Rikimaru's Lessons: #1 - The Tips to Better Confidence.

Rikimaru_X · August 2006

Well. I thought I will give you guys a little advice on being a little confident for when approaching women. I have a much bigger topic in store later. Confidence can be gained in many different ways but let me tell you the basics:

1. Hygiene - When you feel "fresh" you will feel good. You won't need to back away when you stink or take distance from a girl as a factor. If your over 15, wear some cologne. I really don't prefer things like AXE, only when I'm in the gym or sometimes at work. You know all the other basics.

2. Music - Listening to some music you like will mellow you out a bit and calm the nerves. I suggest some slow music, R&B, Jazz (a little) or Soul. Some things like R. Kelly (ALL), Maroon 5 (Sunday Morning), Maxwell (Fortunate). I don't think banging your head to some hard rock or spittn flows with rap will help you much.

3. Bling - Well this is for some people. You know maybe if you wear a chain, bracelet, or ring you will feel a little luck on your side. I myself wear a sivler chain, ring, and bracelet (bracelet only on day off's). I also wear a gold and silver watch (but the watch is fake...looks good though). Sometimes a little bling will get eyes looking your way. Don't be naked, wear a little somthing, somtihing. Don't have to be real actually. Just a little fashion and fashion is not what your wearing, but how you wear it.

4. No Internet - No myspace, No neopets, No dating services, No Instant Messaging. Find girls around your area, not though the net.

5. Deep Breath - Take a deep breath & exhale before your approach. Calms the nerves, soul and body. It gets you prepaired and keeps you words on lock and not stuttering.

6. Increase Social Skills - Rasing your social skills is as easy as having a conversation with a stranger. Just go with the flow and remain interesting. It's like playing Oblivion.

7. Rasing your Moral - Do things to raise your moral before the hunt begins. I like to wear my ninja head gear and foot gear and dance to MJ. Mooooonwallllkk. Doing things you like to do raises your moral and makes you happy.

8. Smile - Smiling and showing experessions well alwasy increase confidence.

9. Working Out - Loving your body is loving yourself which increases your confidence. Work out and stay in shape. Feeling good about your body increases your confidence dramatically. Lift some dumbbells to tone up, do some sit-ups and push-ups a day.

10. Mirror Mirror - Take a look in the mirror. Flex, pose, smile, kiss, taunt, look at yourself in the mirror. When you can look at yourself and say "hell I'm a sexy looking guy" or "damn I'm hot". It increases your confidence and decreases the worry of thinking that you need to check up on yourself before approaching a lady.

That is about all I got for now about Confidence. If I think up some more stuff I'll update it. Tell me what you think guys. Also I was thinking about making a "Words of Wisdom" podcast and me just give you tips while your on the go and stuff. Would you guys like that?

noname12345 · August 2006

I like to stare at handicap people. Makes me feel better about myself.

Good advice riki.

albinofreak · August 2006

Whats the point of this thread? Remember Rikimaru, we dont want those unable to attract mates to breed, as it weakens the species. Stop giving them hints! More girls for us males with the skills.

Anywho, on a more serious note. Should also add "Work out." Not necessarily to the point of being a beefcake, but being in good shape is good for your confidence. If you look in the mirror and flex your muscles out of habit and look decent, its a good sign. Plus no chick wants a big fat dude. Well, some do, but hey. Plus it'll give you confidence that you will look good when the clothes come off and its time to get down to business... cause thats what its all about.

Kuzzle · August 2006

Originally posted by albinofreak

Whats the point of this thread? Remember Rikimaru, we dont want those unable to attract mates to breed, as it weakens the species. Stop giving them hints! More girls for us males with the skills.
Anywho, on a more serious note. Should also add "Work out." Not necessarily to the point of being a beefcake, but being in good shape is good for your confidence. If you look in the mirror and flex your muscles out of habit and look decent, its a good sign. Plus no chick wants a big fat dude. Well, some do, but hey. Plus it'll give you confidence that you will look good when the clothes come off and its time to get down to business... cause thats what its all about.

Just don't do it when they can see you. It'll make you look more arrogant than confident, and I don't know that anyone likes that. *shrug* Also, try too hard, or it'll be obvious, and you'll look like a jackass. Er, well, I think, anyway...

