So I have a hobbie and my hobbie is playing WOW, its great for something to get away with and I do have an 80 and one of the main healers in my raid guild, we are almost finished clearing 25 man. We raid a lot and usually the raids and what not gearing up my character has been getting between me and my GF. Today I think was the last straw when she came over and she was kissing on my neck and what not and I told her could she atleast give me 30 mins, because we were in the middle of a boss fight.
She got mad and left she said this was the last straw it was either her or the game, what do i do?
lol dude it's a game. no matter if its yor hobby. it's a fckin game. as u mentioned u raid alot and maybe a little to much.
if your gf is hot just turn off the pc and give her some love.
damn people gettin funny these days...
Lol I know it sounds crazy to be so addicted like this and I played EQ way back in the day and UO and was never addicted like this. Not saying WOW is a better game than those IMO WOW is not but its just something i cant explain makes me addicted to it.
I could solve your problem for you in about ten minutes. Message me your info and I'll have a bunch of fun spamming trade, you'll get banned.
Well, there you go. Now that you know there's a problem do something about it. If it's adversely affecting all parts of your life, it is definitely not a hobby.
Do something about it, each time you are playing and she wants to fool around jsut turn the puter off and go have some fun with her. After a while, you won't even think twice about it.
Yea its definately not a hobby any more, and there really isnt much to do in WoW but same old stuff but like I said its strangly addicting. WoW by defination is not a good game its not what I remember it use to being back in 2004-2005 when it actually was great, now it consist of doing the same thing in a endless loop.
Yea its definately not a hobby any more, and there really isnt much to do in WoW but same old stuff but like I said its strangly addicting. WoW by defination is not a good game its not what I remember it use to being back in 2004-2005 when it actually was great, now it consist of doing the same thing in a endless loop.
So you're about where I was like a year ago with WoW, minus the addiction that consumes my life.
I was playing WoW and found myself constantly thinking that same thing. Eventually I just said, "Why do I want to keep doing this?" and I couldn't come up with an answer.
So then I loaded up a console game, I forget which one, and started playing that. Found it far more fun than grinding dailies, repetitive raids where just two morons could cause repeated wipes and grinding pvp. Canceled my account, haven't looked back.
Now I play single-player games, free to play MMO's with friends (all the p2p's are trash) and fps's with friends as well.
So ask yourself why you keep doing the same boring grinds in WoW. If you don't have a real answer then unsubscribe, simple as that.
Also it helps a lot if your friends are into the same stuff you are. All of my friends are either in college or just out of college so going out partying every weekend gets too expensive. For the price of a single night of drinks (for me) I can pay for my month's internet and mmo (if I were playing a p2p).
Hell when we do drink it's usually at one of our place's and we usually drink and play Wii or something. Even that's cheaper than going out to bars or clubs and usually far more entertaining. I've never laughed harder than when I see a bunch of drunk people stumble around trying to play Raving Rabbids on the Wii.
Yea its definately not a hobby any more, and there really isnt much to do in WoW but same old stuff but like I said its strangly addicting. WoW by defination is not a good game its not what I remember it use to being back in 2004-2005 when it actually was great, now it consist of doing the same thing in a endless loop.
So you're about where I was like a year ago with WoW, minus the addiction that consumes my life.
I was playing WoW and found myself constantly thinking that same thing. Eventually I just said, "Why do I want to keep doing this?" and I couldn't come up with an answer.
So then I loaded up a console game, I forget which one, and started playing that. Found it far more fun than grinding dailies, repetitive raids where just two morons could cause repeated wipes and grinding pvp. Canceled my account, haven't looked back.
Now I play single-player games, free to play MMO's with friends (all the p2p's are trash) and fps's with friends as well.
So ask yourself why you keep doing the same boring grinds in WoW. If you don't have a real answer then unsubscribe, simple as that.
One thing that I know that will help with how much time you spend on WoW is the parental controls in the account management. This may sound crazy, but if you have your GF set that up so you cant change it, then you would be able to spend some time with her. However, this has a huge downfall. The downfall being the possible event of the two of you breaking up and she gets pissed off at you. So take it into consideration. I'm not saying its the solution. Just an idea. But whatever may happen, I wish you good luck.
what a question , why wouldnt you just deal with making time when she comes over and not you oviously arent living together so its shouldnt be hard to say im busy for until that and that time then im free and you have all the time in your world to do whatever you want until she comes over. and if living together and still having these kinda issues then it dont work at all.
playing game is your own time just as much as your lady reading a book or doing whatever, even still you live together you both
need the own time. respect each others hobbies is the key and timing.
