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I discovered that I'm bisexual
Angyl
Member Posts: 160
Ok, so some of you may remember when I posted about the time when I wore a school-girl outfit to a party and got hit on by a lesbian. At that time I thought it was disgusting and ignored her, I was sober. Well, it kind of happened again, different situation... And I was drunk...
I let my guard down and the next thing I knew... (I won't post this because we have members under the age of 14 on this forum) ...and I think it got filmed, I don't remember exactly what happened...
Is this wrong? I guess I like guys and girls, I just feel so weird about it. I just don't think I can tell my parents because they are christians and they might get really mad, what the hell am I supposed to do? 
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I say give it all up. If you can pull off a school girl outfit, you could probably do porn. After your parents disown you, you might as well just go for it. Porn makes the (my) world go round. As for Christianity and all that dogma, porn is your new religion. Learn to be apathetic towards the world and your life of not enjoying sex and wearing too much makeup will take off.
The modern MMORPG is simply not worthy, of the acronym RPG. The straight grind and lack of atmosphere leave me with no choice. From this day forth, World of Warcraft, Everquest 2, and all the games like them shall be referred to as PIGCRAP. People In Guilds Constantly Raiding And Power-leveling
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@Mozis: Wow, forgot "/asshole_off"? It's just the way some people are. Being bisexual is not something that needs to be pitied in the first place. Another thing: the outfit being the obvious culprit? I hardly think so. Alcohol is more of a truth syrum than anything else, which could've triggered the "event" more than any outfit. Why don't you go run on home now to your catholicism and your discriminations.
@Angyl: Being bisexual is nothing to be ashamed of, and you definately want to tell your parents. They have no right to disown you for being who you are, and if they can't see that, then unfortunately they aren't the kind of people who are supposed to be parents. Just don't lie to yourself, and think things through to see if you've got your facts straight and build up your confidence for a, hopefully avoidable, worst-case scenario.
Je mettrai l'amour sur dos de moi.
That doesn't necessarily mean you're bi, but it definately means you shouldn't get drunk.
"Speaking haygywaygy or some other gibberish with your mum doesn't make you foreign."
-baff
No, just kidding.
well it depends. if your parents are "Heavy" christians, then they most likely WILL get mad. but this is a time where you have to put yourself above religion. don't try to change their view on the subject, its a waste of time. trying to let a religious person to have a diffrent view on the subject is like talking to a brick wall.
I'm not sure how old you are, or if you still live with your parents.
If you do, then it might be better to not tell them untill you move out. (unless you get a relation with a girl, then you don't have uch choice)
If you don't live with your parents, then just tell them. then its up to them what is more important to them, their daughter or blind faith,
I'm not sure you should consider yourself bi based on actions taken when you were drunk. Ask yourself this, would you do it again without drinking?
As for your parents, they may be upset about it, but such things are a part of who you are. More than likely, they will come to accept it.
No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.
Hemingway
ok, #1. Stay away from drinking. You obviously can't handle your liquor in the right way.
#2. Don't ever do it - Any of it - again.
#3. Confess to your parents the act, and ask them to help you overcome it.
#4. See #1.
"Fear not death; for the sooner we die, the longer shall we be immortal."
Because that's my opinion.
"Fear not death; for the sooner we die, the longer shall we be immortal."
Because that's my opinion.
Ooh, smart move, nothing to attack, even if I highly disagree with your sentiment
No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.
Hemingway
Because that's my opinion.
Really? and how did you came to that opinion? How did you came to the conclussion that its wrong?
So, you was with another chick - Boohoo, whats the farking deal? Just get over it, move on.
Want to ENJOY an mmo?
Dont start a guild and dont be a leader or volunteer to be coleader or captain.
Just play the damn game:)
Are you 100% sure you're bisexual? If you've only tried it while drunk, then you can't be sure. When you're sober, try watching something "naughty" with girls. Does it turn you on?
Anyways, if you are bisexual, then it's nothing to be ashamed of. Our sexuality is determined right from birth, so saying it a sin or anything is downright wrong(Believers will of course deny that the is case and say that the science is wrong). People might be disgusted(like your first reaction), but that's their choice and their problem. You'll have to learn to shrug such reactions off and be confident with yourself. Most important that you are happy with who you are.
So what to do with you parents?
Tell them. This is in fact a problem. And the longer you wait, the more the problem grows. Tell them now, and they'll have an easier time accepting it as you grow up. Wait till you have a possible full relationship with a girl, and it will be much harder for them accept.
Now here's the important part. If your parents try to convert you and use their religion, you'll have stand your ground and not giving in. It's probably the only way you have be happy.
