I feel exactly the way you do!
I played Rift several years ago, and had to let it go due to work. I returned maybe 6-8 months later, but then I was so far behind I didn't want to "catch up", so I opted to start ESO. That was a huge disappoint…
I don't think I could ever give this game another try. It was such a huge let down and I put in at least 200+ hours on it before giving up. Unless I'm completely desperate (which I currently am not) I might give it another chance...