Cancel your account. Cancel your account NOW. Do not think twice. In fact, do not think at all. Just cancel it. Also, delete your characters while in the process.
Go read a book to avoid thinking about WoW all the time. Go see a couple of movies, preferably with your gf.
Cancel your account. Cancel your account NOW. Do not think twice. In fact, do not think at all. Just cancel it. Also, delete your characters while in the process. Go read a book to avoid thinking about WoW all the time. Go see a couple of movies, preferably with your gf.
That should do the trick.
3. Add milk.
(ok I'm just saying..stuff tastes better with milk)
I mean this in the best possible way, man, but are you freakin' retarded?!?
Girlfriends beat games, any time, every time.
If you'd seriously rather play WoW than be with your girl, then either you have priority issues, or she's not the one for you. Just look at it from her point of view. She comes over to be with you, and you ignore her in favour of a computer game. If you don't see a problem, you might wanna unplug...
Otherwise, send her my way. I'd happily spend time with your girlfriend while you play WoW.
Its really no different than having a drug addiction, I'd say. If you're doing heroin, and your girlfriend comes over and says, "It's either me or the drugs." And you choose the drugs, you're obviously addicted to heroin. It's the same thing - sometimes the addiction to the game is stronger than you realize.
I had trouble with this myself - but it turns out the girlfriend I was with at the time wasn't right for me anyway. Afterwards, I met my current fiancee. We went through a troubling time until she realized that the time I spent gaming or tabletop gaming (Warhammer 40K) or time I spent writing or basically time I spent away from her was time that I needed. It was my hobby. However, there were times when it was trying and I would force myself to log off to spend time with her. I let it get out of control a time or two. Eventually, I quit the game and we talked about gaming addiction versus hobbies. She understood (being a psychology major) and now, when I start up a new game (I've already warned her about Aion) instead of rolling her eyes and gritting her teeth, she asks me about the game. She becomes a part of the hobby in one way or another.
So, in short, we both grew together. She understood the time I needed in my hobbies (whether it was video games or not) and I understood that she just wanted some quality time. Eventually (and we've been together five years now) we found a common ground. Hence the reason she is my fiancee. It also helped that we lived together for a while (that's when most of the trouble started.)
Not living together is fundamental to your problem. As someone else put it, when she comes over, she is coming over to see you - that's the specific reason. When she comes over, log out. You can log back in after she goes to sleep or after she leaves. If it's a raid you're missing, so what? At the end of the day, would you rather have a girlfriend or phat lewtz?
Girls think they have to be the most important thing in their boyfriends life. Guys are not so bothered, they expect loyalty and their share of time, but not living in each others pocket.
You need to get her to understand that she has to share you with your own interests. Even if you cancelled WoW their could be something else you did that took up loads of time.
Some guys seem to be happy that their girl comes round and mopes around while they play games. I think that’s wrong, don’t invite them when you are doing a gaming night. If you are always gaming you need to talk about those certain times like raids when you can’t be with her.
Girls think they have to be the most important thing in their boyfriends life. Guys are not so bothered, they expect loyalty and their share of time, but not living in each others pocket. You need to get her to understand that she has to share you with your own interests. Even if you cancelled WoW their could be something else you did that took up loads of time. Some guys seem to be happy that their girl comes round and mopes around while they play games. I think that’s wrong, don’t invite them when you are doing a gaming night. If you are always gaming you need to talk about those certain times like raids when you can’t be with her. Bottom line is communicate.
this is borderline fanboi. Sounds like ditch the girl go raid. Honestly if the dude's gf came to visit him and he didn't respond to her. I'd leave his if I was him.
I'd say screw her. If she cannot accept your hobbie, she does not really love you.
Don't get me wrong...haveing a relationship does mean, one'll have to make compromises. But that is on both parts.
Personally i wouldn't stay with anyone who put up a choice like "either that or me"....for me it would always be "that", just because i am not for blackmailing, stubborn and generally a macho :-)
Oh and btw, i am married with a wonderful woman who does accept my hobbies as i do accept hers.
I was born in the 70tees, so Im gona give you some grown up advice
When i was young the GF i had at the time complained I skated to mush, me and my friends where alsways down in the ramp, hanging out and having fun.
