Lay down the law. She can either accept you for who you are, or you can go find someone who does. I'm a miserable prick, and a gamer besides. And even I have managed to find women who can accept me for me. But I'll tell you man....I was married to my first wife for over a decade...if you let them walk on you, you will be nothing but a floormat to them for the rest of your miserable relationship, and you will spend your time resenting them, and finding reasons not to go home....to work late, hit the bar with your buds, whatever. In my second marriage now, going on three years, and I can say that telling her upfront at the beginning "I am who I am, love it or leave it" was the best thing I could have done. She plays some games with me, and others she at least takes an interest in. Fuck at least I don't come home from work, plunk my ass on the couch and drool at the TV like most American men my age.
Agreed.
Life is too short to let yourself be controlled by others. At a certain point, you'll realize that getting laid isn't really difficult at all, but what is challenging is finding someone you like to spend time with outside of the bedroom. I'd recommend finding a gamer girlfriend, they're not as rare as they used to be, and there's nothing like sharing your hobbies/passions with your significant other.
In short, no woman is worth being unhappy, because there are plenty of women out there that are compatible enough to make you happy without changing who you are.
Seriously, the answer is obvious. A game doesnt last forever. You can play it, but its going to get boring sooner or later. If you keep ignoring her, you're really going to miss out on alot of things. I had to learn it the hard way, I lost a 5 year relationship with my girlfriend a while back. Now it got me regretting it so much. Sooner or later you going to have to grow up, and once you do, you're going to realize how much on life you've been missing out on. Like what some people said, cut down on gaming.
Seriously sex over a new piece of armor/weapon? (thats if you even get lucky enough to win) The answer is just obvious.
The only reason I haven't broken up with my girlfriend so I could have more playtime is I'm not sure how to do it without hurting her feelings. LOL, how pathetic, I know.
Seriously, I think you have to figure out what you enjoy doing more- spending time with her or your game. Its not a question of right or wrong. Just a question of how you wish to spend your time. Are you wasting time playing a game as opposed to spending time with her? Just a matter of perspective. Life is about experiences. If you choose to experience enjoyment in a video game as opposed to doing something with a girlfriend, who is to say that one experience is right over another. You might date her for a few years and find out she's not the one for you. Have you wasted all those years if things don't work out? I personally don't think so, because you probably have some lasting memories with her. But only you can really answer that question. If you raid in WoW for a few years, and then you quit the game, are the experiences any less real? Again, I would say no, but you can only answer that.
I honestly would rather invest time in something I enjoy, which currently is gaming, than trying to work at a relationship. But that's where I'm at right now. Next year I may feel different. But in the end, I don't think one experience is any less important than another, if its one that makes you happy. So if you would rather raid, then raid. You will always find another girlfriend if she can't give you the space you need. Don't think about what you will regret if you choose one or the other. Just think about what you enjoy the most. As many have pointed out here, I think you already know the answer. As do I with my situation. Choosing is hard. But eventually you'll feel better once you make the choice that's best for you.
dude, once you get older you will realise that this is not always the case.
I mean, I'm into the girl I'm married to now, but as far as sex goes...I've "been there, done that". One more orgasm isn't necessarily worth bailing on my guild in the middle of a raid, or whatever. I'll tap her when I come to bed, or in the morning.
Thing is, if some chick is trying to make you choose between you and your pasttime, she's trying to manipulate you. She's cracking the whip.
Fuck that. Don't let a woman walk all over you. Besides, if you give up what you love for her, you'll just resent her later anyway, and she will never respect you. Maybe if you show her that you don't play that way, she'll realise that if she wants you, she needs to accept you for you.
You kida make me laugh though, when you think that a piece of ass > all. hehehe.
Seriously a game is never more important than your girlfriend period.
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dude, once you get older you will realise that this is not always the case.
I mean, I'm into the girl I'm married to now, but as far as sex goes...I've "been there, done that". One more orgasm isn't necessarily worth bailing on my guild in the middle of a raid, or whatever. I'll tap her when I come to bed, or in the morning.