(Edit: Oh, and fresh breath. I always carry mints with me, generally two kinds. Not so much for confidence and for because I love mints, but... You get the point. If your breath smells like an ass, you'll make one of yourself. Riki touched on this, just saying that "breath fresheners" are never a bad idea. Well, the ones that burn like hell suck, but that's a different matter. I don't like cinnamon gum! )

Rikimaru_X · August 2006

Originally posted by albinofreak

Whats the point of this thread? Remember Rikimaru, we dont want those unable to attract mates to breed, as it weakens the species. Stop giving them hints! More girls for us males with the skills.
Anywho, on a more serious note. Should also add "Work out." Not necessarily to the point of being a beefcake, but being in good shape is good for your confidence. If you look in the mirror and flex your muscles out of habit and look decent, its a good sign. Plus no chick wants a big fat dude. Well, some do, but hey. Plus it'll give you confidence that you will look good when the clothes come off and its time to get down to business... cause thats what its all about.

LOL. I forgot about lifting weights man. Hey man, there are really some guys who do look cute/hot to girls, but they think that the girls should come to them, or that they don't have no game.

albinofreak · August 2006

Well I meant in the mirror in your bathroom as you're getting ready. If you flex your muscles in public and are serious about it, you are a total jerk. If you're by yourself and can think "I look pretty good," that's bound to make you confident. Also I meant just a reasonable amount of working out, cause I've always felt that if you work out too much it makes it seem as though you have too much time to spend by yourself at the gym. That might work for skanks, but not really for quality girls that you'll want to see the next morning.

Rikimaru_X · August 2006

I agree with you albino. Girls want a guy who is fit, but not necessary a buff MOFO (no offence to the guys whom were born "big" in body size).

grimweeper · August 2006

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they say it works and works well, anyone here try it yet? i might give it a shot in a couple years or when i have $100 just to dish out on trying something that might not even work.

sidebuster · August 2006

Originally posted by Rikimaru_X
(no offence to the guys whom were born "big" in body size).

*sniffle* no offense taken ::::21:: *runs away crying*

Hochete · August 2006

people like Rikimaru make me want to kill everybody.

Calmae · August 2006

Originally posted by Hohbein

people like Rikimaru make me want to kill everybody.

Is he releasing vital secrets?

Hochete · August 2006

Originally posted by Calmae

Originally posted by Hohbein

people like Rikimaru make me want to kill everybody.

Is he releasing vital secrets?

No, it's just that somebody with over 6000 posts on an MMO forum trying to feed people advise about 'self confidence' is somehow quite depressing.

Kuzzle · August 2006

Originally posted by Hohbein

people like Rikimaru make me want to kill everybody.

#1: Because his post was all about "getting the girls", and was, therefore, disrespectful to women? Ya know, 'cuz it's, like, saying they're prizes, and, therefore, objects? Yeah, well, you get used to people acting like that, unfortuneately...

#2: Because you can't get a girl? (Arg, now I'm sounding like #1...)

#3: Because ninjas scare you to the point where you become a homicidal maniac?

Hochete · August 2006

Originally posted by Kuzzle

Originally posted by Hohbein

people like Rikimaru make me want to kill everybody.

#1: Because his post was all about "getting the girls", and was, therefore, disrespectful to women? Ya know, 'cuz it's, like, saying they're prizes, and, therefore, objects? Yeah, well, you get used to people acting like that, unfortuneately...

#2: Because you can't get a girl? (Arg, now I'm sounding like #1...)

#3: Because ninjas scare you to the point where you become a homicidal maniac?

see my post previous to this one, it answers your questions.

Vanillacream · August 2006

Originally posted by Hohbein

Originally posted by Calmae

Originally posted by Hohbein

people like Rikimaru make me want to kill everybody.

Is he releasing vital secrets?

No, it's just that somebody with over 6000 posts on an MMO forum trying to feed people advise about 'self confidence' is somehow quite depressing.

ROFL, so true.

WantsumBier · August 2006

Originally posted by Rikimaru_X
I agree with you albino. Girls want a guy who is fit, but not necessary a buff MOFO (no offence to the guys whom were born "big" in body size).

*Growl, continues to gnaw on an ox femor*

Neanderthal · August 2006

Originally posted by Rikimaru_X
Well. I thought I will give you guys a little advice on being a little confident for when approaching women. I have a much bigger topic in store later. Confidence can be gained in many different ways but let me tell you the basics:

1. Hygiene - When you feel "fresh" you will feel good. You won't need to back away when you stink or take distance from a girl as a factor. If your over 15, wear some cologne. I really don't prefer things like AXE, only when I'm in the gym or sometimes at work. You know all the other basics.