When i was in my late teens the GF I had complained I partied to mush
When I was in my twenties the GFs I had said I worked to mush, Skated to mush and hung out with my friends to mush. And played way to mush video Games
Now that im in my thirties I still play video games, I dont skate anymore (only longboards) as it hurts to mush when I crash, And I have cut down on work, because I can, and there are more fun things to do. My current GF playes video games also, But guess what she whines and complains about other things instead.
SO it dosent mather how many times you change GF, she is still gona bug you about something its just in the Nature of Woman to be a pain in butt.
Take my advice never ever comprimise life is way to short to do stuff you dont want to do. If people and GFs dont like it they can just F....K off.
Ps: one more thing Girls like Ashatts and duch bags, they like to feel pain and missery, somehow they think that is love. The saying Nice guys finish last is True.... so stay a duch bag... you get more girls then you can count hehe...
either dump the chick, or make so it work (time management?). if you do some timemanagement so you can have your time, and give she tons of quality time and she wants you to stop doing mmos, then dumb she. She soult not commant what your hobby is.
probably is more important a relation than your hobbys, but she want you to avoid your hobbys, is a bad relation and will be a good thing to stop such relation.
The reason I stop playing MMO's was that they were killing my social and family life. Whatever you do don't dump your GF, you will regret it, fight for her. Start playing less and giving her more ATTENTION.
"you are like the world revenge on sarcasm, you know that?"
okay man here's something you need to really understand....ITS A GAME!
I've seen many friends on line and in real life lose someone they cared about cause raiding was so much more important to them. When you feel that going into an imaginary world is much more important then the woman you are supposed to be in a relationship with then you, my friend have a bigger problem then you think.
Don't let a game control your life my friend, yes they are great to escape the every day BS we all have to deal with, but don't let it control you. Tell your raid leaders sorry guys my woman comes first and if they have a problem with it lets look at it this way your with an ACTUAL woman, doing what they wish they could do they. While their stroking they lvl 80 uber uldar weapon saying "YEAH I R AWESOME!!" your stroking your legendary girlfriend, why legendary you ask well i can guarantee 80% of the wow population are single and virgins.
"Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the the universe." Albert Einstein
Put yourself in her shoes, if you wanted to spend time with her and she blew you off to do whatever she likes to do, what would you feel like? Shit probably. She's a human being, your hobby is nothing more than a video game, NOTHING more. Don't say I don't know how addicting WoW is, I played it for 4 years on and off and I managed a few relationships, my touring band, my education and my life without letting WoW get in the way, and I did almost everything (minus Sunwell and Ulduar).
It's all about priorities, and yours are all fucked up. You need to quit playing before your addiction worsens, and before you lose more loved ones.
It sickens me that it's to the point where people have to ask, "Well, do I pick my loved one or a video game"?
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lol dude it's a game. no matter if its yor hobby. it's a fckin game. as u mentioned u raid alot and maybe a little to much.
if your gf is hot just turn off the pc and give her some love.
damn people gettin funny these days...
Lol I know it sounds crazy to be so addicted like this and I played EQ way back in the day and UO and was never addicted like this. Not saying WOW is a better game than those IMO WOW is not but its just something i cant explain makes me addicted to it.
I could solve your problem for you in about ten minutes. Message me your info and I'll have a bunch of fun spamming trade, you'll get banned.
Problem solved.
Well, there you go. Now that you know there's a problem do something about it. If it's adversely affecting all parts of your life, it is definitely not a hobby.
Do something about it, each time you are playing and she wants to fool around jsut turn the puter off and go have some fun with her. After a while, you won't even think twice about it.
Yea its definately not a hobby any more, and there really isnt much to do in WoW but same old stuff but like I said its strangly addicting. WoW by defination is not a good game its not what I remember it use to being back in 2004-2005 when it actually was great, now it consist of doing the same thing in a endless loop.
So you're about where I was like a year ago with WoW, minus the addiction that consumes my life.
I was playing WoW and found myself constantly thinking that same thing. Eventually I just said, "Why do I want to keep doing this?" and I couldn't come up with an answer.
So then I loaded up a console game, I forget which one, and started playing that. Found it far more fun than grinding dailies, repetitive raids where just two morons could cause repeated wipes and grinding pvp. Canceled my account, haven't looked back.
Now I play single-player games, free to play MMO's with friends (all the p2p's are trash) and fps's with friends as well.
So ask yourself why you keep doing the same boring grinds in WoW. If you don't have a real answer then unsubscribe, simple as that.
Also it helps a lot if your friends are into the same stuff you are. All of my friends are either in college or just out of college so going out partying every weekend gets too expensive. For the price of a single night of drinks (for me) I can pay for my month's internet and mmo (if I were playing a p2p).
