Originally posted by VixenHeart Sounds to me you want things handed to you in life.
Sorry this is so OT, but I think our friend kuzzle needs to be not ridiculed, but understood so he doesn't become altogether usless but find his niche of helpfulness.
I understand him. Going from personal experience, and hoping that I am not shooting too mucjh in the dark here, he can imagine a perfect world in his head, but when he looks out, he sees all the imperfections, all at the same time, and it falls way shorter as compared to the world he expects to find. Now, some people see that as a call to work, to fix it all up, to change that which is not perfect, etc. Others see it and they realize the task is infinite and it's really utopian, and they just collapse with that realization, mostly overwhlemed with frustration or depression. If you're a motivated person, you just don't understand that because you don't find yourself in that state of mind everyday, continuously almost. And vice-versa, obviously. The lazy (or overwhelmed) people don't understand how the motivated people, the go-getters, etc can launch themselves at life with such energy and vigor.
Hey, I'm on the lazy side and the best advice I have for him is to try not see it all at the same time, all the time, not to be overwhelmed and to take it one step at a time. Easy to say, but hard to do, I know. Most everyday I think my life is completely useless and I should be dead anyways. But ya know, that's when I am left thinking inside my head. If I start interacting with other people, as the day goes along, etc, it starts to fade away a bit more and I find a bit more purpose. Don't get me wrong though, I am not here to "change the world", just nudge it a bit everyday in the right direction if I can afford to. If you try to change the world u will see that your efforst will yield modest results, not nearly as close as you thought they would and completely bust your brain thinking about this and die drowning in frustration once again.
I myself come out here to the forums and get in arguments about my ideals and what I believe etc, thinking that maybe, just maybe if I argue enough with people they will see it the same as I do. I get so focused on this sometimes, that I can't sleep. Like last week, my girlfriend just told me to not visit the forums for a while becuase, u guessed it, I was getting more and more and more frustrated to the point where I was close to snapping. Add to that the crappy news and it's a sure cocktail not to fall asleep at night, so I realized that it had completely taken over me and that, again, I had created a perfect situation in my head and the frustrations of not achieving it IMMEDIATLY were consuming my will to live. Some people just aren't meant to take life by the horns because in their head, life is already a very tame bull, and to see the real outside life still fighting with u, just makes u want to drop the fight altogether and go play with the tame bull instead (your thoughts).
I hope that eventually you will find a job or an activity in life which will not drain you excessivelly like "life altogether" does, and at the same time, it will help the greater cause. It's one hell of a thing to do for people like us, believe me.
Look at me, I fight spam daily, it helps the internet becoming a better, cleaner, faster and more productive tool for humanity. But I know I am not out there fighting the real battles in the trenches, for peace in the middle east, lobbying politicians, convincing people to recycle in massive protests and campaigns, or trying to find the cure for AIDS, because, well, I'd drive myself absolutely crazy, literally. I'd fall into depression in a snap, that's not even a doubt, lol I know so because I have been there many times.
To those who can, congratulations, you came out that way, go change the world fearlessly and boldly, we support you as long as what you are trying to achieve are the right things to do. We'll stay behind you and do the other trivial but helpful details. We don't want to be special, we just want to be left alone.
Cheers to that, Mith! ...Ok, well, didn't understand the bit about how an arguement could screw up my life, but... Well, cheers to the rest of it? Yeah...
Originally posted by Kuzzle Cheers to that, Mith! ...Ok, well, didn't understand the bit about how an arguement could screw up my life, but... Well, cheers to the rest of it? Yeah...
Well, simple things can motivate you to do really weird stuff.....................
Just trust me on this one, I've got experience.
We barely remember who or what came before this precious moment; We are choosing to be here right now -Tool, Parabola
I sleep about 5 hours a night. Part of the problem is my roommate, who gets up for work 3 hours before I do, has some disorder where he has to slam every cupboard and door and make as much noise as possible. Not quite sure if it's an AMA recognized malady or not. I'm a notoriously light sleeper, and pretty much anything can wake me up. I also toss and turn a lot, and it takes forever for me to fall back asleep. Used to just take NyQuil to knock me out in college, but built up tolerance lol. Now I just go mining in EVE for hour or so before bed, that usually bores me right into slumber.
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I understand him. Going from personal experience, and hoping that I am not shooting too mucjh in the dark here, he can imagine a perfect world in his head, but when he looks out, he sees all the imperfections, all at the same time, and it falls way shorter as compared to the world he expects to find.
Now, some people see that as a call to work, to fix it all up, to change that which is not perfect, etc. Others see it and they realize the task is infinite and it's really utopian, and they just collapse with that realization, mostly overwhlemed with frustration or depression.
If you're a motivated person, you just don't understand that because you don't find yourself in that state of mind everyday, continuously almost. And vice-versa, obviously.
The lazy (or overwhelmed) people don't understand how the motivated people, the go-getters, etc can launch themselves at life with such energy and vigor.
Hey, I'm on the lazy side and the best advice I have for him is to try not see it all at the same time, all the time, not to be overwhelmed and to take it one step at a time. Easy to say, but hard to do, I know. Most everyday I think my life is completely useless and I should be dead anyways. But ya know, that's when I am left thinking inside my head. If I start interacting with other people, as the day goes along, etc, it starts to fade away a bit more and I find a bit more purpose. Don't get me wrong though, I am not here to "change the world", just nudge it a bit everyday in the right direction if I can afford to. If you try to change the world u will see that your efforst will yield modest results, not nearly as close as you thought they would and completely bust your brain thinking about this and die drowning in frustration once again.
I myself come out here to the forums and get in arguments about my ideals and what I believe etc, thinking that maybe, just maybe if I argue enough with people they will see it the same as I do. I get so focused on this sometimes, that I can't sleep. Like last week, my girlfriend just told me to not visit the forums for a while becuase, u guessed it, I was getting more and more and more frustrated to the point where I was close to snapping. Add to that the crappy news and it's a sure cocktail not to fall asleep at night, so I realized that it had completely taken over me and that, again, I had created a perfect situation in my head and the frustrations of not achieving it IMMEDIATLY were consuming my will to live. Some people just aren't meant to take life by the horns because in their head, life is already a very tame bull, and to see the real outside life still fighting with u, just makes u want to drop the fight altogether and go play with the tame bull instead (your thoughts).
I hope that eventually you will find a job or an activity in life which will not drain you excessivelly like "life altogether" does, and at the same time, it will help the greater cause. It's one hell of a thing to do for people like us, believe me.
Look at me, I fight spam daily, it helps the internet becoming a better, cleaner, faster and more productive tool for humanity. But I know I am not out there fighting the real battles in the trenches, for peace in the middle east, lobbying politicians, convincing people to recycle in massive protests and campaigns, or trying to find the cure for AIDS, because, well, I'd drive myself absolutely crazy, literally. I'd fall into depression in a snap, that's not even a doubt, lol I know so because I have been there many times.
To those who can, congratulations, you came out that way, go change the world fearlessly and boldly, we support you as long as what you are trying to achieve are the right things to do. We'll stay behind you and do the other trivial but helpful details. We don't want to be special, we just want to be left alone.
Heck I don't even like to win!
-virtual tourist
want your game back?
Well, simple things can motivate you to do really weird stuff.....................
Just trust me on this one, I've got experience.
We barely remember who or what came before this precious moment;
We are choosing to be here right now -Tool, Parabola
*Yawn*
Everyone has problems. It's called life. Why do people get so upset when someone says "Stop being a baby, and grow up."
Why do people get so mad? And I didn't even read half the crap people wrote. This topic is too emo.
Click on me. This is what I think of the OP.