The process of telling your parents will be painful for both you and your parents. I know this, not because I'm homo or bi(as straight as they get) but because I left the mormon church to because Agnostic. Telling them was very difficult and it took over 1.5 years till I reached the state where they accepted my choice and stopped trying getting be back to the church. It would be so easy to just jump back into the church, and I actually did once, causing more pain for me, my family and my friends, but it wouldn't take more than weeks till I felt like crap again.
Tell them, stand your ground, be confident with who you are, and ignore people who don't like you for being bisexual.
Because that's my opinion.
Really? and how did you came to that opinion? How did you came to the conclussion that its wrong?
Logic, and observation of nature.
"Fear not death; for the sooner we die, the longer shall we be immortal."
Because that's my opinion.
Really? and how did you came to that opinion? How did you came to the conclussion that its wrong?
Logic, and observation of nature.
Really? thats very intresting, did you know that homosexuality and bisexuality is part of nature?
Personally, I dont get off on watching two girls make out.
But my mind set is..."to each his own"
Now, How did it make you feel Angyl? Upset? Sick? twisted? If you dont like the experience then no you are not bi.
Talk to your parents, bible thumper, or headshrink. Your parents will work with you, if the love is there, I dont think they will hate you.
One of the wife's stupid rags...said...4 out of 10 females between the ages of 14-20 have had at least one bi encounter. Somthing to do the the cultrual change we are going through.
Because that's my opinion.
Really? and how did you came to that opinion? How did you came to the conclussion that its wrong?
Logic, and observation of nature.
Really? thats very intresting, did you know that homosexuality and bisexuality is part of nature?
Of course, how else could I come to my conclusion? By the observation of astronomy?
"Fear not death; for the sooner we die, the longer shall we be immortal."
Because that's my opinion.
Really? and how did you came to that opinion? How did you came to the conclussion that its wrong?
Logic, and observation of nature.
Really? thats very intresting, did you know that homosexuality and bisexuality is part of nature?
Of course, how else could I come to my conclusion? By the observation of astronomy?
If it is something natural, then I don't really understand how you came to the rediculous conslussion that its "wrong".
Because that's my opinion.
Really? and how did you came to that opinion? How did you came to the conclussion that its wrong?
Logic, and observation of nature.
Really? thats very intresting, did you know that homosexuality and bisexuality is part of nature?
Of course, how else could I come to my conclusion? By the observation of astronomy?
If it is something natural, then I don't really understand how you came to the rediculous conslussion that its "wrong".
Rape, murder, pedophilia, necrophilia - All very extreme cases, but for a point -- All occurring within the realm of nature. All by definition, "Natural".
"Fear not death; for the sooner we die, the longer shall we be immortal."
Because that's my opinion.
Really? and how did you came to that opinion? How did you came to the conclussion that its wrong?
Logic, and observation of nature.
Really? thats very intresting, did you know that homosexuality and bisexuality is part of nature?
Of course, how else could I come to my conclusion? By the observation of astronomy?
If it is something natural, then I don't really understand how you came to the rediculous conslussion that its "wrong".
Rape, murder, pedophilia, necrophilia - All very extreme cases, but for a point -- All occurring within the realm of nature. All by definition, "Natural".
The things you listed harm other people, so I can understand that althought its natural, its considered wrong. but a bisexual experience doesn't harm ANYONE.
Because that's my opinion.
Really? and how did you came to that opinion? How did you came to the conclussion that its wrong?
Logic, and observation of nature.
Really? thats very intresting, did you know that homosexuality and bisexuality is part of nature?
Of course, how else could I come to my conclusion? By the observation of astronomy?
If it is something natural, then I don't really understand how you came to the rediculous conslussion that its "wrong".
Rape, murder, pedophilia, necrophilia - All very extreme cases, but for a point -- All occurring within the realm of nature. All by definition, "Natural".
The things you listed harm other people, so I can understand that althought its natural, its considered wrong. but a bisexual experience doesn't harm ANYONE.
Necrophilia doesn't, they're dead. Pedophilia being villified is only a product of the Christianization of western culture.
Some Native American tribes such as the Koniagas practiced pedophilia as a cultural norm, as well as the greeks, romans, chinese, japanese, many middle-eastern countries. Some believed that it was good for the mental and physical growth of the (usually) young man.
Rape, although harming, comes down to the very basic instinct of a humans primal urges - The urge to procreate. Now if looking at this on a complete "natural" scale, the need for procreation far surpasses any mental harm that may come to the unwilling participant.
But in the end, most of these crimes comes down to one very simple fact - Egocentrism. One so involved with ones own being that they care not if it harms people directly or indirectly as long as they attain the desires they seek for.
"Fear not death; for the sooner we die, the longer shall we be immortal."