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Male. 26. Single. Hardly Any Family. No friends. Lonely. Angry.
goneglockin
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I was invisible again tonight. I made rounds out and about in the metro-Detroit area. Went to a bar. Went to a couple of coffee shops. Approached by no one as usual, and I'm tired of approaching people. I think last year alone I asked for about 40 dates, went on about 20- and none of them went any god damn where.
My new policy is wait for them to come to you so you're not wasting your precious time. But the way it's going, I'd be more likely to win the lottery without every buying a ticket than to have a woman come up to me for anything more than a free drink.
I don't know if it's just this godforsaken Detroit land, or if it's the entire contiental United States- but people are stupid, short sighted, have no clue what they want out of life- and pathetically shy. I know when I go to Italy to visit the little family I have left- the women there cannot leave me alone. Meeting people is easy. Everyone is friendly even if half of em' are assholes.
I find myself angry with it all; because I'm wondering why I'm being left out. What is wrong with me? I'm pretty damn sexy if I do say so myself. But who walks in with a woman coddling him, a woman I might have been rejected by say, the douchey guy with shaggy hair that he hasn't washed in a week. Is it fair? Does this make sense?
I'm not going anywhere with this. I'm just very very angry right now and needed to vent. I came home tonight and pulled out my glock, inserted a mag and chambered a round. It was at that point I wondered what the hell was I doing.
Does anyone else ever get this way?
I mean- according to all the new age bullshit you're supposed to be "happy with yourself." And everyone knows "money doesn't buy happiness." So really- what the hell is there to be happy about? Your stupid hobbies and leisurely pursuits? What the hell do those petty things mean in the eyes of the universe? Is your life going to mean something because you lost those X number of pounds and fit into those blue jeans or swim suit? Because you finished writing that book? Fixed that old car? Is that happiness?
No. That's meaningless bullshit.
There's only two things that are going to matter when you're dead.
How you lived and who remembers. That means the relationships, the connections, the people in your life- are the only things of any real significance to strive for with your limited time on this earth.
Because this makes such perfect sense to me, and because I am so completely and utterly alone- at my age- when everyone is married, a baby mama, fugly, or crazy (I think I'm starting to fall into that last one) one can't help but feel despair.
Ah well. Off to play video games.
Hope you got your things together. Hope you are quite prepared to die. Looks like we're in for nasty weather. ... There's a bad moon on the rise.
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If you have a thick Italian accent, I would suggest you just start talking when you go places. Even if on the phone. That's bound to get some attention.
Edit: And honestly, if I was at that point in my life I would seek some help. Call up your family.. maybe you just need a change of scenery. Perhaps you'd even be happier back in Italy. That's where family is, and you say that's where the women seem to be flocking to you.
be careful what you wish for.
You could end up with a girl that controls your life that you love to death.
And that sucks...........
because you can't leave her because you love her and you have no more fun.
98% of the teenage population does or has tried smoking pot. If you''re one of the 2% who hasn''t, copy & paste this in your signature.
well. I think you are pursuing what life is really all about, in the majority of opinion that is. you're looking for a mate to go through this whatever-ness with. after mate, comes the family (hopefully) and that is when things get going. have some children and you've accomplished immortality. I took my eight year old son to his first baseball practice of the new season today. was rainy so we had it indoors. had pizza afterwards. movie on friday, he's off from school.
its really cool, indescribable, when that moment of clarity comes -looking at your son, or daughter, and realizing its not about yourself...its about the future, your generations to come. how you'd walk in front of a bullet from a glock for them.
I really do feel your vibe with the date scene, even though i havent been single for a long while. as a married man, when i think of ever finding myself in a single situation again, i would really look into those match websites. i dont know any feedback from them at all, with no exp of them, but they seem like a good easy start. you can narrow the selection down quite a bit i figure. I would also assume you would have to be as blatantly honest on that website as possible -to maybe attract the opposite who is out there looking for you...
chips, dips chains & whips.
While it is most certainly hard out there a few ideas. Take a class for continuing adult education. Learn a new skill from a language, cooking ( something that requires you to be around people).
Vollenteer. You might meet some really neat people. Try habitat for Humanity to looking in the sunday paper for organzations that might speak to you.
Look around see if your area as a United Unitariarn Church. They are farily liberal and usually have singal groups. Get involved, make a difference!
Check the local welfare office. Plenty of eligible women with ready made families for ya, and they even have an income.
Move to Italy then...the answer is staring you in the face..
Culture.
Is it even possible to find someone virgin in Italy once they are above 20? :P
- "If I understand you well, you are telling me until next time. " - Ren
Personally, I feel that no gun should be at any less than condition 3, ever, although condition 2 can cause a few problems for a klutz. If you have to protect yourself, the previous few seconds taken to find and insert a magazine could cost you your life.
I'd recommend setting your goals when going to the bar as having a beer, not finding a lady friend. That way, you won't be disappointed when the women completely ignore you for some douchebag with a popped collar.
Now with 57.3% more flames!
Try over the border. It isn't as extreme as going to Italy. Seeing as you are from Detroit, you can go up and see the Canada Scene. Usually people from Canada or Mexico are more open and outgoing then people from the United States. Atleast that has been my experience in San Diego. As another young guy I know where you are coming from. Most women in the US are really sheepish. They even are insulted now when you buy them a drink. All the women I have known while growing up attached to the guy they went to the prom with and married them. Most of them are in the middle of having kids. Keep in mind I am 24. I think they just aren't as adventerous in life.