Don't obsess over it or you'll come across as a pansy. Excessive preening is for girly men.
Feeling "fresh"? Um, these words should never come out of a mans mouth. Next thing you know you'll be telling us to douche regularly.

2. Music - Listening to some music you like will mellow you out a bit and calm the nerves. I suggest some slow music, R&B, Jazz (a little) or Soul. Some things like R. Kelly (ALL), Maroon 5 (Sunday Morning), Maxwell (Fortunate). I don't think banging your head to some hard rock or spittn flows with rap will help you much.

So you're telling us to be lounge lizards?

3. Bling - Well this is for some people. You know maybe if you wear a chain, bracelet, or ring you will feel a little luck on your side. I myself wear a sivler chain, ring, and bracelet (bracelet only on day off's). I also wear a gold and silver watch (but the watch is fake...looks good though). Sometimes a little bling will get eyes looking your way. Don't be naked, wear a little somthing, somtihing. Don't have to be real actually. Just a little fashion and fashion is not what your wearing, but how you wear it.

Jewelry is for women. Men who tart themselves up with shiny things look effeminate.

4. No Internet - No myspace, No neopets, No dating services, No Instant Messaging. Find girls around your area, not though the net.

I'll go along with that.

5. Deep Breath - Take a deep breath & exhale before your approach. Calms the nerves, soul and body. It gets you prepaired and keeps you words on lock and not stuttering.

You're over doing it man. You're not going to war. You're making too big a deal out of this. If you stand around thinking about it and "bracing yourself" for the big plunge you're just going to make yourself more nervous. If you see a woman you like just go up and talk to her. Flirt with her. Hit on her. It not that big a deal. If you get shot down just laugh it off on move on to the next one.

6. Increase Social Skills - Rasing your social skills is as easy as having a conversation with a stranger. Just go with the flow and remain interesting. It's like playing Oblivion.

Um, ok...whatever.

7. Rasing your Moral - Do things to raise your moral before the hunt begins. I like to wear my ninja head gear and foot gear and dance to MJ. Mooooonwallllkk. Doing things you like to do raises your moral and makes you happy.

Are you gay?

8. Smile - Smiling and showing experessions well alwasy increase confidence.

You sound kinda gay.

9. Working Out - Loving your body is loving yourself which increases your confidence. Work out and stay in shape. Feeling good about your body increases your confidence dramatically. Lift some dumbbells to tone up, do some sit-ups and push-ups a day.

You took a perfectly good suggestion and ruined it by saying "Loving your body is loving yourself." Working out will boost your ego but not if you stand around quoting Stewart Smally.

10. Mirror Mirror - Take a look in the mirror. Flex, pose, smile, kiss, taunt, look at yourself in the mirror. When you can look at yourself and say "hell I'm a sexy looking guy" or "damn I'm hot". It increases your confidence and decreases the worry of thinking that you need to check up on yourself before approaching a lady.

Ok, that's it. You really are gay if you kiss yourself in the mirror.

That is about all I got for now about Confidence. If I think up some more stuff I'll update it. Tell me what you think guys. Also I was thinking about making a "Words of Wisdom" podcast and me just give you tips while your on the go and stuff. Would you guys like that?

Guys, don't put too much stock in all this crap. It is a fact of life that women can sense guys who over-think this stuff. If you want to project confidence don't worry and fret about all this crap. When you see a woman you like just go up and make it clear to her that you are interested. It's that simple.

And you will be rejected more often than you are successfull. That's just the way it is. Be a man for gods sake and don't worry about it.

WantsumBier · August 2006

Originally posted by Kuzzle

Originally posted by Hohbein

people like Rikimaru make me want to kill everybody.

#1: Because his post was all about "getting the girls", and was, therefore, disrespectful to women? Ya know, 'cuz it's, like, saying they're prizes, and, therefore, objects? Yeah, well, you get used to people acting like that, unfortuneately...

#2: Because you can't get a girl? (Arg, now I'm sounding like #1...)

#3: Because ninjas scare you to the point where you become a homicidal maniac?

I think some women like the idea of being a prize. The key is the person that wins the prize. If it is a person she does not like, then it is sexual harasment...if it is someone she does like then it is "flirting".

Wolfjunkie · August 2006

Originally posted by WantsumBier

Originally posted by Kuzzle

Originally posted by Hohbein

people like Rikimaru make me want to kill everybody.

#1: Because his post was all about "getting the girls", and was, therefore, disrespectful to women? Ya know, 'cuz it's, like, saying they're prizes, and, therefore, objects? Yeah, well, you get used to people acting like that, unfortuneately...