Hell when we do drink it's usually at one of our place's and we usually drink and play Wii or something. Even that's cheaper than going out to bars or clubs and usually far more entertaining. I've never laughed harder than when I see a bunch of drunk people stumble around trying to play Raving Rabbids on the Wii.
So you're about where I was like a year ago with WoW, minus the addiction that consumes my life.
I was playing WoW and found myself constantly thinking that same thing. Eventually I just said, "Why do I want to keep doing this?" and I couldn't come up with an answer.
So then I loaded up a console game, I forget which one, and started playing that. Found it far more fun than grinding dailies, repetitive raids where just two morons could cause repeated wipes and grinding pvp. Canceled my account, haven't looked back.
Now I play single-player games, free to play MMO's with friends (all the p2p's are trash) and fps's with friends as well.
So ask yourself why you keep doing the same boring grinds in WoW. If you don't have a real answer then unsubscribe, simple as that.
Yea your right.
lol @ this post
Kick to the Face.
Does she come with expansion packs?
Ditch the girl, she could leave you at any moment of the day. WoW will never abandon you unless you abandon it.
Become a basement dweller, you won't regret it.
One thing that I know that will help with how much time you spend on WoW is the parental controls in the account management. This may sound crazy, but if you have your GF set that up so you cant change it, then you would be able to spend some time with her. However, this has a huge downfall. The downfall being the possible event of the two of you breaking up and she gets pissed off at you. So take it into consideration. I'm not saying its the solution. Just an idea. But whatever may happen, I wish you good luck.
World of Warcraft, destroying relationships since 2004.
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/playing: Clash of Clans, Hearthstone
what a question , why wouldnt you just deal with making time when she comes over and not you oviously arent living together so its shouldnt be hard to say im busy for until that and that time then im free and you have all the time in your world to do whatever you want until she comes over. and if living together and still having these kinda issues then it dont work at all.
playing game is your own time just as much as your lady reading a book or doing whatever, even still you live together you both
need the own time. respect each others hobbies is the key and timing.
That should do the trick.
3. Add milk.
(ok I'm just saying..stuff tastes better with milk)
This one's too good...
Ok, so you gave up possible RL sex to play WoW??
I mean this in the best possible way, man, but are you freakin' retarded?!?
Girlfriends beat games, any time, every time.
If you'd seriously rather play WoW than be with your girl, then either you have priority issues, or she's not the one for you. Just look at it from her point of view. She comes over to be with you, and you ignore her in favour of a computer game. If you don't see a problem, you might wanna unplug...
Otherwise, send her my way. I'd happily spend time with your girlfriend while you play WoW.
Quit the Game, go out have a life Before you become this guy:
Its really no different than having a drug addiction, I'd say. If you're doing heroin, and your girlfriend comes over and says, "It's either me or the drugs." And you choose the drugs, you're obviously addicted to heroin. It's the same thing - sometimes the addiction to the game is stronger than you realize.
I had trouble with this myself - but it turns out the girlfriend I was with at the time wasn't right for me anyway. Afterwards, I met my current fiancee. We went through a troubling time until she realized that the time I spent gaming or tabletop gaming (Warhammer 40K) or time I spent writing or basically time I spent away from her was time that I needed. It was my hobby. However, there were times when it was trying and I would force myself to log off to spend time with her. I let it get out of control a time or two. Eventually, I quit the game and we talked about gaming addiction versus hobbies. She understood (being a psychology major) and now, when I start up a new game (I've already warned her about Aion) instead of rolling her eyes and gritting her teeth, she asks me about the game. She becomes a part of the hobby in one way or another.
So, in short, we both grew together. She understood the time I needed in my hobbies (whether it was video games or not) and I understood that she just wanted some quality time. Eventually (and we've been together five years now) we found a common ground. Hence the reason she is my fiancee. It also helped that we lived together for a while (that's when most of the trouble started.)
Not living together is fundamental to your problem. As someone else put it, when she comes over, she is coming over to see you - that's the specific reason. When she comes over, log out. You can log back in after she goes to sleep or after she leaves. If it's a raid you're missing, so what? At the end of the day, would you rather have a girlfriend or phat lewtz?
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/played: EQ, EQ II, DAoC, WoW, LoTRO, AoC, CoH/CoV, WAR, Aion, Tera, Wildstar and many others that don't merit listing
/playing: Clash of Clans, Hearthstone
Girls think they have to be the most important thing in their boyfriends life. Guys are not so bothered, they expect loyalty and their share of time, but not living in each others pocket.