Thing is, if some chick is trying to make you choose between you and your pasttime, she's trying to manipulate you. She's cracking the whip.
Fuck that. Don't let a woman walk all over you. Besides, if you give up what you love for her, you'll just resent her later anyway, and she will never respect you. Maybe if you show her that you don't play that way, she'll realise that if she wants you, she needs to accept you for you.
You kida make me laugh though, when you think that a piece of ass > all. hehehe.
Seriously a game is never more important than your girlfriend period.
QFE!!!!
Seriously, some of these "responses" make me wonder. Honestly, a game over your girl? Some of you people have the wrong priorities in place.
dude, once you get older you will realise that this is not always the case.
I mean, I'm into the girl I'm married to now, but as far as sex goes...I've "been there, done that". One more orgasm isn't necessarily worth bailing on my guild in the middle of a raid, or whatever. I'll tap her when I come to bed, or in the morning.
Thing is, if some chick is trying to make you choose between you and your pasttime, she's trying to manipulate you. She's cracking the whip.
Fuck that. Don't let a woman walk all over you. Besides, if you give up what you love for her, you'll just resent her later anyway, and she will never respect you. Maybe if you show her that you don't play that way, she'll realise that if she wants you, she needs to accept you for you.
You kida make me laugh though, when you think that a piece of ass > all. hehehe.
Seriously a game is never more important than your girlfriend period.
QFE!!!!
Seriously, some of these "responses" make me wonder. Honestly, a game over your girl? Some of you people have the wrong priorities in place.
No, some of us are just resistant to "the whip". Hey, when I was a young guy, I gave up shit for chicks too...and regretted it later when the bitch was gone. Sometime in my mid 20's I realised that women LOVE to try to control you, and LOVE to try to see what they can get you to sacrifice for them, and do for them.
So I turned the tables.
And I've been a lot happier since. If a woman doesn't accept me for me, then she can GTFO. There are PLENTY more where that came from, and you can fnd one that shares your interests and won't try to manipulate you.
Originally posted by Wharg0ul If a woman doesn't accept me for me, then she can GTFO. There are PLENTY more where that came from, and you can fnd one that shares your interests and won't try to manipulate you.
Exactly. If you take away the idea of gaming here, you can substitute any hobby or pasttime. She thinks you spend too much time playing in your softball league, hanging out with friends, working too much, whatever. Relationships should not be about sacrifice. They should be about compromise. The op told his girlfriend he needed 30 min and she got all bent out of shape. 30 minutes. He asked for a compromise, and she wanted all of his time. That's how I see this. If you feel you are with someone who is too demanding, then you are. Period. Regardless of what you are doing. Either she meets you half way, like you tried to do, or she takes a walk. Let her walk. Now you have all the time in the world for your hobby, and you may find someone along the way who is willing to share time, not demand time.
hmm...I wonder if they made up already??...but coming from a girl...if it is just a hobby then it is just a hobby...all of my boyfriends have had hobbies whether it be painting/gaming/hunting you name it...and I was not a part of any of it...and our relationships were fine in that aspect...Ive always been a gamer and they have always respected that but mark my words if one of my past boyfriend's hobbies had prevented them from spending time with me...or turning me down for sex (come on guys really?!) ...that is a problem that needs real help and I would have moved on real fast to find another man to satisfy me...so put it into perspective...if you want to be with her...then you need to make time for her...simple as that
I guess I don't understand the point here. You are suggesting that a boyfriend should under no circumstance turn you down for sex. What if he wasn't in the mood? What if at that particular time he would rather do something else? If you need a man to satisfy you whenever you give an order, than that's fine. That's what you want, and I'm sure you'll find plenty of dudes who'll jump when you snap. But this isn't a compromise. This is your way or the highway. If a boyfriend turns you down because he's busy at that time, shouldn't you respect his space and wait until the time is right for both of you?
I don't really see it as choosing raiding over sex. Its a choice of how you want to spend your time together, knowing that you are still individuals with personal needs, especially a need for independence. I think that concept is really lost here. And back to the op, the poor guy asked for half an hour. I can't even imagine how she would react if he said he didn't feel well.
