Well, see. That's why I knew you'd left out stuff in your first post. Your dad went way too far.
For example, the boyfriend sneaking you behind the backstop for a kiss (I'm assuming your dad was there with you, which is why he saw you ) is disrespectful to your father. However, your fathers actions were wrong. No I was not with my father .. he showed up from nowhere .. he had been watching me with binaculars at the time... I was unaware of this until he came out of nowhere. Number one, I wouldn't pick a 13 year old boy up off the ground like that ( I'm assuming the boy was your age, and we're not talking about a 13 year old kissing a 20 year old, as in that case picking him up would have been the least of his worries. ). my boyfriend was 16 at the time. Number 2, I do know how embarrassing even the simplest situation can be for a teenager, so tact would be in order. My response would have been staring at the boy with no emotion on my face, talking in a low, even voice so that noone other than him and my daughter would hear me, and let him know how I felt about what he did. That it was disrespectful to me as her father to think doing something behind my back was okay. And maybe a mild threat of "Please don't disrespect me or my daughter like this again". And leave it at that. For the first time. Hell, I'll even take 'em both out for lunch or dinner so there's no hard feelings. And if he pissed his pants, I'd even let him walk behind me to hide it and take him to get another pair. I mean realistically, if my daughter and her boyfriend are with me somewhere and want to hold hands or even a quick kiss I can live with that. Jamming his tongue down my daughters throat in my presence however would be disrespectful to me and to her. I am sure there is plenty of time at school breaks or whatever to swap all the spit they want without doing it in front of me. That's where you and your boyfriend were wrong in your scenario. My father followed me everywhere.. And like I said, I will trust my daughter. No, I will not follow her around or hire someone to follow her around. She will have a cell phone, however. And no, not for me to call her every ten minutes to see what she's doing. I think a call from her just to say "Hi, dad. I'm okay." once an hour or so is not too much for me to ask though. lol once an hour? And yes, if she doesn't call for at least two hours, and I call her and get no answer, I will go looking for her. Does not mean I don't trust her, there are just too many things that could happen to her or her and her boyfriend both, that I would not be a parent if I didn't make sure they were both okay. omg the stress you will have when she goes to college and you watch a spring break party on the news and you see here there! lmao There is a fine line that every father has to walk between just being protective of his child and being controlling of his child. Your father chose the controlling path, which if you look through my previous posts, is not what I am looking to do. as long as you do not act on your emotions you may be able to keep from being the "control freak" but threatening her dates is controlling as well.. though entertaining to everyone else but the guy and your daughter. lol I will guide my daughter, advise my daughter, warn my daughter, help my daughter, but I will not control my daughter. Her life is hers to live. I'm just there to keep her as safe and happy as possible during that journey. I won't be able to protect her from every evil that comes at her, I know this. But I'll die trying if I have to. And I'll be the one she can depend on whenever something does get to her. Lets just hope you never watch a "girls gone wild" video and see her there ... lol!
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