#2: Because you can't get a girl? (Arg, now I'm sounding like #1...)

#3: Because ninjas scare you to the point where you become a homicidal maniac?

I think some women like the idea of being a prize. The key is the person that wins the prize. If it is a person she does not like, then it is sexual harasment...if it is someone she does like then it is "flirting".

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DaEm0n · August 2006

Originally posted by WantsumBier

Originally posted by Kuzzle

Originally posted by Hohbein

people like Rikimaru make me want to kill everybody.

#1: Because his post was all about "getting the girls", and was, therefore, disrespectful to women? Ya know, 'cuz it's, like, saying they're prizes, and, therefore, objects? Yeah, well, you get used to people acting like that, unfortuneately...

#2: Because you can't get a girl? (Arg, now I'm sounding like #1...)

#3: Because ninjas scare you to the point where you become a homicidal maniac?

I think some women like the idea of being a prize. The key is the person that wins the prize. If it is a person she does not like, then it is sexual harasment...if it is someone she does like then it is "flirting".

Just like how, if a guy hits a girl first, it's an assualt. But, if a girl hits a guy first, it's self-defense?

Rikimaru_X · August 2006

Originally posted by Neanderthal

Originally posted by Rikimaru_X
Well. I thought I will give you guys a little advice on being a little confident for when approaching women. I have a much bigger topic in store later. Confidence can be gained in many different ways but let me tell you the basics:

1. Hygiene - When you feel "fresh" you will feel good. You won't need to back away when you stink or take distance from a girl as a factor. If your over 15, wear some cologne. I really don't prefer things like AXE, only when I'm in the gym or sometimes at work. You know all the other basics.

Don't obsess over it or you'll come across as a pansy. Excessive preening is for girly men.
Feeling "fresh"? Um, these words should never come out of a mans mouth. Next thing you know you'll be telling us to douche regularly.

2. Music - Listening to some music you like will mellow you out a bit and calm the nerves. I suggest some slow music, R&B, Jazz (a little) or Soul. Some things like R. Kelly (ALL), Maroon 5 (Sunday Morning), Maxwell (Fortunate). I don't think banging your head to some hard rock or spittn flows with rap will help you much.

So you're telling us to be lounge lizards?

3. Bling - Well this is for some people. You know maybe if you wear a chain, bracelet, or ring you will feel a little luck on your side. I myself wear a sivler chain, ring, and bracelet (bracelet only on day off's). I also wear a gold and silver watch (but the watch is fake...looks good though). Sometimes a little bling will get eyes looking your way. Don't be naked, wear a little somthing, somtihing. Don't have to be real actually. Just a little fashion and fashion is not what your wearing, but how you wear it.

Jewelry is for women. Men who tart themselves up with shiny things look effeminate.

4. No Internet - No myspace, No neopets, No dating services, No Instant Messaging. Find girls around your area, not though the net.

I'll go along with that.

5. Deep Breath - Take a deep breath & exhale before your approach. Calms the nerves, soul and body. It gets you prepaired and keeps you words on lock and not stuttering.

You're over doing it man. You're not going to war. You're making too big a deal out of this. If you stand around thinking about it and "bracing yourself" for the big plunge you're just going to make yourself more nervous. If you see a woman you like just go up and talk to her. Flirt with her. Hit on her. It not that big a deal. If you get shot down just laugh it off on move on to the next one.

6. Increase Social Skills - Rasing your social skills is as easy as having a conversation with a stranger. Just go with the flow and remain interesting. It's like playing Oblivion.

Um, ok...whatever.

7. Rasing your Moral - Do things to raise your moral before the hunt begins. I like to wear my ninja head gear and foot gear and dance to MJ. Mooooonwallllkk. Doing things you like to do raises your moral and makes you happy.

Are you gay?

8. Smile - Smiling and showing experessions well alwasy increase confidence.

You sound kinda gay.

9. Working Out - Loving your body is loving yourself which increases your confidence. Work out and stay in shape. Feeling good about your body increases your confidence dramatically. Lift some dumbbells to tone up, do some sit-ups and push-ups a day.

You took a perfectly good suggestion and ruined it by saying "Loving your body is loving yourself." Working out will boost your ego but not if you stand around quoting Stewart Little.