She got mad and left she said this was the last straw it was either her or the game, what do i do?
hmmmmm get laid or play a kids game.... such a hard question. Seriously, get a life if you have to make a question. WoW is not something that should get between you and your gf. You should go to a internet rehab in china if you pick the game.
cool down on WOW and be at her beck and call for a while eventually she will want her own space and then you can start playing WOW again and the only time she will bug you is when she needs money.
cool down on WOW and be at her beck and call for a while eventually she will want her own space and then you can start playing WOW again and the only time she will bug you is when she needs money.
yeah, there's a great idea.....sacrifice your hobby and source of enjoyment in the interest of being some bitch's piggy-bank.
Well if you are playing WoW more you obviously like it better than your girlfriend, so pick WoW. I see no need to give up your interests for another person who wants to monopolize your time, because if you start that now, it will not stop, and not just in your next relationship but everything, it is easy to give up bits of yourself for others, easier to let others dictate for you, much harder to say no.
Or you could go with the macho twat tactic where sex trumps everything and you should grovel for it like the loser you are.
So pick, stand or kneel.
Don't you worry little buddy. You're dealing with a man of honor. However, honor requires a higher percentage of profit
cool down on WOW and be at her beck and call for a while eventually she will want her own space and then you can start playing WOW again and the only time she will bug you is when she needs money.
yeah, there's a great idea.....sacrifice your hobby and source of enjoyment in the interest of being some bitch's piggy-bank.
oooops forgot the <sarcasm/> tag for people like you my bad.
cool down on WOW and be at her beck and call for a while eventually she will want her own space and then you can start playing WOW again and the only time she will bug you is when she needs money.
yeah, there's a great idea.....sacrifice your hobby and source of enjoyment in the interest of being some bitch's piggy-bank.
oooops forgot the <sarcasm/> tag for people like you my bad.
I kinda had a feeling, but intonation is a hard thing to convey in text form.
My GF always comes up behind me and does that when im in the middle of something. Its her way of trying to throw me off in the game so i screw up and get off, then pay attention to her XD. Just ditch the WoW man.
So I have a hobbie and my hobbie is playing WOW, its great for something to get away with and I do have an 80 and one of the main healers in my raid guild, we are almost finished clearing 25 man. We raid a lot and usually the raids and what not gearing up my character has been getting between me and my GF. Today I think was the last straw when she came over and she was kissing on my neck and what not and I told her could she atleast give me 30 mins, because we were in the middle of a boss fight.
She got mad and left she said this was the last straw it was either her or the game, what do i do?
I didn't want to read through the insane number of pages of response but it's tough to tell who's actually at fault from this post.
If by hobby you mean you play 8-10 hours a week, then it is most likely her and she is too needy.
If by hobby you mean obsession and you play 6-8 hours a night after being gone for work or school all during the day, then it is you at fault and you need to play less. People who play for that many hours a day neglect anyone in their life and it is fairly normal for the neglected person to leave.
Plus unless she is not attractive then hell go afk for a few and give her the goods when she starts kissing your neck, girls don't like to feel they are less attractive then a video game.
Log into WoW, delete your toons, cancel the account and toss the disks out.
A video game is not worth it man, trust me I've been there.
I played UO hardcore, and I put it before my marriage. Now it wasn't the only factor, but because I was so consumed with UO I didn't set time aside to work on the other issues. After she left, UO didn't bring me happiness any longer and I quit. I still play MMOs, and I'm married a second time, but I always moderate my game time and I never let it get in the way of my family and friends.
I gave up girls for video games. Never looked back.
Now my bros are married and hate their lives and I'm a single rich guy. I get to buy anything I want and spend my time however I feel like it. They're slaves.