You need to get her to understand that she has to share you with your own interests. Even if you cancelled WoW their could be something else you did that took up loads of time.
Some guys seem to be happy that their girl comes round and mopes around while they play games. I think that’s wrong, don’t invite them when you are doing a gaming night. If you are always gaming you need to talk about those certain times like raids when you can’t be with her.
Bottom line is communicate.
this is borderline fanboi. Sounds like ditch the girl go raid. Honestly if the dude's gf came to visit him and he didn't respond to her. I'd leave his if I was him.
What to do?
This is the easiest question I've read on MMORPG.com so far.
1. Apologize to your girlfriend for being a douchebag.
2. Explain to her that you are at least marginally addicted but are trying to improve.
3. Spend less time playing WoW. Let your GF be part of the solution, not the problem.
4. ???
5. Profit!
If you do anything differently you are well on your way to becoming a professional basement dweller for life. Fear the sun.
I'd say screw her. If she cannot accept your hobbie, she does not really love you.
Don't get me wrong...haveing a relationship does mean, one'll have to make compromises. But that is on both parts.
Personally i wouldn't stay with anyone who put up a choice like "either that or me"....for me it would always be "that", just because i am not for blackmailing, stubborn and generally a macho :-)
Oh and btw, i am married with a wonderful woman who does accept my hobbies as i do accept hers.
cheers mate
dalaimoc
I was born in the 70tees, so Im gona give you some grown up advice
When i was young the GF i had at the time complained I skated to mush, me and my friends where alsways down in the ramp, hanging out and having fun.
When i was in my late teens the GF I had complained I partied to mush
When I was in my twenties the GFs I had said I worked to mush, Skated to mush and hung out with my friends to mush. And played way to mush video Games
Now that im in my thirties I still play video games, I dont skate anymore (only longboards) as it hurts to mush when I crash, And I have cut down on work, because I can, and there are more fun things to do. My current GF playes video games also, But guess what she whines and complains about other things instead.
SO it dosent mather how many times you change GF, she is still gona bug you about something its just in the Nature of Woman to be a pain in butt.
Take my advice never ever comprimise life is way to short to do stuff you dont want to do. If people and GFs dont like it they can just F....K off.
Ps: one more thing Girls like Ashatts and duch bags, they like to feel pain and missery, somehow they think that is love. The saying Nice guys finish last is True.... so stay a duch bag... you get more girls then you can count hehe...
either dump the chick, or make so it work (time management?). if you do some timemanagement so you can have your time, and give she tons of quality time and she wants you to stop doing mmos, then dumb she. She soult not commant what your hobby is.
probably is more important a relation than your hobbys, but she want you to avoid your hobbys, is a bad relation and will be a good thing to stop such relation.
The reason I stop playing MMO's was that they were killing my social and family life. Whatever you do don't dump your GF, you will regret it, fight for her. Start playing less and giving her more ATTENTION.
"you are like the world revenge on sarcasm, you know that?"
One of those great lines from The Secret World
okay man here's something you need to really understand....ITS A GAME!
I've seen many friends on line and in real life lose someone they cared about cause raiding was so much more important to them. When you feel that going into an imaginary world is much more important then the woman you are supposed to be in a relationship with then you, my friend have a bigger problem then you think.
Don't let a game control your life my friend, yes they are great to escape the every day BS we all have to deal with, but don't let it control you. Tell your raid leaders sorry guys my woman comes first and if they have a problem with it lets look at it this way your with an ACTUAL woman, doing what they wish they could do they. While their stroking they lvl 80 uber uldar weapon saying "YEAH I R AWESOME!!" your stroking your legendary girlfriend, why legendary you ask well i can guarantee 80% of the wow population are single and virgins.
"Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the the universe." Albert Einstein
I made an account just to say this.
I feel bad for your girlfriend.
Put yourself in her shoes, if you wanted to spend time with her and she blew you off to do whatever she likes to do, what would you feel like? Shit probably. She's a human being, your hobby is nothing more than a video game, NOTHING more. Don't say I don't know how addicting WoW is, I played it for 4 years on and off and I managed a few relationships, my touring band, my education and my life without letting WoW get in the way, and I did almost everything (minus Sunwell and Ulduar).
It's all about priorities, and yours are all fucked up. You need to quit playing before your addiction worsens, and before you lose more loved ones.
It sickens me that it's to the point where people have to ask, "Well, do I pick my loved one or a video game"?
Sad..