10. Mirror Mirror - Take a look in the mirror. Flex, pose, smile, kiss, taunt, look at yourself in the mirror. When you can look at yourself and say "hell I'm a sexy looking guy" or "damn I'm hot". It increases your confidence and decreases the worry of thinking that you need to check up on yourself before approaching a lady.

Ok, that's it. You really are gay if you kiss yourself in the mirror.

That is about all I got for now about Confidence. If I think up some more stuff I'll update it. Tell me what you think guys. Also I was thinking about making a "Words of Wisdom" podcast and me just give you tips while your on the go and stuff. Would you guys like that?

Guys, don't put too much stock in all this crap. It is a fact of life that women can sense guys who over-think this stuff. If you want to project confidence don't worry and fret about all this crap. When you see a woman you like just go up and make it clear to her that you are interested. It's that simple.

And you will be rejected more often than you are successfull. That's just the way it is. Be a man for gods sake and don't worry about it.

Your responces got me a good laugh. I'm suprised you took somthing so seriously to make comments like that. I don't ask people take things word by word. A tip is a tip and it can be taken or ignored. I don't think you been around to know about the good deals of help I give to people about women, BUT I'm only good at that 1 on 1. Usually most members ask me what's the best hitline and I tell them I don't use them.

The tip's to confidence can be gained anyway depending on the person. A man should not overthink thus making them fustrated...unless you know and see the girl every once in a while. You can talk to a girl, but this is not to help you talk to the girl, but to clear the mind of things you may think about while talking to the girl. You should see one of my earler topics and you could tell how clearly ahead I am with you.

This is not only about with women (by some of the tips), but to make youself feel good. I can tell most of you feel unconfortable about yourselves and a person must feel confort to give it. You just took the tips too seriously.

Rikimaru_X · August 2006

Ha. Don't jump to conclusions...to the some of you. You can't assume I think women are objects or gifts off of this. This lesson is mainly to make you feel good about yourself and take off the pressure that you may have on your sholders. This has nothing to do with talking to the girl, but just your preperation to go outside and if you do get that chance....

I'm not feeding anybody infomation. You take what you need or read and increase. My post was never a factor on these forums. True reasons for me comming here is just for the community and to share my knowledge when needed.

Neanderthal · August 2006

Had to come back to this thread to do an edit. About a half hour after I posted I realized that I said "Stuart Little" where I meant to say "Stuart Smally."

If you saw that movie with the Stuart Smally character you'll understand. The whole first post reminded me a lot of that character.

Rikimaru_X · August 2006

I don't know man. Is that a good thing or an insult?

EDIT

Ehh, by the looks of that guy, seems like an insult. Well whatever bro, whatever makes you sleep. Not everyone is ment to accept such things as advice/help/tips/suggestions.

Neanderthal · August 2006

Surely you noticed that most of my responses were pretty tongue-in-cheek types of comments. You might be taking it a little too personally.

But if you want a honest, serious response then here it is. If you were serious about all of that crap then I very much doubt that you have ever gotten laid. Of course I can't tell how serious you were.

But if your approach to attracting women really involves a regular confidence building ritual of dressing up like a ninja and moonwalking and kissing yourself in a mirror; If you really think that a mans ability to accessorise with jewelry matters a lot; If you feel the need to preen in front of a mirror and tell yourself how hot you are (heh, I got the image of a guy looking coquettishly askance at his own reflection, flicking his hand limp-wristedly at himself and saying things like, "Oh, you're thuch a brute you big hunk of man-flesh!"); If you really get so wound up before talking to a woman that you have to stop and take a deep breath; If you were serious about all of that then I would be suprised if you have ever even touched a woman.

No offense intended. And you know the truth no matter what I think. But if you want my real opinion then that is it. I thought most of your advice was terrible and sounded like it was some sort of bad joke. Sort of like a comedy skit about a guy who is a complete loser with women but who tries to convince himself he's a ladies man with ridiculous schemes and tricks that never work.

So, since we can't hear each others tone of voice, let me just ask you..were you serious?

Hochete · August 2006

Originally posted by Rikimaru_X
This has nothing to do with talking to the girl, but just your preperation to go outside and if you do get that chance....

What I think annoys most people is the fact that you assume people here need help going outside! Sure, the stigma attached to MMO gamers would suggest they are 200lb geeks with nothing better to do than play games, but I think you'll find the majority actually leave perfectly normal, confident lives and need no help from a perfect stranger.

I don't mean to have a go here, Riki. I'm just saying that some people might take your 'lessons' as cockiness on your part. Offering people help with their self confidence and love lives really does make you look a bit big-headed and full of it.

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