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mm i bet she does that only when your in a big game of wow lol, i doubt shes like that if your not on the keyboard best advice make a schedule ,i know it suck but if you want to keep your job your gf and wow you ll have to schedule do the scheduling with her so that she dont feel bossed around once the couple schedule and work schedule is done try to add wow if shes understanding you shouldnt have big issue unless you raid more then once a day then you got a problem my advice skip raiding,one day on raid one day off cause no mather how you look at it raid are a big time consumer
Lol Yes she does, any time I am in a important raid it seems like shes in the mood. its a conspiricy against me lol
Your GF is a bitch, that's what that means. She only does it when you play WoW to test her power & control over you as if it's a competition between her & WoW. Something tells me she wears the pants in the relationship. I'm sorry but your relationship is not going anywhere if you plan to retain your balls.
I suggest you put your foot down and make a point that she either respects your hobby or hit the road. It is game, but you play it for a reason because you enjoy it. It has these overly time consuming events called raids which require an allotment of time. Your job is to manage your time but she needs to respect that.
I lost a lot of girlfriends because of PC games. The problem was never the PC gaming hobby. I would be just as obsessive with any hobby. Its just how I am.
Nothing ever worked until I found the right girl. I even had to move out of America just to find her. I married a beautiful little Thai gamer chick. Now she follows me around as a healer in whatever MMOG I play. She's the best damn wife and the best damn healer I've ever seen too.
My advice is that unless you're totally in love with her or aren't usually an obsessive person and you just got wierd with WoW, then find another girl. Most American girls are FTL.
It's over, OP. If I hazard to guess, she's already got her sights on someone new...or someone has got their sights on her and is making his play. And he will succeed, because he can give her the attention you can't.
So might as well go back to WoW at this point, because that's all you have right now.
BUT
If you have any hope of having another girl, good real experiences, and a healthy, well-balanced life; I recommend taking steps to get yourself clean.
Fortunately, it's really easy to take the first step. The first step is to press the cancel button. You can always reverse the decision, so don't think of it as any big thing. So just press it, and take note of how you feel after you do it.
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Did you do it yet?
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Did you do it now?
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Go on, tell us how it felt to press the cancel button. You can PM me if you don't want to share it here.
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Log into WoW, delete your toons, cancel the account and toss the disks out. A video game is not worth it man, trust me I've been there. I played UO hardcore, and I put it before my marriage. Now it wasn't the only factor, but because I was so consumed with UO I didn't set time aside to work on the other issues. After she left, UO didn't bring me happiness any longer and I quit. I still play MMOs, and I'm married a second time, but I always moderate my game time and I never let it get in the way of my family and friends. On a lighter note: www.youtube.com/watch This always makes me laugh and helps me to keep things in perspective.
I find letting others dictate my life has never made me happy.
Forget your girlfriend if she doesn't want to do the things you want to obviously you picked the wrong girl.
Find one like the one I got, she plays WoW with me!
We started on FFXI and moved to WoW and we're going to go play Aion together.
Having a gamer chick as a girl is the best, trust me. Also it really helps when you live together... I mean honestly she always plays a healer and I'm a tank, theres half a party right there!
I find letting others dictate my life has never made me happy. Forget your girlfriend if she doesn't want to do the things you want to obviously you picked the wrong girl. Find one like the one I got, she plays WoW with me! We started on FFXI and moved to WoW and we're going to go play Aion together. Having a gamer chick as a girl is the best, trust me. Also it really helps when you live together... I mean honestly she always plays a healer and I'm a tank, theres half a party right there!
That's what I'm sayin', man!!! Gamer chix rock!
Why stick with a girl that doesn't "get it" and is ALWAYS going to be up your ass about gaming?? Why intentionally pair up long-term with someone who you don't mesh with??
It's only going to cause problems in the long run anyway....you'll end up divorced, and bitter, and resentful...and probably broke.
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Agreed.
Life is too short to let yourself be controlled by others. At a certain point, you'll realize that getting laid isn't really difficult at all, but what is challenging is finding someone you like to spend time with outside of the bedroom. I'd recommend finding a gamer girlfriend, they're not as rare as they used to be, and there's nothing like sharing your hobbies/passions with your significant other.