Last year alone you said you asked for about 40 dates and gone on 20 without being able to find a match.I admire you for asking for those 40 dates to bad it didnt lead to anything. But still half of them said yes to a date. Thats not bad ratio at all but pointless if it doesn't lead to anything. wish I could offer some advice, but I got it even worse than you belive it or not. I wont get into that.
20 different women in a year.....and we are suppose to feel sorry for you.....how?
Your cup isn't half empty, its half full.
You are asking questions we all face and all must find our own answer. You are searching but only you know what for. Its discovering what that life is all about.
GG - put your pic up here. I'm single. Well divorced. It was kinda of a mutual thing. Our work and schedules drove us apart. Anyway. Put your picture up! Let's see GoneGlocken!
Never mind GG, he'll be fine.
Now, about putting some pics up, Teala.....................
Time to start saving up for the shipping rates from Russia I'm guessing. A woman around 100 pounds should be fairly expensive with international shipping. Face facts, women are evil and that why the like loosers. It's meant to torture good guys. Nothing builds a peaceful relationship like a threat to deport your significant other to Siberia
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My best advice is to be open minded and look outside the country. There are so many different cultures. Some of them will match you so easily its scary. I finally found my match in a young nursing student in the Philippines called Leah. I've been with her for almost 3 years now and I have no regretts. Hehe we passed the kill each other because of cultural differences about a year ago so you gota be patience with them.
As someone else said, if your more comfortable with a Italian woman, go for it! The American womans mindset mite just not be for you. I was 25 when I found my gal and Im 28 now.
Never mind GG, he'll be fine.
Now, about putting some pics up, Teala.....................
Yeah, TOGTFO!
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I just saw this... then this topic... and thought it would have a home here for some reason...
BOYCOTTING EA / ORIGIN going forward.
A lot of people are single, and a lot people who are in relationships aren't so happy. Everywhere you look you see divorce, people cheating, and various other unhealthy relationships. If you want someone with whom you can live happily ever after, you should know that that is a pretty lofty goal. Most people just settle, and may have married one of those 20 that you rejected last year.
As for women passing you by for the guy who doesn't look as good, it's pretty simple. Women probably think you're taken, or a ladies' man. If you're as good looking as you say, women can be intimidated by that, by assuming that you just go out and get any woman you want. I know that might be wrong to say, but could be the case. Women might say they want a good looking guy with self confidence, but that's only if that guy is very faithful too. That faithful part is something they don't find out about till later, so those good looks and self confidence become a detriment.
You know who goes to bars by themselves? Guys looking for one night stands. Unless you want a woman who knows that too, you should probably go with co-workers. Or you could look in other places for women, like asking some woman to help you pick out clothes in a store. You like guns, maybe teach some eligible woman the proper technique at the shooting range? There are a lot of places to find women, a bar is way down on that list....along with the internet.
I kinda feel the same way, I haven't gotten laid in awhile (and apparently I'm cute??)... eek. But I found my anti social escape in WoW a little over a yr ago. But now I'm free of that clasp and started drinking again with my friends. I enjoy going out. I try to enjoy being single as much as possible. Don't worry about a woman.
Do like my father did, go the phillipines and pick up the hottest piece of ass and bring her back and marry her.
Hey its my plan, no games or BS.
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Dear OP,
I guess the feeling to be invisible is something many people share in our modern days. Alas, its the bane of these modern so called life-style. First, too many people are just so super busy to "find themselves" and "realize their dreams" many are on a total ego-trip. Gone seem the days when people defined themselves by the bond they made, but by ME ME ME crying all the time.
People have the feeling that everyday life has become so cold and "pragmantic" they have overly strong expectation from relationships who are supposed to compensate for all the other coldness of the world. I guess people are just poisoned by movies and media today, having way too big expectations in waiting for the perfect partner and the emotional bomb to explode. They lost the patience to let relationsships grow, the openmindedness to give people a chance even tho they dont seem like Mr or Mrs perfect. Thus all wander around lonely, waiting for Mr/Mrs perfect who exists only in movie and meanwhile "working on themselves".
Its a cold world of science and pragmatism, something I always loathed. Gone is our believe, in magic, in wonder, in the human heart, gone are the times when people went into battle for what they believed in the bottom of their hearts and lived their lives with fire in their heart. Especially in the cities folks are calculating and distant, oh so superior cool and busy with the EGO. Our western culture has gone very wrong in that, and the fact so many people are alone and lack the ability to create bonds speaks volumes how sick our society has become.
Once people had circles to which they belonged, they didnt need an esoteric mumbojumbo to tell them who they are! They had a clan, a family, a regional identity, a network. But todays city folks too many are now all alone, stranded in those artificial smiles, trying to be super cool and independend and make careers. The bane of the ego-trip society. The fall will come, but from that height the impact will hurt.
There, no comfort sorry. But an honest word like yours deserved an honest one from me. I can not tell you want bonds you should want to seek, only you can find out. May you find you bonds.
People don't ask questions to get answers - they ask questions to show how smart they are. - Dogbert
Yeah it can get pretty boring when you have nothing to do and it's spring break and everyone you know is having fun while you're stuck in your shitty hometown.
You should just take a long bath and listen to barry manilow.
Geez, why not offer him a razor blade to go with it?
Some people here have suggested importing a wife from the phillipines or Russia, I suggest getting one from North Korea. You know they are cheaper and are indoctrinated from birth to follow orders.
If you are not being responded to directly, you are probably on my ignore list.
ya but all the russian mail order brides look like the girl from hitman.
98% of the teenage population does or has tried smoking pot. If you''re one of the 2% who hasn''t, copy & paste this in your signature.
Geez, why not offer him a razor blade to go with it?
I about spit my coffee out on my laptop. Thanks!