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Poll: Is it bad to start a relationship online?
Teala
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This will be one of two part poll. This is the first part...ok. 
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No , start a relationship online is like dating sites isnt it?
Sure it's a great idea. I would totally like to start a relationship with you OP. It will be awesome.
I am not against it, I just need to know how she looks like first.
Nothing wrong with it, its just a new way of bumping into someone, it beats the bars, thats for sure.
Yes its verry wrong to Flirt or Interact with anyone online... there are NO GIRLS ON THE INTERNET
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Starting a friendship no, Starting a personal open and honest relationship can be very dangerous. You need to be cairful who you can trust online. Even if some one seems to be a trust worthy person you just dont know these days scammers go to big strides to win your trust. I would not risk it if I were you. Just date in real life get to know the persons frineds and family in real life. I am currently working on a field experience class for my Bachelors in psychology, one of the biggest things I see when it comes to online dating is people usually end up with a broken heart because they took the relationship to serious over a computer. Freinds is ok, but beyond that I don't belive it is healthy.
Nope...no problem starting it.*shrug* Dunno really what to say to it. Just don#t see anything wrong with it.
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It depends on the people involved I guess ... one of my close friends got to know a girl years back in Anarchy Online, and today they are happily married and expecting a kid. I guess it is just another way of meeting people and just as in RL you can run into some great people but you can also run into total idiots.
I would say that meeting people online, but then taking the relationship offline is not that much different from RL meeting, however meeting people online and then maintaining the relationship online with the online persona is a fantasy and can lead to dissapointment if you realise that the person you have been fond of is not what he/she is really like.
As long as people realize RL people don't look like their ingame toons, they'll be fine
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I think I read somewhere that in the states, 1 out of every 8 marriages, the couple meet online.
Kinda makes you think, dun it? It seems that those "there are no girls on the internetz!!" and "meeting girlz on the internetz is fakes! They are all guys, fat ones, in basements!!!" dudes have become the new "old grumpy man" yelling:
"Get off mah porch you dumb kid! Things used to be so much better in the old days!"
Technically to me it's deeper than a yes or no question, but I would say it's not bad, yet it's like doing a long distnace relationship. To me you don't experience what dating face to face is and how you react around each other. Even though technology has stepped up and we have cellphones and webcams people get the situation mixed up.
Online you don't have a feeling of something that is reality. Sure you can talk, flirt, play games together, watch movies together possibly, but to be honest you can't see the real qualities in that person, because it's so easy to shape the persona online to your own partner's taste. Not only that if you come across something you like that lives under a mile away then things get a little difficult. Having an online relationship to me can be like an invisible leash.
I've experienced one when I was younger and we both just had to let it go, even though we are great friends. To me a friendship is just as much of a relationship. A friendship can build and a relationship builds at a diffrerent level. To me I think it depends on the person. Some people with low self-esteem or willing-ness to socoalize find themsevles having these online relationships.
Others may actuall visit each other in the coming months which is actually good, but a friendship is good enough for that too, if you meet someone along the way it won't hurt to tell them they somone is comming to visit you. I think if you can just have a tight friendship online it's all you need. Let a friendship grow and when you meet then you can have the relationship. Even if it's only one week of visiting if you have experienced the person face to face then I think it's acceptable.
I hope you understand what I am saying because I'm about to fall asleep.
In point I'm saying until they day you meet, then you can have that relationship, but if it's just online right now, friends is all you need, because it can't get so deep that you can't just drop the person and if it does, don't let it break you. For outgoing people I wouldn't recommend a long distance relationship or online relationship. You can have a good relationship without the boyfriend/girlfriend title and when you meet then it's whatever.
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Seriously though, how could online be any worse than meeting in some crappy bar, hammered off of shitty, dollar night beers?
LOL brilliant!
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Seriously though, how could online be any worse than meeting in some crappy bar, hammered off of shitty, dollar night beers?
Uh......because no matter how hammered you are, you still have an "idea" what they look like. It is true that you may want to punch yourself in the face in the morning, but you only have yourself to blame. You can always think of a brilliant excuse, bail out and never see them again.
I can just sense the awkwardness, after you meet your hot date from the raid the other night, she turns out to be a beast, then you have to /quitguild on Monday.
Been their done that. Lasted 10 years, still would be if i did not have a stroke. Told her to keep on trucking (Her own Business). Were still great friends.
Meeting someone online is similar to meeting someone in real life. You just have to take the same pains to get to know them and not assume that the persona you are seeing is really what that person is like. Just like meeting a person at a club or bar or wherever, you still have to get to know them.
Also, unless the people involved are not the average person, they should also realize that at some point a video screen is not going to replace real intimacy. Not even talking about sex, just being with the person, seeing how they react/deal with things, etc.
The danger is that someone will talk/flirt with someone online only to discover that that person is dangerous or crazy! However, the same happens to people who meet others the old fashioned way. Heck, an ex of mine went out with a guy who ended up murdering a woman and her child (after she went out with him a few times she realized he was a bit odd... the guy didn't actually commit the crive until about a year later - just fyi)
So sure, meet people wherever but realize that you still need to get to know the person, they need to get to know you and you still need to put the effort into the relationship that you would if you met them at the corner bookstore.
Just - be - mature.
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Considering that this is a MMORPG forum, I assume when you say "online," you mean in a game.
I don't think it's "bad" to start a relationship on line, but to go looking for a relationship online just seems kind of juvenile and schoolboy/girlish. With that said, there's been a few weddings online from couples who actually met while playing the game. You can't help when you're struck by love, but it's really pathetic if you go looking for it in an online environment.
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I think it's great...I met my current girlfriend in Everquest. We hit it off as good friends but grew closer. We have lived together almost oh...7 years come April!
Here is another thing...since we met we have not spent anymore then a hour apart.
We both work from home...both gamers. She is a web designer/coder/gamer/smart and pretty and just a all around perfect match for me. I can't count how many guys I've known online that are miserable because they married a girl who HATES games, and are jealous of the time their man spends on the computer and not with them.
Its a tough call....Some of them work out well like this one but others turn out very badly and can end up with stolen accounts or other issues that are not pleasant.......
I believe that it is a bad start to a relationship, but can be fixed.
Happened to me, I had to go through A LOT to fix things. You should never base the foundations of your relationship on the internet, lmao. e.g. if you meet up with someone that you met online, try to meet them more irl than talk to them online. Just saying that from my personal experience, so yeah, good luck everyone who meets someone online, it IS a very good way to meet new people, but be careful.
I suppose not, but it all depends on what you mean by 'start'. There is no right or wrong way to meet people, it all just depends on what happens after that.
Is arranging to meet someone in RL that you first met online any worse than going to a 'Singles Bar' ?
Possibly not, but you certainly can't tell if the chemistry will work in RL as well it does online. Ignoring all the obvious gags about people giving false information about age, weight or even gender, it still might just not work in RL. Even if you have seen a picture or chatted to them over webcam, in RL they might constantly chew gum with their mouths open or worse.
Never tried it myself though as I prefer to remain anonymous online, but good luck to those who do & be careful.
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I came into this thread thinking no, that it isn't a good idea to start a relationship online. However these posts have given me a new perspective. I guess it doesn't matter if you met online, it's how you proceed from there that's important.
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Well said tbh.
Ahh the internet.
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The problem with online dating is trust. Can you really trust that the person on the other end is who they say they are?
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