In short, no woman is worth being unhappy, because there are plenty of women out there that are compatible enough to make you happy without changing who you are.
Is this supposed to be a rhetorical question?
Seriously, the answer is obvious. A game doesnt last forever. You can play it, but its going to get boring sooner or later. If you keep ignoring her, you're really going to miss out on alot of things. I had to learn it the hard way, I lost a 5 year relationship with my girlfriend a while back. Now it got me regretting it so much. Sooner or later you going to have to grow up, and once you do, you're going to realize how much on life you've been missing out on. Like what some people said, cut down on gaming.
Seriously sex over a new piece of armor/weapon? (thats if you even get lucky enough to win) The answer is just obvious.
The only reason I haven't broken up with my girlfriend so I could have more playtime is I'm not sure how to do it without hurting her feelings. LOL, how pathetic, I know.
Seriously, I think you have to figure out what you enjoy doing more- spending time with her or your game. Its not a question of right or wrong. Just a question of how you wish to spend your time. Are you wasting time playing a game as opposed to spending time with her? Just a matter of perspective. Life is about experiences. If you choose to experience enjoyment in a video game as opposed to doing something with a girlfriend, who is to say that one experience is right over another. You might date her for a few years and find out she's not the one for you. Have you wasted all those years if things don't work out? I personally don't think so, because you probably have some lasting memories with her. But only you can really answer that question. If you raid in WoW for a few years, and then you quit the game, are the experiences any less real? Again, I would say no, but you can only answer that.
I honestly would rather invest time in something I enjoy, which currently is gaming, than trying to work at a relationship. But that's where I'm at right now. Next year I may feel different. But in the end, I don't think one experience is any less important than another, if its one that makes you happy. So if you would rather raid, then raid. You will always find another girlfriend if she can't give you the space you need. Don't think about what you will regret if you choose one or the other. Just think about what you enjoy the most. As many have pointed out here, I think you already know the answer. As do I with my situation. Choosing is hard. But eventually you'll feel better once you make the choice that's best for you.
dude, once you get older you will realise that this is not always the case.
I mean, I'm into the girl I'm married to now, but as far as sex goes...I've "been there, done that". One more orgasm isn't necessarily worth bailing on my guild in the middle of a raid, or whatever. I'll tap her when I come to bed, or in the morning.
Thing is, if some chick is trying to make you choose between you and your pasttime, she's trying to manipulate you. She's cracking the whip.
Fuck that. Don't let a woman walk all over you. Besides, if you give up what you love for her, you'll just resent her later anyway, and she will never respect you. Maybe if you show her that you don't play that way, she'll realise that if she wants you, she needs to accept you for you.
You kida make me laugh though, when you think that a piece of ass > all. hehehe.
Seriously a game is never more important than your girlfriend period.
"Negaholics are people who become addicted to negativity and self-doubt, they find fault in most things and never seem to be satisfied."
^MMORPG.com
dude, once you get older you will realise that this is not always the case.
I mean, I'm into the girl I'm married to now, but as far as sex goes...I've "been there, done that". One more orgasm isn't necessarily worth bailing on my guild in the middle of a raid, or whatever. I'll tap her when I come to bed, or in the morning.
Thing is, if some chick is trying to make you choose between you and your pasttime, she's trying to manipulate you. She's cracking the whip.
Fuck that. Don't let a woman walk all over you. Besides, if you give up what you love for her, you'll just resent her later anyway, and she will never respect you. Maybe if you show her that you don't play that way, she'll realise that if she wants you, she needs to accept you for you.
You kida make me laugh though, when you think that a piece of ass > all. hehehe.
Seriously a game is never more important than your girlfriend period.
QFE!!!!
Seriously, some of these "responses" make me wonder. Honestly, a game over your girl? Some of you people have the wrong priorities in place.
dude, once you get older you will realise that this is not always the case.
I mean, I'm into the girl I'm married to now, but as far as sex goes...I've "been there, done that". One more orgasm isn't necessarily worth bailing on my guild in the middle of a raid, or whatever. I'll tap her when I come to bed, or in the morning.
