable of playing them, that's for sure. Sims or Farmville type of stuff appeals to a lot of women, or you can play virtual version of backgammon, if that's your thing.
If she stays unwilling to learn, then I'd really really question the quality of the realionships etc... I would never be in a realitonship where both sides wouldn't only accept, but also get interested in each others hobbies. It wouldn't matter to me what exactly my girlfriend is interested in, I would actively try to do that with her. Were it squash, fashion, photography, chemistry, cosplay, helping animals, collecting stamps or even gaming. On the other hand, I do kind of understand, that games and gamers are easy to prejudge, as it's more of a solo hobby, and socializing happens over internet. It is it's own world... but so is collecting marbles, usually.
Final conclussion: If you are male and gamer and you never dated a girl (gamer or not, gamers are too few, and non-gamers aren't comprehensive if you don't look like an alpha) shoot yourself in the head. It's the painless and quickest way to solve your problems.
PS I'm having a very bad day. More emo than usual XD
it's good that she likes reading. life is not always about gaming. you'll have to work and take care of her.
you dont have to date a gamer. non-gamer is good i think. btw, what do you like from her? you need to spend more time with her , not the games
is there really something wrong with dating a non gamer? i am a gamer but i date girls who are not really that of a gamer like me.