Thing is, if some chick is trying to make you choose between you and your pasttime, she's trying to manipulate you. She's cracking the whip.
Fuck that. Don't let a woman walk all over you. Besides, if you give up what you love for her, you'll just resent her later anyway, and she will never respect you. Maybe if you show her that you don't play that way, she'll realise that if she wants you, she needs to accept you for you.
You kida make me laugh though, when you think that a piece of ass > all. hehehe.
Seriously a game is never more important than your girlfriend period.
QFE!!!!
Seriously, some of these "responses" make me wonder. Honestly, a game over your girl? Some of you people have the wrong priorities in place.
No, some of us are just resistant to "the whip". Hey, when I was a young guy, I gave up shit for chicks too...and regretted it later when the bitch was gone. Sometime in my mid 20's I realised that women LOVE to try to control you, and LOVE to try to see what they can get you to sacrifice for them, and do for them.
So I turned the tables.
And I've been a lot happier since. If a woman doesn't accept me for me, then she can GTFO. There are PLENTY more where that came from, and you can fnd one that shares your interests and won't try to manipulate you.
I have a wedding band to prove it.
just learn to play as the sword fish guy, i could´t but u can try.
Exactly. If you take away the idea of gaming here, you can substitute any hobby or pasttime. She thinks you spend too much time playing in your softball league, hanging out with friends, working too much, whatever. Relationships should not be about sacrifice. They should be about compromise. The op told his girlfriend he needed 30 min and she got all bent out of shape. 30 minutes. He asked for a compromise, and she wanted all of his time. That's how I see this. If you feel you are with someone who is too demanding, then you are. Period. Regardless of what you are doing. Either she meets you half way, like you tried to do, or she takes a walk. Let her walk. Now you have all the time in the world for your hobby, and you may find someone along the way who is willing to share time, not demand time.
I guess I don't understand the point here. You are suggesting that a boyfriend should under no circumstance turn you down for sex. What if he wasn't in the mood? What if at that particular time he would rather do something else? If you need a man to satisfy you whenever you give an order, than that's fine. That's what you want, and I'm sure you'll find plenty of dudes who'll jump when you snap. But this isn't a compromise. This is your way or the highway. If a boyfriend turns you down because he's busy at that time, shouldn't you respect his space and wait until the time is right for both of you?
I don't really see it as choosing raiding over sex. Its a choice of how you want to spend your time together, knowing that you are still individuals with personal needs, especially a need for independence. I think that concept is really lost here. And back to the op, the poor guy asked for half an hour. I can't even imagine how she would react if he said he didn't feel well.
hmmmmm get laid or play a kids game.... such a hard question. Seriously, get a life if you have to make a question. WoW is not something that should get between you and your gf. You should go to a internet rehab in china if you pick the game.
Im sorry but the truth hurts.
cool down on WOW and be at her beck and call for a while eventually she will want her own space and then you can start playing WOW again and the only time she will bug you is when she needs money.
yeah, there's a great idea.....sacrifice your hobby and source of enjoyment in the interest of being some bitch's piggy-bank.
Well if you are playing WoW more you obviously like it better than your girlfriend, so pick WoW. I see no need to give up your interests for another person who wants to monopolize your time, because if you start that now, it will not stop, and not just in your next relationship but everything, it is easy to give up bits of yourself for others, easier to let others dictate for you, much harder to say no.
Or you could go with the macho twat tactic where sex trumps everything and you should grovel for it like the loser you are.
So pick, stand or kneel.
Don't you worry little buddy. You're dealing with a man of honor. However, honor requires a higher percentage of profit
yeah, there's a great idea.....sacrifice your hobby and source of enjoyment in the interest of being some bitch's piggy-bank.
oooops forgot the <sarcasm/> tag for people like you my bad.
yeah, there's a great idea.....sacrifice your hobby and source of enjoyment in the interest of being some bitch's piggy-bank.
oooops forgot the <sarcasm/> tag for people like you my bad.
I kinda had a feeling, but intonation is a hard thing to convey in text form.
Raiding Ulduar 25.. that's epic. Go for it.
My GF always comes up behind me and does that when im in the middle of something. Its her way of trying to throw me off in the game so i screw up and get off, then pay attention to her XD. Just ditch the WoW man.
I didn't want to read through the insane number of pages of response but it's tough to tell who's actually at fault from this post.
If by hobby you mean you play 8-10 hours a week, then it is most likely her and she is too needy.
If by hobby you mean obsession and you play 6-8 hours a night after being gone for work or school all during the day, then it is you at fault and you need to play less. People who play for that many hours a day neglect anyone in their life and it is fairly normal for the neglected person to leave.
Plus unless she is not attractive then hell go afk for a few and give her the goods when she starts kissing your neck, girls don't like to feel they are less attractive then a video game.
Log into WoW, delete your toons, cancel the account and toss the disks out.
A video game is not worth it man, trust me I've been there.
I played UO hardcore, and I put it before my marriage. Now it wasn't the only factor, but because I was so consumed with UO I didn't set time aside to work on the other issues. After she left, UO didn't bring me happiness any longer and I quit. I still play MMOs, and I'm married a second time, but I always moderate my game time and I never let it get in the way of my family and friends.
On a lighter note: www.youtube.com/watch
This always makes me laugh and helps me to keep things in perspective.
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I gave up girls for video games. Never looked back.
Now my bros are married and hate their lives and I'm a single rich guy. I get to buy anything I want and spend my time however I feel like it. They're slaves.
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Lol Yes she does, any time I am in a important raid it seems like shes in the mood. its a conspiricy against me lol
Your GF is a bitch, that's what that means. She only does it when you play WoW to test her power & control over you as if it's a competition between her & WoW. Something tells me she wears the pants in the relationship. I'm sorry but your relationship is not going anywhere if you plan to retain your balls.
I suggest you put your foot down and make a point that she either respects your hobby or hit the road. It is game, but you play it for a reason because you enjoy it. It has these overly time consuming events called raids which require an allotment of time. Your job is to manage your time but she needs to respect that.
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I lost a lot of girlfriends because of PC games. The problem was never the PC gaming hobby. I would be just as obsessive with any hobby. Its just how I am.
Nothing ever worked until I found the right girl. I even had to move out of America just to find her. I married a beautiful little Thai gamer chick. Now she follows me around as a healer in whatever MMOG I play. She's the best damn wife and the best damn healer I've ever seen too.
My advice is that unless you're totally in love with her or aren't usually an obsessive person and you just got wierd with WoW, then find another girl. Most American girls are FTL.
It's over, OP. If I hazard to guess, she's already got her sights on someone new...or someone has got their sights on her and is making his play. And he will succeed, because he can give her the attention you can't.
So might as well go back to WoW at this point, because that's all you have right now.
BUT
If you have any hope of having another girl, good real experiences, and a healthy, well-balanced life; I recommend taking steps to get yourself clean.
Fortunately, it's really easy to take the first step. The first step is to press the cancel button. You can always reverse the decision, so don't think of it as any big thing. So just press it, and take note of how you feel after you do it.
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Did you do it yet?
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Did you do it now?
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Go on, tell us how it felt to press the cancel button. You can PM me if you don't want to share it here.
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I find letting others dictate my life has never made me happy.
Forget your girlfriend if she doesn't want to do the things you want to obviously you picked the wrong girl.
Find one like the one I got, she plays WoW with me!
We started on FFXI and moved to WoW and we're going to go play Aion together.
Having a gamer chick as a girl is the best, trust me. Also it really helps when you live together... I mean honestly she always plays a healer and I'm a tank, theres half a party right there!
That's what I'm sayin', man!!! Gamer chix rock!
Why stick with a girl that doesn't "get it" and is ALWAYS going to be up your ass about gaming?? Why intentionally pair up long-term with someone who you don't mesh with??
It's only going to cause problems in the long run anyway....you'll end up divorced, and bitter, and resentful...and probably broke.